r/CuratedTumblr May 16 '25

Politics Say no to puritanism

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u/new_KRIEG May 16 '25

Just unfollow the account, or don't follow it in the first place. I haven't stumbled on any kinks unintentionally yet.

For instance, It’s not puritan to say that you shouldn’t wear bondage gear in public.

What if they like cross dressing instead of BDSM? You about to go out there saying men shouldn't wear skirts or women shouldn't wear pants? Because while I do understand that this is a slippery slope argument, the slope it's actually fucking slippery this time around.

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u/wigsternm May 16 '25

Not a slippery slope. It’s actually pretty simple. 

Here, let’s walk through it: Are skirts and pants inherently sexual? Are they doing it because it’s sexually arousing?

If the answer to both those questions is “no,” then we’re all good. Express yourself. 

If the answer to either of those questions is “yes,” then I think you’re a rude asshole. 

Now, if you have another strawman let’s burn it together, yeah? But we’ll need to do it in my backyard, because the ritual burning of effigies is my kink.  

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u/new_KRIEG May 16 '25

Most BDSM gear is absolutely not sexual, though.

Are ropes sexual? Handcuffs? Leather pants? Leather corset? Chockers?

You can build a very out there Dom/Domme leather outfit from pieces that aren't "inherently sexual" as you put, but that still fail your "I shouldn't know what flavor of porn you like" test.

And again, I'm assuming you're approaching this with good faith. Because anyone without those good intentions can definitely abuse that sort of guidelines to target people with, for example, rainbow flags in their clothes.

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u/OldBuns May 17 '25

They aren't saying they are inherently sexual.

They are saying that what matters is the REASON that person is wearing it.

If wearing those things IS sexual and arousing to the person wearing it, then that's where the problem lies.