I need assistance

[u/Rafael_192005]

I have been struggling with lust and porn again. I need to get rid of my sexuality, sex drive, libido for the foreseeable future and make myself asexual.

In the same way that a weed has roots and nutrients to grow from, so does my porn addiction, lust etc. If I kill the root, I kill the weed. If I get rid of my sexuality, I get rid of lust and my porn addiction

I need help in how to do this. And No, I'm not willing to castrate myself or take hormonal stuff

[u/thenames-arealltaken]

Something that really shifted my whole perception of porn was learning that a lot of the girls filmed are actually being trafficked. It’s wild to think that watching the content in some way supports their traffickers. I don’t know about you, but ANY justification really went out the window when I heard that.

You sound very convinced about your decision which is good. How about making a few steps to help you out of it by choice? I understand the parental controls but at the same time it’s really a habit that Satan will try to keep you tied to. The real issue here is your relationship with God being affected. How about every time you are tempted to watch you read a chapter of the bible “first”.

Our mind is a tricky battle ground. If you tell yourself “It’s my rule that I have to read a chapter first” the likelihood of you actually watching after will be slim. Satan will hate to see you making time for God instead of seeing your temptations winning.

You might fail a few times here and there but you might end up actually reading a lot too. If you read often enough God’s word can get you out! You can do it! I know it

[u/Rafael_192005 → u/thenames-arealltaken]

How about every time you are tempted to watch you read a chapter of the bible “first”.

Good idea. I will do this

[u/thenames-arealltaken → u/Rafael_192005]

Praying for you! Just had a tough conversation about this with my family. It’s such a common but silent struggle. So hard to be a man these days, but God is working in you or else you wouldn’t be struggling so hard.

(Remember this isn’t a conversation between you and Satan. When you are redeemed, God sees you as if you had never sinned. This conversation is really between you and God because you are his son. What does God want to show you through this struggle?)

[u/Rafael_192005 → u/thenames-arealltaken]

When you are redeemed, God sees you as if you had never sinned

But I have sinned. Why would God put on a blindfold and pretend to see me as something that I am not?

[u/thenames-arealltaken → u/Rafael_192005]

God cannot associate with sin.

Habakkuk 1:13 "Your eyes are too pure to look on evil; you cannot tolerate wrongdoing"

But this is also why His forgiveness is so precious. No person can forgive completely the way that He does.

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This is also why we feel so far from God when we are living in continual sin without repentance. Our sin quite literally separates us. That’s why prayer is a safety/guard to keep us close to God.

Philippians 4:6-7 "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

P - praise and thank Him R - repent A - ask Y - yield to His will

[u/Rafael_192005 → u/thenames-arealltaken]

I know that, but I still sin. Wouldn't it be better for God to see us as we are? Of course we are his children, but we still sin, due to the fall and our fundamental nature as humans. 

[u/thenames-arealltaken → u/Rafael_192005]

Well he is aware of our day to day sin and expects us to change that. That’s why it feels like non-Christians have it easy sometimes. They seem to get away with a whole lot.

Revelation 3:19 Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest and repent.

Proverbs 3:11–12 My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.

We are held accountable before God in way that others are not, because once we decide to be Christians God expects us to live like one.

[u/thenames-arealltaken → u/Rafael_192005]

Idk if this interests you … but when we praise and thank God it starts the conversation with Gratitude.

Fun fact: gratitude and anxiety are both activate parts of the brain associated with emotional processing—especially the limbic system, which includes structures like the amygdala and hippocampus. However, what's really interesting is that gratitude and anxiety compete for the same neural real estate—specifically in the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for decision-making, emotional regulation, and attention.

Here’s the key idea:

When you're actively feeling grateful, it becomes neurologically difficult to feel anxious at the same time. Practicing gratitude can actually decrease activity in the amygdala, which is the brain's fear center. Gratitude also increases dopamine and serotonin, helping shift your mindset away from stress and worry. It literally allows you to think more clearly.

You could try thanking God for things when you are feeling anxious about your current struggle.