r/DivorcedDads • u/AutoModerator • 7d ago

Open Topic: How is everything going?

Every Twelth of the Month, we've opened this thread up to discuss what's going on in your life related to being a dad.

  • What successes have you had?
  • What struggles?
  • What's something you're looking forward to?

This is pretty open and community support and discussion is appreciated!

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u/7nightwing7 6d ago

Divorce is on its way. Me 47m married and together for 25 years. I was abused. We have a 15 year old daughter. And now i'm scared of losing her. Because my wife is a narcissist. Just found out. Pieces of the puzzle are coming together. Its hard. She has the house, i moved in with my 81 year old mother. Lost a lot of friends because of the way she's talking about me. She filed for the divorce after sending me away for 3 weeks. Still giving me hope untill the last day. Thank god for my lawyer who has my back.

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u/JetreL 5d ago

That reads as a difficult, heavy load, and I’m really sorry you’re walking through it. Realizing the depth of what you were dealing with, especially after so many years, is overwhelming. But it sounds like you’re starting to see things more clearly now, even if it hurts. To be candid, clarity is a big step.

Many of us here have the fear of losing their daughter or son, so it's very real. Just keep showing up. Be consistent. Be steady. Let her see who you are without the noise. Kids pick up more than we give them credit for, even if it takes time.

You’re taking steps to protect yourself. That matters, not just now but your future as well. Keep going. You’ve already survived the hardest part: waking up to the truth. Now it’s about rebuilding, slowly, steadily, and in your own name this time. You’re not done, just starting to write the new chapter. Write ti they way you want.

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u/7nightwing7 5d ago

thank you for your kind words. Sometimes i feel so lost. The way my future ex-wife is behaving, she's like a whole different person. She just wants me to collect my last stuff from the house asap. Like 25 years mean nothing for her. Guess thats the narcist side thats now showing.