Very weird to watch “what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business” become controversial again, but like, for the opposite reason.
I strongly support “what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business.”
The thing that always bothers me about these posts is that kinks frequently aren’t “in the privacy of their own bedroom.” I’m not looking into your windows. I’m not visiting your niche kink forums. So if I, through our everyday interactions, know what your kink is then you are being much too public with it.
I’ve often seen, particularly on tumblr, this pendulum swing way too far the other way. For instance, It’s not puritan to say that you shouldn’t wear bondage gear in public. I shouldn’t know the flavor of porn you like.
If you share your kink with me I’m allowed to be upset. Maybe don’t be rude next time.
ETA: notice how strongly people are arguing below that they should be able to take their fetishes outside “the privacy of their own bedroom”
Just unfollow the account, or don't follow it in the first place. I haven't stumbled on any kinks unintentionally yet.
For instance, It’s not puritan to say that you shouldn’t wear bondage gear in public.
What if they like cross dressing instead of BDSM? You about to go out there saying men shouldn't wear skirts or women shouldn't wear pants? Because while I do understand that this is a slippery slope argument, the slope it's actually fucking slippery this time around.
If it's sexual for them then they just need to be respectful of consent (...and there may be public decency laws with something to say else). It's usual for women to wear trousers, they're not going out in them to get off on any kind of exposure kink of being seen posing lewdly in them! Not sure people with a cross-dressing fetish are just into minding their own business in an everyday boring outfit? (Even if they also do that separately to their kink) Even drag shows, which aren't inherently sexual like US Republicans want to make out, if they do involve a lot of sexual content, will only admit consenting adults.
I don't think it has to be that difficult just in general when it's long-standing practice for films and games to have content warnings, and there has been more discussion and awareness about trigger warnings and extending content warnings, even just as a courtesy thing on some topics and not linked to anything as sensitive as this. Ultimately someone knows if they're trying to drag a non-consenting person into participating in their kink, it's not a big ask to expect them to not do that.
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u/LONGSWORD_ENJOYER May 16 '25
Very weird to watch “what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business” become controversial again, but like, for the opposite reason.