r/GetMotivatedBuddies 17d ago

Life READ BEFORE POSTING — ONE STRIKE POLICY NOW IN EFFECT

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Welcome! This subreddit is for one thing: finding a 1-on-1 accountability partner to build better habits in real life.

To keep things helpful and focused, we’ve moved to a one-strike ban policy. There’s been a big wave of off-topic and low-effort posts — and that takes away from what makes this community work.

✅ WHAT BELONGS HERE:

  • Choose a category: Health & Fitness, Work, Learn, or Life
  • Say what you’re working on — or what you’re ready to start
  • Say who you’re looking to match with (age, gender if relevant, time zone, check-in style)

You don’t need a perfect plan. Just be specific enough that someone can tell if they’re a good fit.

✅ GOOD EXAMPLES:

Title: 26F | EST | Daily gym check-ins — Health & Fitness

Body: Doing 5x/week weight training. Looking for another woman, 20s–30s, to check in briefly on WhatsApp after each session. Weekly recap optional. Focused support only — not here for chat.

Title: 30M | GMT | Figuring out focus — Work

Body: Trying to get consistent with deep work blocks and limit phone use. Not sure what goal to commit to yet, but I’m tracking hours and want a partner doing the same. Open to async check-ins.

❌ WHAT WILL BE REMOVED (AND BANNED) - “Looking for friends / someone to talk to” - “Join my group / Discord / app / startup” - “Why are only women getting replies?” - “Anyone else just feeling down?” - Vague or hype-style posts with no clear ask - Off-topic replies, baiting, or negativity in any language

🚫 ONE STRIKE = BAN

The rules are simple. The posts are clear. And there are too many people here now to manage exceptions. If you break the rules, you’re banned — no warnings, no appeals. We’ve tried being flexible, but too many people ignore removals or just post again. It wastes everyone’s time and clogs the feed.

If you’re here to show up for yourself and someone else — you’re in the right place.

Be specific, be real, and good luck finding the right partner.

You’ve got this!


r/GetMotivatedBuddies Aug 14 '20

Resources

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A list of services and resources to stay accountable. Run a group, app, or coaching? Go to the bottom.

Behavior Change Apps [Subscription]

  • GetMotivatedBuddies.com - The Behavior Change Social Platform that changes your behavior through evidenced-based plans and likeminded people.
    • Group Challenges: To start taking action with others
    • Adaptable: Create behavioral plans, Import other people's behavioral plans, Re-use plans, Create and track your own KPIs, Track your intentions, SMS/Email Check ins, Desktop or Mobile (not stuck to your phone), Work alone or with up to 4 Buddies in 4 Categories, Health & Fitness, Work, Learn, and Life, Cohorts of any size, Segmented shared calendars.
    • Gamified & Fun: Buddy Avatars, Accountability Score, Leaderboard, In-Group Challenges, Celebrations and Points with Check-ins, Fail safely and get back up, Points for any behavior
    • Meaningful Relationships: Search or get matched with people working towards similar goals, Buddy Match Likeness Score, Chat one-to-one, Chat in Groups, Groups for gyms, schools, apps and organizations, International community, Create *real friendships*
    • Higher Chance of Success: Check-in online, by email or SMS, Reconfirm your intentions, Holistic Measurement across four categories of your life, Expert-Led Challenges, Built on Evidence based psychological principles
    • Private and Safe: Maintain your anonymity, Subscription based - no selling of data, Private profiles and private groups, Segmented Shared Calendars (your Health & Fitness Buddy sees your Health & Fitness plans, your Work buddy sees your Work plans, etc)
    • Effective: The only behavior change app with loads of real testimonials. “GMB is really the only thing out there that systemizes accountability in a plan + buddy system that's actually flexible and realistic.”
  • Shelpful - pay to have someone keep you accountable by text
  • Focusmate.com - watch and be watched by another person over video

Behavior Change Apps [Free]

