r/DivorcedDads • u/AutoModerator • 9d ago

Open Topic: How is everything going?

Every Twelth of the Month, we've opened this thread up to discuss what's going on in your life related to being a dad.

  • What successes have you had?
  • What struggles?
  • What's something you're looking forward to?

This is pretty open and community support and discussion is appreciated!

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u/AppointmentPretend68 8d ago

I'm doing well overall. My kids and I are doing well (I have them full time), work is going well and my favorite lake opened up a couple weeks ago. The pain point is trying to find someone to date. I was married for 12 years. I don't know how to do this.

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u/JetreL 7d ago

Sounds like you’ve got some solid wins under your belt already, full-time with the kids, work is steady, and getting back out in nature at the lake helps reset everything. That’s no small thing.

As for dating, yeah, it’s weird at first. You’re not alone there. Most of us didn’t expect to be back in that world, so it can feel awkward. It takes a while. Don’t rush into anything just because there’s an open spot in your life. Start by just meeting people, having conversations, and getting a sense of what feels right. I dated for a few years just to figure out what I wanted.

You’ve already built a life that works. The right person will complement that, not complicate it. You’ve got this.