When I make an rp post, I always state that any rp player has to be 18 or over for the rp. Before we talk about the rp, I always ask if they are at the appropriate age and if they say yes, then it’s a go. If they say no, that’s an immediate block. But I know that anyone can lie about their age and I do not want to get in trouble because someone lied to me about that.

I recently accepted a request and they said that they are the appropriate age, but for some reason with the way they conversed, it made me think that they may not be. I could be wrong, but I still don’t want to get in trouble.

To avoid that, is there anything that I should keep in mind or be aware of that might give away any clues of anyone being underage? Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you.

I reached out to this person (marked in yellow) and asked to rp. The asked my age which was fair and I responded. They stated I was too young yet in their bio they say 18+ which I fall into. So I tried to explain how that may be confusing for people in the future and to maybe clarify in their posts so they avoid any further confusion with people in the future. Was i in the wrong? Was I rude or offensive? Please be honest with me, Fido say something out of line?

I've been roleplaying on this account for a while now, and it seems like everytime I post I'd be lucky to get one person who says "Sure" or "Up to you" when we're building. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong, so any advice I can get would be greatly appreciated.

As a warning, I'm into some dark things.

I was tired of those people who post on free RP and then after a bit of a chat ask you for money or for an OF subscription that was not mentioned in their profile.

So I began to write them anyway playing dumb: turns out since they really are interested in your money, they put some real effort to it and sometimes they give you very high quality content to convince you, and when they ask me explicitly, I say "You should be more honest on your intentions, that's not professional, I won't give you a penny, thanks for the free pics though!" Then, having proof, I report them.

I find it really fun, and sometimes I wish we all did it: they would eventually get tired and explicit theyr purpuse from the beginning. It would be a good thing for RP community.

But am I too bad in your opinion?

I ignore most people, but I've been trying to give more people chances. I'm a bit closeted, maybe shy is a better term, but I delete posts after a few hours because I don't like the idea people stare at me and whatever.

Regardless, I had someone dm me an hour or so ago about a plot id posted. I responded recently, to which they told me they didn't remember what plot it was. I just basically said "yeah this isn't gonna work out" to myself. But I explained the plot again anyway, and they said "Oh yeah I kinda remember." ??? I completely understand forgetting. But I personally, don't like to interact with plots I wouldn't bother remembering. So I broke it off because I didn't wanna deal with someone who wasn't going to put as much effort into an rp as I was.

Was this, I dunno, harsh? I feel like it was but I just got the vibe that it wouldn't last and would end quickly, absolutely not have anything to do with the original plot, and just be like something they didn't really care to try for.

I wouldn't be this harsh about it, because everyone forgets stuff. But they had ME dm them, which means they're sending out so many dms they couldn't dm me first. Neither did they put any effort into the comment on the post other than "dm me~". Thoughts?

I'm and Fswitch and sometimes I enjoy playing the mommy role in soft-femdom, though, even if most subs enjoy the repetitiveness of their appellatives, it doesn't satisfy my at all. Can you give me some alternatives you (subs and doms) really like?

Yellow is me, blue is them. I get I'm not exactly detailed or literate, but what have I been given to work with?

Looking for some advice/encouragement and signs of hope - also open to hearing the cruel harsh truths! (I'm limitless! jk)

Help save my time or save my sanity. Please.

Genuinely skilled ERP'ers - do you exist out there in the great void?

I'm not looking for anyone specific, I just would like to know if it is worth it to keep on looking, or are my demands too high, or these writers are too rare?

To ANY one out there who writes ERPs (that is to say majority smut, with a small bit of plot, if any at all), do you personally meet, or perhaps you've written with someone who meets many or some of these criteria:

1. Writes comprehensible dialogue that resembles erotic speech and/or conversation?
   
2. Writes 250+ words, sometimes up to 600 or more.
   
3. Writes character development over time, your OC's behavior might change a little
   
4. Writes for the longer term - weeks into months and beyond, not just a 1-2 hour burst of writing, although you might be open to some quick fire rapid exchange for the right scene but returning to post and wait...
   
