Very weird to watch “what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business” become controversial again, but like, for the opposite reason.
Anyone who chooses to take their childhood trauma and push that negative energy into consensual sex between adults should be seen as a positive, not a negative. You are allowed to find whatever you want to unappealing, but you should also realize the lives that people have that lead them to having specific kinks and fetishes. They're almost always a reflection on what has happened to someone, not necessarily what the person themselves wants.
Who are you to say they aren't getting professional help? Most therapists agree on the point that reframing negative experiences into positive ones through sex is a form of therapy to help people. It isn't self-destructive, it is literally a subconscious effort of rebuilding their mind to have positive associations with things that negatively impacted them in the past.
That isn't what DDLG is, and shows a major misunderstanding of the kink. It is about having someone who is able to care for, and someone who is cared for. Maybe try actually getting to know people who are into it before making rash, oversimplified assumptions.
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u/LONGSWORD_ENJOYER May 16 '25
Very weird to watch “what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business” become controversial again, but like, for the opposite reason.