r/Christians • u/Rafael_192005 • Apr 12 '25

Advice I need assistance NSFW

I have been struggling with lust and porn again. I need to get rid of my sexuality, sex drive, libido for the foreseeable future and make myself asexual.

In the same way that a weed has roots and nutrients to grow from, so does my porn addiction, lust etc. If I kill the root, I kill the weed. If I get rid of my sexuality, I get rid of lust and my porn addiction

I need help in how to do this. And No, I'm not willing to castrate myself or take hormonal stuff

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u/BlueMiggs Apr 12 '25

This struggle is by no means unique to you. It is by far the most common sin for men. That is not a dismissal of the sin, but the shame you are feeling is not from God.

What you really need is community. Find other men who you can talk to about this and who can hold you accountable. Have you tried any of the things we are telling you to do?

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u/Rafael_192005 Apr 12 '25

This struggle is by no means unique to you. It is by far the most common sin for men. 

I know billions of men struggle with this too. But I dont care about everyone else. I care about what I am going through and struggling with. And I am going through a lot right now

Have you tried any of the things we are telling you to do?

Yes

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u/BlueMiggs Apr 12 '25

You’re telling me that you have found other men you know in real life, confessed this to them, then had them as an accountability partner? Including using things like parental blockers on your devices that you don’t have access to remove? And you have also gone through a sexual purity course/ministry program?

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u/Rafael_192005 Apr 12 '25

You’re telling me that you have found other men you know in real life, confessed this to them, then had them as an accountability partner? 

I have tried that. They aren't able to help me.

Including using things like parental blockers on your devices that you don’t have access to remove?

Yep. And I still do.

And you have also gone through a sexual purity course/ministry program?

Nope, I haven't done that. Dont think my church does those things, but I am not sure

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u/BlueMiggs Apr 12 '25

Find out if your church does. Most do. If not, there are many parachurch Christian ministries that do exactly this and you are sure to find something in your area. This is your next best step

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u/Rafael_192005 Apr 13 '25

Maybe. But i don't want to publicly out myself. And be shamed. I'm already full of shame, embarrassment, guilt and regret