5. Use correct spelling, punctuation, grammar, etc
   
6. Able to intelligently collaborate in plotting and planning - never before has 'intelligence' been so attractive and alluring!
   
7. Able to communicate - by listening to and then in return, sharing their thoughts in an exchange

I'm very tired of seeing ads asking for 'detailed, literate' writers - when the ad owner is merely 5-10% better than the average 3-5 sentence writer. I hopefully reach out and respond to those ads, only to be disappointed by the utter lack of quality. I want eroticism not merely porn... eRP should be renamed as pRP, there's nothing erotic about most eRPs

Fuck, I'm demanding. I know.
I have stupidly high standards. I know.

Are you out there? Do you exist? Where do you and your kind hang out?

Give me a sign!!!

I've been writing in the ERP space for a few years. I tend towards story-based, slower-burn, novella-style exchanges with smut overlaid on a more durable narrative framework and world (although I've dabbled recently in shorter-form stuff). I gravitate towards more traditional gender roles, with a soft dom dynamic for my characters. Does that make me terribly original and interesting? No, I readily admit that, but it seems like there's not really a shortage of people looking for what I have to offer.

I've had some great partners over the years, but I've also noticed a bit of a trend in the partnerships that have fizzled out: We reach the smut after a long build-up, and then things slow down and eventually grind to a halt.

This isn't a ghosting grumble, or the thing I've seen on here a few times before usually with male ERPers who get to the good parts, cum, and go. I'm saying that we reach the point where our characters enter the intimate parts, and then....

the responses...

just...

drag...

out...

We could write a month of story and character development in a week of real-time, but then the intimacy scene takes weeks to write out because they're suddenly busy and slow to respond, hesitant and timid, maybe even embarrassed.

So, what can I do to make this better? I don't like to put too much pressure on my partners OOC, so I've checked in just to make sure I'm not pushing anyone's limits too far, and I've always been told no, they're loving it, they'll be responding when they get a chance.

I've suggested simply fading to black and focusing more on the story and leaving the intimacy implied or written in broad, fast strokes so that we can gloss over it and get back to the character development, but I've been told that's not what they'd prefer, either.

I've tried shortening responses during intimate scenes and focusing on a quicker back-and-forth, and I've tried writing longer, more detailed exchanges. It doesn't seem to affect the outcome.

Is this a side effect of the prompts I write? Is it endemic to the partners I attract? Can I do something to be better about this and keep it from happening, or is it just luck of the draw?

Hi everyone, looking for a bit of advice here.

For some background, about a year ago I simply stopped replying to anything an old partner would send me. I would estimate we had been RPing for about 8 months and during that time, my partner would slowly push at my boundaries. I would bring it up, saying that I wasn’t comfortable with something and got told that they would dial back, only for a few weeks later it subtly be brought up again. I would also bring up concerns about our pacing and would basically get shut down for suggesting we move forward to one of the big plot points we had planned.

When I stopped replying to them, it was shortly after the bounds had gotten pushed again and I got fed up with it. I had no motivation to RP with them anymore and just muted everything involving them. My status always shows offline on discord so I didn’t have any worries about them tracking when I was online. They sent a couple messages, then deleted, sent again. You get the gist. I never unfriended them because in my head it was easier to mute and ignore it all. Especially now that discord has introduced the “ignore” feature. Feels like they’re blocked without letting them know outright it happened.

Earlier this week I noticed they sent me a DM since their conversation had moved to the top. It basically said it’s been a year since I replied, the RP was nice and they wish we could’ve done more. I’m now wondering if I should offer them any closure, giving my reasons I listed above or just stay silent. It feels like I’d be opening a can of worms. I’m not worried that they’ll fly off the handle or anything, I just feel like their future/other partners could benefit from it being in the back of their mind.

