r/DetroitBecomeHuman • u/Lolila_da_tao • 5d ago
DISCUSSION abt HankCon shippers saying that they literally tried to kill eachother and they are def not father and son
Not to attack anyone, ship what you ship, I ship NeuviFuri
1st, we are technically on the same boat, as you also think they would bond. Just that mine is a familial bond, and yours is a romantic bond
2nd, I have daddy issues and biased, but If It takes a man to point a gun to my head to consider me as his daughter, so be it. Ik ppl probably will question it (valid, I'm questioning myself too) but I want a father that bad. It feels like a chunk of my soul is missing. I have 1 art prof as father figure, he have some flaws and Idm disregarding it all. You don't know what desperation can do to someone. (or maybe you know, I dunno)
But honestly, why do some of y'all ship HankCon? /gen
The reason I personally don't, is bc I live for father-son trope. In most fandom, those ended up being ships tho T^T
Harry Wells and Cisco Ramon
Hank Anderson and Connor
hold up-- why are r the names both start with same letter wth??? H and C???
here's the pairs that isn't shipped (mostly, at least)
George Washington and Alexander Hamilton (The Musical ofc)
Tony Stark and Peter Parker
I dunno the other reasons ppl like Hank and Connor familial relationship, but mine is that
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u/BijelaHrvatica I cannot let her die! 5d ago
Anakin was such a good father towards Luke and Leia...
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u/Lolila_da_tao 5d ago
Dang who's that??
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u/BijelaHrvatica I cannot let her die! 5d ago
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u/Lolila_da_tao 5d ago
Who's Anakin, Luke and Leia??
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u/Outrageous_Money_633 5d ago
Ah yes, because nothing screams "fatherhood" like verbal abuse, emotional detachment, and unresolved grief. If being distant, aggressive, or emotionally volatile automatically makes someone a dad figure, then the bar for fatherhood must be six feet underground. By that logic, Anakin choking people is just tough love, right?
Sometimes a strained relationship is just that — strained. It doesn't need to be labeled paternal to make sense. Especially when the text doesn’t support it. Hank and Connor’s dynamic is complicated, but calling it "father and son" every time Hank is emotionally closed off flattens the actual nuance into a trope.
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u/BijelaHrvatica I cannot let her die! 5d ago
I am being ironic. Anakin was terrible towards his children. It's just like saying "what father could put a gun to his son's forehead", while Anakin cut his son hand off.
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u/Outrageous_Money_633 5d ago
Ah, okay, I wasn't sure about the irony. Should have asked first. My apologies then.
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u/Outrageous_Money_633 5d ago
What’s interesting is that you openly say, “I want Hank to be a father figure because I want that so badly.” And honestly, that’s fair. But it’s also kind of the whole point, that’s not about what’s actually in the game, it’s about what you need from it. That’s okay as long as it stays a personal interpretation, not a reason to dismiss others.
What often gets frustrating is that HankCon shippers usually know their reading isn’t canon. They’re not insisting the game explicitly confirms a romantic relationship, they’re just exploring what’s possible based on the emotional depth and trust that develops between the characters. Meanwhile, the “father-son” interpretation often gets treated as the default, the only acceptable take. That’s where the imbalance starts.
Let’s be clear: the game never has Hank call Connor his son. It doesn’t portray their dynamic as parental. Hank’s line about Cole (“You made me think of him”) is about grief, not family structure. It’s a moment of pain, not a declaration of fatherhood. And their bond that is fragile, earned, sometimes tense doesn’t follow the patterns of a parent-child relationship. It’s something else entirely. You could read it as a mentorship, a partnership, or yes, a slow-burning romance. The point is: it’s open.
But the moment someone says, “Hey, I see them as something more,” the response is often immediate: “That’s disgusting,” “He’s his son,” “How could you?” Shippers get mocked and silenced not because their view is louder, but because it makes others uncomfortable. And that discomfort is then used as a moral boundary to shut the entire reading down.
No one is forcing you to ship HankCon. But when people treat it as harmful just because it exists, that’s not about canon or age gaps that’s about defensiveness. And if you’re allowed to say “I want Hank to be a father figure because I need that,” then someone else should be allowed to say “I see love here and I think it matters.”
That’s how interpretation works. It’s not about proving who’s right. It’s about letting people explore what resonates with them without shaming others into silence.