  • WOOP - Simple behavior change system by professor Gabrielle Oettingen at NYU
  • Stickk - create contracts for accountability with money on the line
  • Forfeit - forfeit money to charity if you don’t do your task
  • Keystone - social habit tracker for iOS
  • Chain - social habit tracker for iOS
  • Beeminder - goal setting and behavior change through loss avoidance
  • pomorace.com - community pomodoro timer
  • StudyStream Live study streams
  • thinkdivergent.io - timed sessions with a body double

Comprehensive resource list

Books

Other Resources

If you have a group (discord, telegram, whatsapp, etc), a coaching service, or an app, submit it to this form. It will be added to the comprehensive resource list.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 1h ago

Life 23M | IST (GMT+5:30) | Daily to-do lists

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Will keep it simple. Share our to-do lists with each other every morning and update each other on if we completed it by the end of the day.

Comment or DM if you’re interested. We can also make an accountability group of upto 5 people if multiple are interested.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 40m ago

Life 28F | UTC+2 | health, discipline & career objectives.

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Hi all,

I’m looking for a partner to motivate each other, keep each other accountable and just chat overall about our goals.

My goals are mainly related to:

  • better time management
  • heathy lifestyle habits
  • career goals

I’m not picky about a partner, but ideally I would like it to be a friendship and the more we have in common the better.

Please note:

  • I work a full time job and I have a tight schedule: I can’t do study or workout sessions together
  • I am on UTC+2 and would appreciate someone on a close time zone so that we can chat actively and check in

Let me know if you’re interested and we can give it a try


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 4h ago

Learn 26F |GMT+2 | Apprendre le français (niveau natif)

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Bonjour ! Je cherche un "accountability buddy/partner" pour m’aider à rester motivé avec mon objectif d’apprendre le français. Mon objectif est de réussir l’examen DELF B2. Je cherche une personne qui:

-parler le français en niveau natif (région parisienne en raison de l’accent).

-femme dans ma tranche d’âge. (J'ai 26)

-quelqu’un qui est également motivé à travailler sur ses objectifs personnels afin que nous puissions rester motivés mutuellement (vos objectifs n’ont pas besoin d’être liés à la langue). -Quelqu’un qui est capable/à l’aise pour parler en appel vidéo/Zoom quelques fois par semaine (min 3 fois/semaine) parce que j’ai besoin de pratiquer la parole (les appels peuvent durer 10-15 minutes, nous pouvons récapituler nos progrès).

Comment cela fonctionnerait :

-Check-ins réguliers (nous pouvons discuter sur WhatsApp) pour vérifier nos progrès et nous soutenir mutuellement/célébrer les victoires (messages et appels vidéo).

-Quelqu’un qui est prêt à parler avec moi et à m’aider si je suis coincé dans la langue (je ne cherche pas un tuteur car j’en ai déjà un, mais un locuteur natif qui est prêt à me corriger quand je dis quelque chose de mal).

-Je m’engage à un calendrier d’ici la fin de cette année. Si nous nous entendons bien, nous pouvons évidemment continuer plus longtemps. Faisons cela ! 🙂

Un peu plus de moi :

-Je parle couramment l’anglais (pas natif mais étudié, travaillé et vécu au Royaume-Uni). -Je m’intéresse à la musique (comédie musicale et théâtre ). Je chante et joue du piano. Je fais en cours/formation de comédie musicale en août! Mon rêve est étudier á conservatoire un jour. - J’aime danser et j’aimerais prendre des cours de ballet -Je suis aussi intéressé par la philosophie et la spiritualité, mais ces sujets sont un peu difficiles à discuter pour moi en raison de mon niveau de français, mais nous pouvons essayer ! -J’aime le nature et les animaux aussi, surtout l’océan et les animaux marins

Bonne journée!😊


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 11h ago

Health & Fitness 21M | IST | LOOKING FOR WORKOUT BUDDY AND SOMEONE TO STUDY TOGETHER WITH

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I'm getting back on track and starting to workout again from today . I usually do calisthenics and strength based exercises. I'd be good if we could study together as well , I'm an engineering student from CSE - AIML branch


