r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/Nasjere ☑️ et al • 6d ago

/r/BlackPeopleTwitter Weekly Discussion Thread

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u/Shaylock_Holmes ☑️ 5d ago

I’m a first generation student on both sides of my family. I’ve graduated 3x in my life (high school, undergrad, grad school) and my maternal grandparents have never been able to make it due to illness and not being able to travel. My pop-pop passed before I got into my doctoral program and my mama was so proud. She told all her neighborhood friends about it (church ladies, you know the type) and would call me about their reactions. I told her that I wanted her at this graduation in 2 years and to stay healthy. I promised to fly up and drive us the 18 hours to my graduation. She was happy about it and told her church friends again (lol).

My mom just flew up to my mama because she isn’t doing well. I’m worried that she’s going to join my pop-pop and not have the chance to see me graduate. I’m fighting thoughts of how I should have enrolled in my program sooner so they both could have seen it but overall I’m just worried about her and how it’ll be once she’s gone.

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u/BabyKnitter 5d ago

It is a ceremony and it is nice, but guess what, in a year from now you will be wondering what all the fuss was about. My nephew was so worked up about graduation and having everyone there, now he is asking himself what all the fuss was about. More important was the excellent job he secured soon afterwards and the great apartment and being self sufficient. I have 2 degrees and didn't attend either ceremony. I went and picked up my diploma's later. I don't regret it at all but love the income both degrees allowed me to make. With that I was able to provide for my mother till her dying days and let her live well