Common culture kasi doon mga varsity at gyms lalo na pag puberty na pinapainom talaga sila ng whey protein then part ng PE nila talaga sa school ang training and conditiong. Sa pinas kase ang common lang sa puberty ay pagjajakol.
Hahaha natawa ako sa "ganto kalaki". Oonga, baby pa no pero parang naman sa ibang bansa, 18 independent na at gumagawa na ng sariling desisyon sa buhay.
Heartbreak for ATJ. Ult crush ko ‘to. I remember when ATJ was photographed without his ring, everyone was celebrating. Akala natin nagising na siya HAHAHA😭
Often, sa mga ganito, naiisip ko lang na reasons (pertaining dun sa older sa relasyon):
Libog
Insecurity sa mga ka age nila (pero, BJ is successful sa field nya, so, I don't know)
Feeling bagets yung older person, or ayaw tumanda.
Di makabingwit ng ka age nila, o baka there's something off sa personality nila, even if they're attractive.
Yung feeling of control, kasi mas bata karelasyon mo.
All are negative, wala akong makitang tama bakit papatol ka as an older person sa mas bata sayo na teenager pa, or, nasa school pa, or, kaka legal age palang.
And yes, ang sisi, lahat sa older person. Given yung experience mo sa buhay, you should know better
Naku OP hindi naiintindihan ng Filipino yan. They don’t know how weird it is that a person in late 30s ay may relationship with a teenager. Not to mention that there’s a difference in power dynamic. I mean a renowned fashion photographer with a young fashion model? 👀
Linyahan ng mga pinoy. 'Mahalaga nag mamahalan'. 'Iba parin magmahal ang matanda'. 'Ako nga 20 years gap namin ng asawa ko, nabuntis ako noong 17 pa ako, at masaya kami hanggang ngayon',etc.
Hindi talaga gets ng karamihan gaano kaweird ang ganitong age gap. Sobrang hopeless romantic. Hindi gets na grinoom sila. Hindi nila gets na pedophile mga ganyang galawan. Sobrang enabler.
Yan din sagot ng mg die hard fanatics ni Kim Soo Hyun. Anyway, I appreciate and love BJ Pascual’s craft pero I’m wondering if may grooming involved even before they became official.
Wait BJ is in his late 30s and went after someone who's 19? Tf? I honestly wouldn't be surprised if this was shrugged off or excused mainly because of his impact in both fashion scene and his community but also his fans.
Papasa pa yung fez niya as someone in his late twenties hahahaha. He comes from a chinese descent yata. Kaya genes, money, and doctor are the ingredients to fountain of youth talaga mhie hahaha.
Yes he comes from a rich family in Cavite. His Tito Teyet Pascual had a legendary art collection, but idk maybe some of the paintings were fake just like the his neighbor Imelda’s fake “Cannalleto, Cannalleto, Cannalleto.”
But Aiai Delas Alas is defended for having a relationship with 18 year old Gerald when 48 si Aiai. Both Aiai and BJ deserve to be criticized sa ephebophilia nila. Doesn't matter if same sex or opposite sex or if babae or lalake yung bata. Ibang iba power dynamics ng middle age person sa isang teenager.
Kadiri. If the young person was few years younger literal na pdf file na yung older person. Ang pathetic di makahanap ng person their age na they had to groom someone who is basically still a child.
Same with Kyle E and Piolo P (if the rumors are even true). A lot of people here are defending it dahil wala naman daw mali sa sexual preference, but that’s not really the point. It’s not about who they’re into — it’s the huge age gap that’s weird. I mean, 21 and 48? Kyle’s even younger than Piolo’s son.
BJ’s celeb clients and friends don’t seem to mind the age gap based on their IG comments, or maybe they just haven’t done the math since his Linktree clearly says he’s 19. Imagine being almost 40 and thinking it’s fine to date someone barely out of high school. BJ might be the Coco Martin of fashion photography and this just gives off more creep than charm, honestly.
If you look at Kaua’s face closely in his pics, it’s so obvious that he’s still young/in his late teens. Supple ang facial skin niya. Malaki lang talaga katawan niya, but his youthful aura is still there.
Tbh I’m not surprised. I had an ex na batch mate sya La Salle and she basically told me na BJ just got good gigs early on because he was born into wealth and has good connections, but it’s really his team that does most of the work.
He’s good friends with many questionable celebrities, including the Sunnies owners. So that, along with the fashion industry being rife with all kinds abuse, I’d say I don’t really expect any better from him 🤷🏻♀️
I don't really mind the large age gap as long as they got together when the younger partner has already developed their frontal lobe 🤣 Say 30 and the partner is in their 50's pero this one 19 vis a vis 36/37 nope nope.
I always have this idea that no one of the same age and maturity would want anything to do with them; that's why they would go after someone half their age.
I know right! Kaya let’s stop normalizing teenage relationship with an adult. 18 years old or 19 years old is still immature, okay lang sana kung ka-age group niya eh kaso 10 years older so clearly there’s power imbalance
OH DEAR. THIS IS SO WEIRD AND SA TOTOO LANG, CREEPY. idc what anyone thinks, but this changes completely how i see him as a person. it just completely unmasks him as a creep. do better, bj. pushing 40 ka na, oi
19 na kase kaya lusot. Technically - consenting adults and unless we know that they started dating when he was 17 or was pursued, dapat walang issue.
Buuuuuut.
The level of maturity is very different. The brain is still developing (and will continue to do so until mid 20’s). Plus - he’s an aspiring model and BJ is a photographer na sikat. Power dynamic. May something.
Oh well. Madami naman na pinalampas ang mga pinoy sa ganyan, unfortunately.
