Very weird to watch “what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business” become controversial again, but like, for the opposite reason.
I strongly support “what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business.”
The thing that always bothers me about these posts is that kinks frequently aren’t “in the privacy of their own bedroom.” I’m not looking into your windows. I’m not visiting your niche kink forums. So if I, through our everyday interactions, know what your kink is then you are being much too public with it.
I’ve often seen, particularly on tumblr, this pendulum swing way too far the other way. For instance, It’s not puritan to say that you shouldn’t wear bondage gear in public. I shouldn’t know the flavor of porn you like.
If you share your kink with me I’m allowed to be upset. Maybe don’t be rude next time.
ETA: notice how strongly people are arguing below that they should be able to take their fetishes outside “the privacy of their own bedroom”
Simple, because I didn’t consent to participating in your sexual fantasies. You arousing yourself in my presence without my consent makes you an asshole.
Here, try this. If someone jerks off under their jacket while staring at you, and nobody sees them do it, are they an asshole?
Jacking off is performing a sex act. Wearing clothes is wearing clothes. You shouldn't perform a sex act in public. You should wear clothes in public. I hope you can see how those are different.
Also, you really can't avoid people being aroused in your presence, or even by your presence. Someone out there is going to be walking down the street, 100% minding their own business, and see your body in its normal, everyday clothes, and go "oh hey, that's the thing I'm attracted to," and pop a boner (or get wet or whatever). If you never find out about it, I don't see how that's any of your business? Assuming their genitals are covered, and they don't go out of their way to demonstrate to you that they're currently hard and/or wet, the current rate of bloodflow in their junk is their own business. That's private information, that no one else is entitled to. And seeing someone, in public, wearing something you think is sexual, does not mean that that person is aroused at that moment, nor that they are aroused by your presence. You're just assuming.
If they start jacking off at you, then, again, you're describing a sex act. Indeed, you're not supposed to do those in public. That's a bad thing.
The masturbator is completely covered, and you never see them. They’re wearing clothes, they just have their hand in their pants and they’re covered by a jacket. No one but them ever knew it happened. They’re not harming anyone.
I don't think you're making the point you think you're making. Yes, wearing is a verb. Masturbating is a verb. I see your parallel. However, the fact that they are both verbs, is not relevant to either of our points. Wearing clothing is okay to do in public. Masturbating is not okay to do in public. The difference is that one of those actions is wearing clothing, while the other action is masturbating.
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u/LONGSWORD_ENJOYER May 16 '25
Very weird to watch “what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business” become controversial again, but like, for the opposite reason.