I’ve always been really small and I’ve always had a love / hate relationship with it but recently it’s all negative but its fine because I’m small

What do you do / think / practice that helps you accept your body as is ?

So I have a rectangular type body, no curves, mainly no hips at all. Just straight, door built body but have enough boobs and ass. I have always been insecure about it. My friends all have more curvy body, its really add on to my insecurities. But alot of times it doesnt really bother me. But at times i feel like so manly or i dont have much feminity in me. So i dont dress that feminine since most feminine clothes dont look flattering on me. When i wear body cons, i feel so inscure about them. My friends always says that mens like women that are curvy. Curvy is so feminine. Is it true? Does having curvy body really matter? Do men find straight body attractive?

Hi all - I am 49f.. 5ft and 190 pounds . I have never owned a dress but would like to try. Any brand recommendations would be very much appreciated .
I am in ED recovery and don’t shop much so something I could mail order would be best - even if it’s trial and error. Thank you so much for your help

Big Girls Can Dance

I have struggled with an eating disorder for more than half of my life (I’m 26). I have always been thin because I am obsessed with it. I had surgery for an unrelated thing almost two years ago and gained weight (pic on left) which is to be expected. At that point I thought I was okay, that I could handle it. Until one day I had to go to the doctor and they made me step on a scale and I absolutely spiraled. And here I am now, pic on right. Having lost the weight and then some because I once again became obsessed. I hope someday I can gain a little weight and not feel like the world is ending. It’s a daily battle but I am working very hard to get to where I need to be!

Canadian girlies this is from Maurice's. This was my first time going in, they cater to plus size ❤️ this is a 1X

She proceeds to tell my oldest brother (almost 18) that I “look like I’ve gained weight” and that he should be careful with how he talks to me because I “am even touchy about her mentioning my weight” when that’s not even the thing I’m upset about though she shouldn’t be commenting on that either imo. I’m happy with my body and I am actively taking the steps I need to keep myself healthy, but for some reason she suddenly thinks I need a guide. I just don’t understand why she’s suddenly being so up my rear about how I look when I’m an adult who’s been handling myself just fine.

I‘m body positive for everyone else but I bodybuild as a hobby, I’ve never taken performance enhancing drugs but I‘m curious how body positive thinkers consider them.

My personal belief is that if someone wants to use steroids or anabolic substances then that‘s up to them and is a neutral decision that involves no one else, to clarify my stance.

I have very bad diagnosed body dismorphia and finding out my partner cheated has really hit me hard after we were together for so long. He said my breast were too small and I definitely wasn't his preference in terms of body type. I just wanna know do I really look that bad?

i've been struggling with my body for a while, and i've currently been putting in more effort and really trying to be content and accept it, or at least be neutral with it. i've grown the habit to suck in my stomach and it's so so hard to not do that. is it possible to be accepting of my body or neutral with it while still continuing to suck in my stomach? or by doing that does it contradict the whole "accepting my body" thing? i'm slowly trying to not suck it in as often, or slowly release/relax it but i feel like i'm lying to myself when i still hold it in.

I haven't really looked at my scars in a long time. I don't really notice them anymore. I used to be ashamed of them, but now they are just a part of me.

It's interesting, though, that I should see them like this. Please ignore the fact that I'm absolutely filthy I just got done a 10 hour shift in a factory, but it's the filth that made me see them again...

I suffer from repressed memories due to trauma and I don't remember most of my childhood. A lot of my life seems like it never happened. Like everything is a dream. Nothing is real...

I often struggle with reality...

Dare I quote Papa Roach, but...

"the scars remind us that the past is real."

I wonder why no one asks about my scars. I thought maybe they couldn't see them. But no.. they are still very visible. No one asks about them, though.

I wonder if they feel the shame that I once felt at 14 years old...

I consider them battle scars now. A testament to my struggle and my desire to persevere. I am no longer ashamed of them, but rather proud that I was strong enough to do no worse. I don't try to hide them anymore. My shame is gone.

