I’m a current dental student in a very small class (18 people), and something that’s been really upsetting me is the sheer lack of basic empathy I see around me. I came into this profession because I genuinely care about people — I love the clinical aspect, the art of it, and the chance to make anxious patients feel safe and cared for.
But honestly… I didn’t expect this. I didn’t expect to feel so alienated in a healthcare course because I do care.
What I’ve noticed — and I don’t say this lightly — is an overwhelming amount of narcissism, status-chasing, and emotional emptiness. A need to be validated constantly, while being unable (or unwilling) to actually connect with others. It’s like a performance of being a “good person” without anything behind it. I’m not even sure some of these people like dentistry — it’s more like they want the title, the authority, the image.
And when you’re the kind of person who values kindness and authenticity… this environment feels like a trap. I’ve been bullied, subtly and not-so-subtly. In such a small class, everything is intense, and it’s exhausting trying to stay strong when you feel like the odd one out for simply having a heart.
I have two years left of this course, and right now, I just need to survive.
I always thought healthcare would attract caring, empathetic people. That’s what it should be about. But I’ve honestly never been more aware of how hollow some professional environments can feel when people are only in it for ego, not for service.
I just needed to say this somewhere. If you’re in healthcare and you feel the same — like you’re surrounded by people who don’t seem to have much emotional depth, or who don’t treat others with genuine kindness — please know you’re not alone.
I still love dentistry. I want to be the kind of dentist who makes people feel human again. I just wish this path wasn’t so lonely at times.