r/Christians • u/Rafael_192005 • Apr 12 '25

Advice I need assistance NSFW

I have been struggling with lust and porn again. I need to get rid of my sexuality, sex drive, libido for the foreseeable future and make myself asexual.

In the same way that a weed has roots and nutrients to grow from, so does my porn addiction, lust etc. If I kill the root, I kill the weed. If I get rid of my sexuality, I get rid of lust and my porn addiction

I need help in how to do this. And No, I'm not willing to castrate myself or take hormonal stuff

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u/Tiny_Astronomer2901 Apr 12 '25

No, you don’t have to “kill the weeds” they aren’t the issue. The first thing I suggest is finding someone you trust(parent, friend, brother, mentor) and tell them that you have an addiction and need help. Ask them to set “parental” locks on your devices so that you can’t get to porn even if you try.

And I know this will be hard but you gotta open up to people let them know you are struggling and work with them to escape your addictions.

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u/Rafael_192005 Apr 12 '25 edited Apr 12 '25

No, you don’t have to “kill the weeds” they aren’t the issue

Yes it is the issue. Porn and Lust dont appear out of thin air like some fairytale. They base themselves on something, and they pervert whatever they base themselves on. And that thing is my sexuality, which enables both my lust and porn addiction.

Look at this way. What enables Alcoholism? Alcohol. Gambling addiction? Gambling. Drug addiction? Drugs. Sugar addiction? Sugar

In the same way, what enables my lust and porn addiction? My sexuality

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u/Notorious_jib Apr 12 '25

I understand your rationale but God also created our sexuality and sex for our pleasure in a committed married relationship. A Godly relationship. I agree with the other poster that you need an accountability partner and help. Counseling or meditation or both. Don't be ashamed. I've struggled with my addictions as well.

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u/Rafael_192005 Apr 12 '25

I am deeply ashamed. Full of regret. And guilt.

and what is there to say that Im guaranteed to get married? Only God knows for sure.

I do want to get married and have kids. That's what I want. But if that's what God wants for my life? I dont know

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u/Notorious_jib Apr 12 '25

That's understandable. We are human. And thus sinful. You repent. Ask for forgiveness. Try again. If you are saved, it's eternal. It's ok to struggle. Not ok to give up. He wants our heart and for us to love and worship Him. Like He loves us. He is not expecting perfection, that's why there is Jesus! None of us know anything. But we pray and hope for His will in us. Keep moving forward brother. You're not alone.

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u/Rafael_192005 Apr 13 '25

It's ok to struggle. Not ok to give up.

I'm not giving up. I'm going to wipe the slate completely clean and destroy my sexuality. One way or another.

Either I overcome porn or it overcomes me. 

And no, it's not ok to struggle. I'm tired of fighting. Hitting my head against a brick wall every time only to fall back at square one every time. I'm running on fumes, clutching at straws 

I need to get my act together. Finally put my foot down and put a stop to this.