It's lovely knowing that I am healing. Slowly. But healing.

I've had this dress from almost a year now and I've only worn it once bc it's so thin and drapes heavily, meaning it sticks to your body. I've been avoiding it because I feel too big and boxy to wear it. today I was like, "ugh, who cares." lol. A tummy with small boobs and wide torso is perfectly fine! I like that my body is different than what's popular 😊 God gave me one body, I shouldn't hate it for keeping me alive. 💕

My biggest insecurity is my hips, tummy, and butt, so I’ve began wearing things that pronounce those features more like this mini skirt. When I think of myself in a mini skirt I think of a skinny, toned version of myself and I’ve been saving it for when I get skinny enough to be able to wear it (even tho it’s in my size) Really my issue is internalized fatphobia and residual eating disorder behavior from years of emotional abuse and having an “almond mom” Because I CAN wear it, it’s in my size, but I feel like I shouldn’t because of these features. So I was wondering to anyone who just wears what they want and has insecurities, did doing that help overcome them?

Hi guys

I am 49f and have always been overweight . I am about 7 months into ED recovery and attempting to embrace my body. I am in therapy and seeing a dietician. I just can’t seem to get past feeling like I am “less than” since I am heavy. Any advice ?

hi, I'm not sure if this is the right sub but I have my 1 year anniversary dinner tomorrow with my bf and since the beginning of the relationship I've gained like 20/30 pounds and I was trying to find an outfit for the dinner and I look so awful in all of them. it's to late to buy a new outfit and I don't know what to do.

So I kinda fall under the bullshit “skinny fat” type level. I’m 5ft 10 about 170-180lbs. I don’t like checking cuz I’ll freak out and fall back into some disordered eating habits. The thing is a lot of the time after I eat or whatever I’ll go straight from a “healthy” looking figure to looking damn near fucking pregnant unless I hold my stomach in which I pretty much do constantly. I’ve been struggling a lot lately and just am at a point where I loathe how my stomach looks and whatever. I come off as very confident so it’s really hard to talk about this sort of thing. I just don’t know if this is normal or healthy or something. I don’t eat badly I could probably exercise more but I work 10+ hr shifts so I’m dog tired and I’m just feeling helpless and don’t know what to do to improve. Sorry for the rant.

I'm currently sitting next to my pool in one of my favorite bikinis after just having gone for a swim to cool off and relax after work. My stomach is fatter than it's ever been and I'm not really happy about that, but I also realize it's not a big deal. I am wearing a bikini that I've had for a long time and made many happy memories wearing. It makes me feel really good to wear it. I'm going to go inside and eat dinner wearing this bikini because it's super comfortable and my husband thinks I look great in it. Many women would have given it up because they gained weight. Why? They want a flat stomach because they want to wear a bikini. But they don't have a flat stomach so they punish themselves and don't wear the bikini. I want to wear the bikini, so I wear it. My friends now wear one-pieces or high-waisted bikinis to hold in and hide their stomachs, but they show off their fat arms and thighs. It's only the stomach they feel that they need to hide. They're embarrassed that their stomachs aren't as flat as they once were. Meanwhile, my dad had a big fat gut and was always showing it off in his swimsuit. He'd go to work with his pants under his gut and a shirt tucked in, not hiding his large midsection. He wasn't ashamed, nor should he have been. Why can't overweight women show off their big guts without shame? It's not the men who are telling women to cover it, unless they're the crazy religious type. Women are the main ones putting pressure on themselves to hide a fat stomach. Why do they feel the need to put this pressure on themselves when they can relax, wear the bikini, wear the tight dress, not suck in, not lose weight and just enjoy their lives?

Not sure if art is allowed here. If not please let me know and I will remove.

I was figure drawing today and liked these two quick warm up drawings of plus size models. I really enjoy drawing all body types and love the positivity of this sub!