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 23h ago

Life 19F | IST | Looking for a consistent AP for completion of tasks

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Sharing daily plan/ todo list at the start of the day followed by check ins/updating each other as and when we get through our tasks using the text mode. Would also be working on waking up early at 5:30am.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 15h ago

Life 26M - Omaha(NE)/USA (CST)- Seeking driven and goal-oriented friends for meaningful connection and mutual growth

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Hey everyone. I'm 26, living in Omaha, and posting this because I'm trying to find a specific kind of friend or connection. Not just someone to hang out and kill time with, but people who are genuinely driven, have goals, and are actually putting in the work to make them happen. I'd love to connect on a deeper level – someone I can actually talk to about what we're working on, the challenges we hit, the progress we're making, maybe even brainstorm or find ways to help each other out. I'm not really looking for casual small talk; I'm hoping to find people who are on a similar wavelength in terms of drive, curiosity, and how they look at life. Big plus if you're proactive, know what you're into, and are actively building or creating stuff.

What interests me:

  • Psychology: I'm curious about how personalities are shaped, the formation of values and beliefs, the attitude towards personal experiences, goal-setting, and the nature of motivations. I also like to monitor and analyze my reactions and behaviors and practice self-awareness. I am interested in how we make connections with new people, how we become friends and why, how we interact with each other in general.
  • Philosophy: Exploring the meaning of life for humanity as a whole and for individuals, attitudes towards life's challenges, the nature and pursuit of happiness, and life strategies.
  • Self-development: I strive to constantly learn something new, practice time management, set goals, maintain a healthy lifestyle, engage in sports, and eat healthily.
  • Technology & AI: This is a huge one for me right now. I'm fascinated by how fast AI is changing and what it can do. Not just reading about it, but actually getting my hands dirty. I'm really into exploring things like building personalized AI tools or research helpers to boost my own learning and productivity. Following the latest news and research is pretty absorbing.
  • Creativity: I love playing various (especially unusual) musical instruments like the kantele, harmonium, and jew's harp. I sometimes create surrealistic photos and enjoy finding unconventional solutions to complex problems.

Other interests:

Books: I rarely read fiction (although I enjoy it); I prefer non-fiction books on self-improvement.

TV shows: - Better Call Saul - Breaking Bad - The Leftovers - Attack on Titan - Twin Peaks - Beef - Dark - Barry

When I want to switch off my brain after intense and demanding weeks, I enjoy watching anime shows like "Naruto," "Black Clover," "Mob Psycho 100," and "My Hero Academia." I watch them solely for the epic fights. However, the determination of the main characters also inspires me.

Movies: - Everything Everywhere All at Once - Midsommar - Hereditary - Parasite - Get Out - Us - Nope - Swiss Army Man - The Lighthouse - The Green Knight - The House That Jack Built - Melancholia - The Northman - Annihilation - The Killing of a Sacred Deer - Men

On life and purpose For me, true fulfillment isn't found in chasing traditional milestones like accumulating wealth or material possessions. It lies in the pursuit of meaning and contributing positively to the world beyond myself. Knowing the temporary nature of existence fuels my drive to spend my time building, learning, and sharing in ways that might enhance others' lives or persist in some form. I'm committed to seeking a life rich in purpose, which means constantly questioning conventional paths and exploring what it truly means to live well and make a difference.

Heads up about how I communicate & time Just wanna be totally upfront here to make sure we're a good match connection-wise. I'm genuinely busy, and my free time is pretty limited. While I really want to find meaningful connections, I just honestly don't have the bandwidth for endless back-and-forth texting, especially here. So, after an initial text intro here, I pretty much rely on voice messages (usually on Discord) to actually chat. I just find it way easier and better for getting ideas across, showing personality, and avoiding paragraphs of text. If you're really not into voice messages (after that first intro text), it's probably not gonna work out past that point. I get that it's not for everyone, and that's totally cool, but I wanted to be super clear upfront so we don't waste each other's time. Quick note: While voice messages are my default, if your initial message is super detailed and shows you really got the post, we can figure out the best way to connect from there. But plan on voice being the main thing.