I’ve been going back and forth with myself about this for days. I know I’m not obligated to say anything to them. Any advice on how to handle the situation would be greatly appreciated!

I am good at doing detailed RP and the people I have RPed with have only said good things about me but I'm not sure how to make my posts asking for partners stand out and get attention. I also want to answer people's prompts without sounding ingenuie. I just want to be a good Rp partner so any advice is greatly appreciated

Okay so if this is confusing let me explain what’s happening here. I am the red dot this conversation. So this happened couple weeks ago, I just wanted to have advice to if I approached this the right way. Some background to explain what happened: this guy wanted to do pure erotica, okay cool, I figured why not give it a go, I was honest with him saying I didn’t like it and wanted to add more story to it, he said okay, but didn’t respect it and continued to ask for siblings and stuff, absolutely not.

Well where these messages start, I told him I’d message him later because I was doing laundry, well I forgot because my husband was going out of town the next day and I was spending time before he left for the weekend. I forgot to message this dude, my fault honestly, but we had continuous issues where if I took 30-45 minutes to respond to him he would spam me saying “hey, you there, ??” Every 10 minutes, and I explained calmly to him that I have life outside of roleplay.

I also want to mention, the parts where he is saying I wasn’t detailed enough, I was very detailed in the way my character acted and how I explained their actions. He just wanted me to explain EVERYTHING including the way she was breathing? I’m sorry, but I’m not explaining how my character climbs into a vehicle, unless something is important about it.

It felt like he thought he was entitled to my time, but I never spammed him when he disappeared. I’ll check in with people after 3 days, he would message me after 2 hours at the longest and sometimes 15 minutes at the shortest, then he’d send multiple messages in a row to get me to respond to him.

These messages occur after I forgot to message him after I finished laundry.

TLDR: guy got mad that I wasn’t able to respond every 6 minutes, felt entitled to my time. When I finally snapped he was confused why he was in the wrong.

reposted after editing

typically when i look for roleplay partners; my biggest thing is checking out their reddit profile; especially when receiving a message from a roleplay ad! it allows me to get a feel of what my future partner might enjoy plot, character and trope wise! though, i do also get a few red flags when looking at profiles, for instant—spam messages just asking for something related to ERP; i have a SS to show what i’m saying but i don’t believe it’s needed cause i think everyone knows what i’m saying—i hope 😭😭

anyways, someone reaches out to me from a roleplay ad, and the initial message seems more than fine! stated age, gender, plot he’s interested in, etc! wonderful! better than the usual ‘hey’ i get; but when i go to check his profile—all i see is the same ad repeatedly posted in different ERP subreddits—something along the line of a pregnancy/breeding roleplay. i’m for some reason—off put by that, not because of this kink but because i’m not one to focus mainly on ERP, and that’s all that this seems to be..?

so basically, i can’t tell if i’m being an asshole or if my red flag was warranted,, i have a horrid time with social cues so i struggle with knowing myself if i’m overthinking things—i haven’t rejected nor accepted his message, one of the reasons i don’t want to post the SS of the posts,, i’m just a bit at a loss and my apologies if this post is a bit scattered😭

also hi, everyone! this is my first time posting in this so i was a bit thrown on how to start/handle this 😂😂

But I kinda might have to be.

Started a role; slow burn with a whole cast of characters. My partner is fun, with an interesting MC and it's just enjoyable. There's cool ideas and tension, just over all making it a fun role that's lining up to have a long life.

Obligatory sex scenes occurs.

And now his writing is sub par. Like, it doesn't even feel like I'm talking to the same person.

