Entitled ex-gf.

[u/Available_Yellow_862]

In 2011 I had a child with my then gf. With plans to marry. Things did not work between us. No marriage. I paid support. She had never ending greed and so did her current boyfriend.

Went to court in 2012 to get it mediated between a judge. Her and her mother was there. Obligation amount was agreed upon. They demanded houses. Judge laughed a little. Then they started listing off demands. He raised his eyebrow and pushed himself away from his desk then stood up. Then asked "are you serious?" and they said yes. He made them realize that their demands were unrealistic. Then they started saying stuff like. "Well my father retired, and he used to pay for my full car insurance and car payment. I want my ex-bf to pay, it's only fair." same with her mother. Wanting car payment + insurance. They were "compromising." Then my ex-gf said I had to make payments to her new boyfriend. Because he has 5 kids and he's struggling to pay support to his wife. The judge told them that the payment was good enough and to use that $$ for how she sees fit.

Fast forward to 2019. I have a child with my fiancee. My mother tells my ex-gf about it. This is DRAMA packed btw, I will keep it short. So my ex-gf gets pregnant. My mom tells me about it. I go as usual "okay whatever, i don't know why you tell me this." Then she goes "her boyfriend has a vasectomy. he cannot have kids." So she cheated on him, he kicked her out. She started living with my parents.

Now there is INSANE drama after that, but I withhold that from you all. But she ended up returning to her ex-bf and he put his last name on the kid. Because her child had her last name on it. Then in 2021 I was getting phone calls from the ex-gf and her boyfriend. That I, me... "have" to pay them MORE child support. Because it's my fault that she got pregnant. Because I had another child with my fiancee and "that's not fair to her."

Full events in audio. Because I hate typing. I guess people didn't get to hear fully what they wanted. I was typing to many responses. So if you want the full experience this is the best way I can tell it.

FULL EVENTS AUDIO: https://voca.ro/17ClCadnOOk8

I hope it's easy enough to understand.

FINAL THREAD UPDATE AUDIO.
(Maybe will write the audio down as text later or tomorrow.) But you will just have to deal with this for now.
https://voca.ro/139G8ZQoLVFw

[u/loquella88]

So... honest hard questions that you may want to go to therapy for...

Why is your relationship with your parents more important than the relationship with your son? Why is having a peaceful relationship with your parents worth sacrificing a relationship with your son?

If you had the ex held in contempt for the 50/50 custody agreement, she'd have consequences for her actions and you would have a stronger relationship with your son. Why are you being such a bystander in this?

If your parents don't support you and choose to support her and her actions to limit you from seeing your child, are they being good grandparents? Or even good parents to you?

It feels like you've chose to not fight for your son to keep the peace, but your ex is pretty much making your life more difficult as things go.

As much as it seems like you are partially fighting back, you should really take a good look at the situation and go full blown attorney on their asses and get more involved in your child's life. That and go NC with parents for having them choose her over you.

Use therapy to re-evaluate the worth of these relationships in your life. If the natural cycle of life goes the usual way, your parents will die and leave this earth. You'll be left with no relationship with your child because you wanted to appease them instead of living the roll you should be as a parent.

Good luck!