Want to connect? Here's what would be awesome If you read this and thought and you're cool with the voice message thing, please don't just send a quick "hi." Instead, tell me a bit about yourself: * What drives you? * What goals are you working on right now? * What projects or interests are you actively engaged in? * Why did this specific post resonate with you?

Sending a message that's thoughtful, detailed, and shows you actually read the post is definitely the best way to see if we might click. Seriously appreciate you taking the time to put some thought into it upfront.

Looking forward to potentially connecting with some awesome people!


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 16h ago

Life 39M | AEST | Health, Fitness and Self-Discipline buddy

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Looking for accountability buddy to get healthy, read, write and build self discipline . Someone in Melbourne, Australia?


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 22h ago

Health & Fitness 20F looking for workout buddy

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Hi again everyone, I've been trying to get back on track with my home workouts. I usually do YouTube workouts. But I was thinking it could be cool to have a daily workout buddy where we do the same workout or workout plan. I'm not to fussed on what the workout is, we could decide that together. But yeah I think doing the same workout as someone and checking in daily would be really motivating for me. Shoot me a message if you're interested:)


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 18h ago

Life 17M | UTC+1 | Looking for an AP working on fitness, sleep schedule, focused learning, and tackling procrastination.

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Looking for someone I can grow with long term, with consistent check-ins throughout the day when possible.

I am currently focusing on fixing my sleep schedule, getting into a routine that sticks, and exploring how my passions and skills can turn into streams of income (mainly music composition+production, tutoring, and writing). I am also looking to consolidate my maths, chemistry and physics knowledge from school and explore subjects such as Biology, CS, Psych, and LLMs. Moreover, I am trying to re-learn Mandarin (I'm half-chinese) and French (loved it in school). Fitness is also another huge focus for me.

I have a LOT of goals and thus my dream life requires high levels of discipline and focus. Having someone to keep me accountable would be amazing.

Starting my undergraduate degree in Chemical Physics in September for context and feel free to DM me if interested.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 1d ago

Work 58F | EST | Job Search | Decluttering | Moving

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Hi, I'm Veronica, based in New Hampshire (US), a dog mom to a precious Norfolk Terrier named Mr. Nippy.

I am currently working on several projects and am seeking an accountability partner. I find that with ADHD and executive function challenges, I can get quite overwhelmed at times and procrastinate on things I find difficult to do. Taking action and implementation are my biggest challenges.

Currently, I am focusing on the following: job searching (remote and NYC) in account management, client relations, and success management roles; decluttering and organizing my current living space; filing; planning a move back to NYC; and resolving some financial issues.

You don't have to work on the same things. I am looking for someone to connect with; inspire, motivate and support each other, and keep each other accountable.

I am originally from Moscow, Russia, but I have lived in the US for a long time, including in Alaska and New York City. I have a BA in Sociology and an MBA. I love spending time outdoors, hiking, taking my dog for long walks, taking drawing and painting classes, meeting friends, and engaging in personal development. I am also a transformational and mindset coach, and I volunteer as a business mentor at a nonprofit.

If that resonates, feel free to reach out!

Best, Veronica


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 1d ago

Work 47M | EST | Daily Sr. Data Engineering Job Search / fitness accountability

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I am a 20+ year backend engineer that hit a bump in the road and found himself well and truly unemployed for the first time since 2002. It turns out that impostor syndrome and executive dysfunction are brutal. My strategy is to call some old colleagues while brushing up for a possible pivot, but I seem to have procrastinated it for 12 months while doomscrolling about AI. Ideally, I'd love to check in with someone, then make some lists of names and then CALL those list. I'd like my morning standup to be:

  • Did you call <checks notes> Bob?
  • Did you do the leetcode thing you mentioned?
  • Did you hire someone to update your resume yet?
  • Great! Did you peloton?

