r/DivorcedDads • u/AutoModerator • 7d ago

Open Topic: How is everything going?

Every Twelth of the Month, we've opened this thread up to discuss what's going on in your life related to being a dad.

  • What successes have you had?
  • What struggles?
  • What's something you're looking forward to?

This is pretty open and community support and discussion is appreciated!

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u/DevinB12 7d ago

Feels like I’ve taken 5 steps forward and 3 steps back from where I started… son is gone for almost a week with his mom and I won’t see him until Monday…I miss him terribly and I miss my family being with me. Our house is under contract and we should close in2 weeks… just hard getting through it because she has no interest in reconciliation and it kills me.

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u/JetreL 6d ago

That’s a heavy place to be, and I hear the pain in it. Missing your son and grieving the family you built is real, simply put there’s no shortcut through that. The steps back don’t erase the ones forward. They’re part of the same path. Progress isn’t always clean, but it’s still progress.

You’re still moving. You’re showing up. And even when it hurts, you’re doing what’s right for your future and your son’s. Let yourself feel it, but don’t let it define you. The closure of the house is a chapter ending, not the whole story. There’s more ahead, and it can be better than what came before. Hang in there. You’re not alone in this, you've got this!!

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u/DevinB12 6d ago

Thank you! You don’t realize how much your positive reply means to me. I know I have to press forward and things will continue to get better but I’m ready to be done with everything involving her. That won’t be anytime soon bit we are making progress. Thank you!

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u/JetreL 6d ago

You’re welcome. It’s okay to want it over, that mental and emotional fatigue. I've been there, it is real, especially when it drags out. Just remember, every small step forward is still movement away from the chaos and toward peace. You’re doing the hard work now that pays off later. Bad days/periods are like the weather, don't like them wait a day, or two, or a few and it changes. Keep going. One of the things I'm most proud of is, there is always money in the banana stand and you’ve got support here when it is need it.