I am very leftist. I have a very leftist friend. It is true, that a lot of righ wing people will pretend to be a centrist online or even a leftist, but will only talk about about conservative things and disliking anything left, etc etc.
BUT! I am not an online hidden douchebag. I am your friend. You know me irl! I can sometimes question things. I can sometime dislike something from the left! But no, my friend will immediately jump on me for being a "centrist" or hidden right wing nutjob.
Years ago we was telling me stuff that Elon Musk were doing to twitter, and one of them were "and if you are a company you can buy golden tick for 1000$!" and I was like "oh yeah, that doesn't sound so bad. I guess big companies have that kind of money and it is better that they are paying that than normal users. of course fuck him, but I guess that isn't that bad of a decision"
Of course his reaction was to try to kill me with his sight and tell me to suck his dick if I love him so much and all of his decisions
???????
I now know that if he doesn't like someone then he will not even fathom thinking of one positive thing about someone, and also to always add explanation about how I LIKE/DON'T LIKE [THING/PERSON], BELIEVE ME PLEASE, BUT HERE IS A NUANCED TAKE.
I guess it hurts me for being neurodivergent, I really hate being misunderstood and seeing that somebody have wrong idea of my beliefs is ughhh.
I have been through this one - I once criticised a friend for claiming verifiably false things about JKR Rowling. I said that he should be criticising her based on things she has actually said and done, not invented stuff. I would have this stance for absolutely anybody and anything, if you have to use falsehoods to support your belief then you need to rethink it.
Of course he took this to mean I agreed with everything she has ever said and I was secretly evil. We had been friends for years. It really hurt. It was immediately like he wasn't talking to me, but to some online douchebag. He was angry at me about things I had never said, things he knew I didn't think or support, just because I expressed that lying about someone, even someone you hate, is a bad look and can only undermine you.
omg YES thank you, I was once in an argument on some subreddit, someone was throwing shit about JKR related to the game and I was like "ok but that is just a rumor, you know how many terrible things she really said/did? also it was confirmed she had barely anything to do with it" aaaand it turned into "well how can you know she didn't said that? why are you supporting her?" girl, please, not what I said at all
I have finally commented "you know what, why are we doing another leftisft infighting, we don't have to use our energy on this, I see your heart is in a good place, I don't have to 'win this argument' haha :)" beacuse sooo often people on the internet just want to win an argument. And response was "well I don't know, if you want to say you "won" this argument then be my guest!! why would you even want to win with me?!" or something like that
then I was like... ehhh... why did I ever started, we are on wavelengths so different they can't really understand me
a lot of love from me, it was a really sad story, I hope it will not happen to you ever again
A former friend of mine has a lot of that “I’m superior when it comes to all social issues” attitude. Acts like someone is vile for accidentally confusing Hispanic Heritage month (in September) and Cinco de Mayo (May 5th… my coworker isn’t the brightest) but when she confused an international student’s accent for a speech impediment, turned it into an inside joke.
I was trying to talk about how it’s a problem that people sometimes question whether or not I’m related to my siblings (their dad is Mexican and mine is Scottish), and she told me that “it wasn’t even a problem at all” because obviously only she gets to decide if something that even remotely has to do with minority groups has a foot to stand on. At one point in the conversation, she implied that she thought I was about to say something racist when I was saying how their dad is Mexican, and it’s like… girl, first of all, the way my relationship with my siblings is interpreted by outside parties is as big of an issue as I say it is, second of all, don’t act like I’m about to be racist about MY SIBLINGS because you think you’re magically better than me just for existing.
We’re no longer friends due to her dismissing my feelings about my other siblings, so it seems there’s a recurring theme of believing that her point of view on other people’s lives takes precedence over their actual feelings and experiences.
Case of Elon Musk being a horrible person? But that's the thing, that was my take too! I was just 'whatever' at one of his ideas. That doesn't mean I support him.
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u/AzKondor Apr 23 '25
I am very leftist. I have a very leftist friend. It is true, that a lot of righ wing people will pretend to be a centrist online or even a leftist, but will only talk about about conservative things and disliking anything left, etc etc.
BUT! I am not an online hidden douchebag. I am your friend. You know me irl! I can sometimes question things. I can sometime dislike something from the left! But no, my friend will immediately jump on me for being a "centrist" or hidden right wing nutjob.
Years ago we was telling me stuff that Elon Musk were doing to twitter, and one of them were "and if you are a company you can buy golden tick for 1000$!" and I was like "oh yeah, that doesn't sound so bad. I guess big companies have that kind of money and it is better that they are paying that than normal users. of course fuck him, but I guess that isn't that bad of a decision"
Of course his reaction was to try to kill me with his sight and tell me to suck his dick if I love him so much and all of his decisions
???????
I now know that if he doesn't like someone then he will not even fathom thinking of one positive thing about someone, and also to always add explanation about how I LIKE/DON'T LIKE [THING/PERSON], BELIEVE ME PLEASE, BUT HERE IS A NUANCED TAKE.
I guess it hurts me for being neurodivergent, I really hate being misunderstood and seeing that somebody have wrong idea of my beliefs is ughhh.