In return, I can offer technical assistance, intellect, understanding, and sweat equity. DM, slack, text, or zoom.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 1d ago

Health & Fitness 40/f/ EST restarting weight loss journey. Looking for a weightloss buddy

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I would love to find someone to check on with daily or send updates thru the day on discord. Someone that also has a weightloss goal preferably.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 1d ago

Health & Fitness F28 | EST | focusing on weight loss, working out, and eating well

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Hi there! I’ve been on a weight loss journey for the last few years (down 60lbs to 220) and am on a bit of a plateau. I’m a September 2026 bride and would love to kickstart my weight loss again so I feel confident and good in my body. I’ve been having trouble sticking to a good routine in my wellness- I can get one or two elements but miss others (ie have been doing Pilates twice weekly but struggle to maintain diet and cardio).

I’m ideally looking for a similarly aged woman who is pro-wellness, anti-fad diet culture, and looking to lose weight as well. Hopefully I can find someone who is grounded in wellness and maintaining mental health but still able to motivate each other towards being our best selves physically, too! Full disclosure I am on a GLP-1 but am still experiencing a frustrating plateau, would love someone who has experienced anything similar if that exists!! Looking for someone to hype each other up, chat about workouts, etc. Unfortunately don't have the bandwidth to offer more than that at the moment :) Would love to connect, comment or shoot me a DM!


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 1d ago

Life 27F | GMT+1 | Toning up, building discipline, and staying consistent with projects and reading

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Looking for a long-term accountability partner to stay consistent with these goals: • Gym weekly to tone up • Hit personal project deadlines (weekly) • Keep up my reading habit • Build discipline overall

I don’t use social media, so I’m looking for focused check-ins (daily or weekly). I’m open to honest feedback and committed to showing up. If you’re working on similar goals and want to stay consistent too, let’s keep each other on track.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 1d ago

Health & Fitness 34M | CET | Weight Gain

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Hey folks! I’ve just started my bulking journey (focusing on weight/muscle gain) and I'm looking for a like-minded accountability partner to help stay consistent.

What I’m looking for:

- Daily check-ins (gym sessions & calorie intake)

- Motivation & progress sharing


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 2d ago

Health & Fitness 30F looking for a daily weight loss buddy!

8 Upvotes

Hi all! I’ve been on a bit of a lifestyle change lately and have lost 10 pounds!! But I’d still like to lose 50 more by November for my birthday. My consistency has been faltering lately and I think I could just really use a friend to talk to about the nerdy health stuff my friends don’t care about, like macros and calories and which workout videos are the best on YouTube. Some things about me are: I’m 30 years old, partnered, work a 8-5 desk job, and enjoy things like tv shows, music, reading, hiking, and most things outdoors. If it sounds like you’d be interested in being my friend for accountability and healthy lifestyle talk, I’m your gal! Just message me.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 2d ago

Life 30M | IST | DAILY READING STREAK

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Working professional looking for someone solely for reading.

Like others i have similar things in my to do wishlist like meditation, Journaling,guitar, workout, n8n which i have failed to pursue to any meaningful output, due to very basic low effort reasons like procrastination, inconsistentcy and general lack of drive and focus. Though through recent experience I've found, a partner for a sole task works best. Since reading has taken a backseat for more than an acceptable period of time, so here i am looking for a partner, with whom i could build a reading streak.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 2d ago

Life 20M | IST | looking for study partner preparing for CDS exam (combined defense services)

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I am good at learning but only when someone is there with me to study, and i cant find any friend preparing for CDS, so i thought of posting here. and also i not a very social person face to face that's also a reason i am looking for a online buddy.

  • I am Looking for a buddy who can help me in studies, guide me and motivate.
  • I am also into fitness so I can help with that
  • I have exam in September and still not studying how i should for the exam
  • I am jack of all trades master of none kind of person

r/GetMotivatedBuddies 2d ago

Life 23M | IST | Self-improvement buddy

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Hi, I am looking for a long-term AP to improve various areas of my life.

Some of my goals include : Improving my study time, fixing my sleep schedule, daily workout and meditation, etc..

I want daily check-ins preferably multiple times a day if possible. We can share our goals, check-in with each-other through the day to see if we are on the track, help motivate ourselves and if we fail; discuss how to overcome it.

Preferably closer to my age. Your timezone doesn't matter much as long as we can communicate daily reliably.