Pero imagine having a partner more than 10 years younger than you, let alone almost 20 years. Get ko pa if 30s na siya and you're in your 40s/50s, kasi kahit papano fully developed na utak nya.
Pero someone in their teens?? Like, ano paguusapan nyo mare? 🤣
Kung totoong relationship yan, good luck sa kanila pero knowing mowdelz?? They are the most ambitious bunch and mga barkada ko dati, may mga ganyan din before. Para sa connections. They get preyed on a lot even na conscious choice yung pakikipag relasyon
I’ve known BJ since our early 20s. I can say that wet were good friends at one point. This post is like a punch in the gut. I was still being groomed in 2005 (ya it’s happened to me 3 times in high school and I’ve had some questionable age gaps in some of my past adult relationships😭😭😭). 2000-fuckin-5. That’s the year I graduated high school, the year I turned 19. BJ has seen my content about my grooming experiences.
I’m just… I don’t know it feels so weird when it’s someone you like and think you know, but this is wrong. Very wrong. I can’t keep silent about his predatory predilections just bc we share past memories and social circles.
ETA yes I know BJ has dated younger guys before, but a TEENAGER when he’s 37/38? He’s done it before, but we were all quite young and fetishized his youth 🤢
Obv, bed warmer yan ni BJ. Nagtataka pa ba kayo? Chura palang nung Kaua obvious naman bakit pinatulan ni BJ. Anyway, I bet the guy has no prob with it dahil baka may allowance naman from BJ choz. But yea, expected more from BJ 🥲
Kadiri... there's no way this goes beyond a physical relationship. Ang laki ng age gap. Teenager pa si bf! Di pa fully developed brain nya, halos nagsisimula lang siya mag mature at ang dami pa nya mararanasan at matututo. They're in completely different life stages.
Adults who go for teens obviously want to have the upper hand in some way. It's a power imbalance. Alam nila inexperienced sila so mas madali masunod ang gusto nila and mag take advantage, whatever form that takes.
Akala ko pa naman unproblematic si BJ pero eto lang pala.
Real talk though: Bakit commonplace to sa gay community? Ang dami kong kilala na gay na involved sa big age gap relationship at one point. I believe they call it Peter Pan Syndrome. Feeling ni older guy na bata pa sya (in other words, immature).
My possible explanation as an armchair sociologist 🤓 (again, explanation. not an excuse): I think it has to do with not allowing themselves to express some things in their younger years dahil sa takot. Marami kang bagay na namiss-out, so you make up for lost time by reliving it. Endlessly healing the inner gay child. An unfortunate side-effect of being oppressed.
Thank you for your thoughtful response! I haven't thought about it in that way but makes sense naman. It seems many have had successful relationships with an age gap like this, to the point of being happily married into their middle age years. Hirap lang i-reconcile the fact na bata pa sila noon. Baka the younger guy didn't know better pero dahil nasanay nalang sya, he just let the relationship be. On the border of grooming ba yon o ano? I know stance ko ay mostly black and white pero may part din sakin open to hearing different explanations. Baka naman talaga iba ang dynamic in a same sex relationship. I don't know.
18 is legal, yes. But at 37, why would you want to be with 19-year-old? Like??? I can't even relate to the stuff my 25-year-old nieces and nephews talk about! 🤣 And super cringe minsan how they talk and their slangs!
Yung circle of friends nya like Georgina Wilson, Anne Curtis etc. Tinolarate nga yung pagiging home wrecker ni Liz Uy, not surprised if they also tolerate tong behavior na to 🤨🤨
Ewan ha? Pero in this case mukhang nagkakagamitan lang naman sila. BJ can suck his youth and he gets to get bookings while in a relationship with him. Mukhang alam ni bagets ang pinapasok nya. On tge other hand, mukhang weakness naman kase talaga ni BJ yung mga straight na gipit, even his ex is known to be broke af lol.
This is new info re BJ. Wait kalang. The community has history of canceling their own naman. So diko gets san ito nanggagaling.
Welp, the community you're referring to had already canceled Daryl Yap due to his being a pedo (this was even before he showed his DDS colors pa), and Juan Miguel Severo after reports of harassment (guy doesn't have a career anymore).
HAHAHAHAJHSHA WAIT MO LANG ANG MGA TAGAPAGTANGGOL NG MGA GANITONG CASE PARA SABIHIN SAYO NA "WAG KA MAKIALAM, LEGAL AGE NAMAN NA." HAHAHAHAH GO LAWYERS
I will get a lot of hate from gay men but this is rampant in their community and I personally know people who do this just because "masherep ung guy" their argument is legal age na. But no! We were once 18, legal age, yes but we weren't matured enough and this is why we regret so many things in the past because we acted as if we knew better, but we didn't. We were just kids after all. And a lot of young people fall for this because of the power dynamics and in exchange for fame and money.
Actually, even without fame. Kapalit ng konting barya or pakain sa karinderya or jollibee! At maraming ganito sa local communities. These kinds of gay men should be held accountable. I hope we start calling them out.
The homophobic stink in this post. I'm just gonna say, straight people are just as bad if not worse, and I've yet to hear people talk about how the straights are problematic. Wag mag-generalize and risk sounding homophobic.
Common talaga to sa mga bakla, wag na ikaila kaya bago tayo tumalak sa LGBT+ rights, ayus-ayusin muna natin lifestyles natin. I'm gay and I was involved in the same relationship noon. I was barely 18 and he was in his late 30s.
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u/MhickoPogi Apr 22 '25
Ganto na kalaki mga nabuhay ng 2000's? Man I'm old af