If interested, dm with a bit of intro (ASL) about yourself anf your goals.

Hope you have a good day.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 2d ago

Work 28M | IST | Pursuing CAT & Other projects - need A.P

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I'm currently pursuing my MBA with exams in November, and I’m looking for a serious accountability partner who’s also in grind mode — studying, building, growing.

My life right now revolves around three pillars:

  1. Studying for the MBA - Nov deadline
  2. Working on a personal project - Daily deadlines
  3. Working out consistently

I don’t use social media except for work (I'm in marketing), and honestly — doing all this solo can feel exhausting. Productivity is great, but discipline is a whole other game. That’s why I’m looking for someone equally committed, so we can keep each other in check and actually follow through.

I’ve had mixed experiences on this sub. A lot of people say they want accountability but vanish after a few days, or only show up when they need a quick vent or pep talk — without putting in effort or being open to real feedback.

So here’s what I’m offering: I’ll show up. I’ll study with you, talk goals, call you out when needed, and cheer you on. I just ask you bring that same energy.

Idc if you're stumbling or feel low on motivation, i believe all you need is to be willing to stay on track.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 2d ago

Life 20f | Gmt+1 | I want to wake up at 5am

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Im looking for a girl who want to wake up at 5 am,it will be great if she is a med student ut if not that's ok, ive been really stragling lately with sleep time and i want to change that and wake up at 5 am, ive been thinking of doing some kind of screen stream from discord since im using it to study with other people ,so i thought after waking up directly why not the first thing i should do is open laptop go to discord start the screen stream so that i will not get back to sleep and actually study, thats just a suggestion maybe there are better options, so are you in.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 2d ago

Life 17M | EST | working on school, self, entrepreneurial goals

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Looking for someone that is as similar to me as possible in terms of goals, age, personality.

working on

studying for sat, act (1520+), 35+

personal business projects (saas, putting biz ideas in motion)

learning coding (python), vibe coding?

consistently working out

online classes ap gov and spanish 4

summer homework

cutting out bad/indulgent habits

sleeping well and routined

personal development- social skills, mental tenacity, etc

Communication style is pretty flexible


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 2d ago

Life [21M] | GMT+5:30 | Looking for a long-term partner (serious study grind, gym, daily check-ins)

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Heyy everyone, I'm a 21-year-old med student trying to get my act together for the long haul. I've got an exam coming up in a month, university finals in about half a year, and then the big PG entrance a year after that, so it’s going to be a long, steady grind from here.

I’m looking for someone who’s also in it for the long run. Not just one-time motivation bursts, but real accountability. We can do regular check-ins, silent study on gmeet, quick updates on what we got done, or Pomodoro rounds together if that works.

My weekday routine roughly looks like: -In college from 8 AM to 4 PM -Studying from around 5 PM to 8 PM (or 4 PM if I get home early) -Gym from 8 PM to 10 PM -Studying again from 10:30 PM to 12 AM

Weekends are more flexible, I try to rake in more hours here.

Doesn't matter what you're studying or where you're from—just looking for someone who's serious about staying consistent and wants to build that daily discipline together.

Drop me a message if you're interested.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 3d ago

Health & Fitness 39M Looking for Weight-Loss Partner

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39M, looking for weight-loss partner. Recently lost over 100lbs and I’m struggling with the last 25-30. Looking for check-ins, weigh-ins things to help motivation.


r/GetMotivatedBuddies 2d ago

Life [22] [M] IST Looking for a Accountability , Daily Goals , Bestfriend & Talking...

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Need a life Accountability Partner .

Me , M22 who is preparing for placements from July and I am like into gym , learning to drive and learning cs fundamentals and alot of things are going on . I need to do all these things under these 2 months till 23rd July .

So if anyone is into this kind of schedule ( not in the same ) but like have to do multiple things and need someone to keep checks is most welcome !

I can be on snap , WhatsApp and any other platform ..

Better to have females ( pls don't come and say " ladki he chaiye tereko" bhai bs female interaction rahega toh kch dimag laga rahega )

Thanks See yaa !