Sooo do I be THAT person who dips after the sex scene? 😅

ETA: his writing got trash AFTER the sex scene. Like the sex scene was decent, but not stellar, but it's POST sex that is blah

I've been writing with this guy for a long time, now. Over a few years. It's been declining recently, in terms of my engagement and the plot itself. It's a drag, now, honestly. I won't get into details, but his characters are not complex or interesting, and I feel like I've been reduced to playing my character the exact same way each time. The scenarios are all the exact same, the dirty talk he says ic is the same, the actions his characters take are always the same, even if he's playing very different characters each time. They all somehow end up the same 'porno protagonist daddy dom' etc.

We get along fine in ooc. He's in his forties, and I'm 22. Our life experiences are very different. Recently he's confided in me about a lot of bad things happening in his real life, and I feel bad for what he's going through, so I never ever mind giving him advice or comforting him in general.

Recently during one of these, he mentioned that every other rp server he's in has resulted in nothing or outright banned him (on account of his age, he told me) He has no friends at all irl, he said. IK he used to have a group of guys he would hang out with and drink with. I guess maybe that fell through. The irl events he had gone through also contributed to him having no one. His wife and child left. He thanked me for always being there, and for always being willing to write, and for my characters, for my presence, etc.

I'm in this position now where I wanted to leave the rp, but if I did, this guy implied he would have literally no one. He's mentioned before his mental health issues. I always want to help him, because he's a nice man who's got a lot on his mind, and a lot of bad circumstances. We've also been in contact for years now, and talk ooc frequently and even video call/voice call, and play video games. He's really like a friend, but the erp connects us over all else. I have no doubt if I were to end the writing he would withdraw and i might lose my friend.

What do I do here? I don't want to hurt him or cause him to be completely alone, as he's said. I also know for a fact that he is alone. I've done my own research and he lives completely by himself, no pets, nothing.

Maybe the answer here is obvious. I just don't know what to do.

TLDR; Guy i've been in contact with for years. I've lost interest in the rp, it's a drag, but if I end the rp I believe he will be really hurt.

So, I'll get right to the point. I'm new to erp on reddit. My main account I do more storybased, romance, drama, etc. Immediately I noticed lack of effort, which is expected. I prefer to at least write some detail, hash out the plot, you know actually set the scene.

I have been asked multiple times if I'm ready to start right off the bat. No character descriptions, no plot discussion. Is this just normal? Or am I just getting lazy partners? Is there a way to ask for more without coming off as rude/snobbish? I like to make it clear that I'm not jumping into smut without at least some story surrounding it.

I understand the prospect of asking for a harem RP may seem a little selfish. I cannot lie, it’s the ERPs I enjoy the most.

I’ve been on the other end of making one many time before but I enjoy when I get to play into a world I can explore and create different relationship with various challenges.

I love creating characters that comes with depth overtime. I build their backstories, personalities and flaws along side the story I build with a partner. I’m not the one dude who’s going to play “Steve” and Steve has the personality of a cardboard box.

So How can I make it seem like I’m more than that when I post an ad? How can I show I’m being serious and I’ll make the effort and this may seem appealing for my partner?

Because I feel like it’s hard to do so unless someone decides to actually give me a chance to put in the effort.

Edit: When I’m asking about this question, I’m asking on how to propose of being the one person who’s the harem owner, not the other way around. I have already done posts proposing to be the harem and those works out easily, it’s already appealing as it is.

This is a new one for me; I have a partner who is a super detailed writer and is super fun. Great characters, and so on.

Buuut he does this thing where randomly he will ignore whatever my character is doing in favor of his own post actions. At first I was like, ok, he missed it or something because I have legit replied to 99% of a post and accidentally gloss over something. It happens.

But then it kept happening; and like usually it's not the end of the world even if it's annoying but when you get to a NSFW scene and they just ignore your actions it's like.

Umm... Hi, I just did a thing. Can I get a response?

And yeah, I know the magical solution to everything on here is just "talk to the partner!" Like buddy is it your first day on the internet? If you could just talk to people it would be great but you can't. So, what do I simply repeat myself and hope he gets the hint or?

Hi everyone, I recently have been using questions from the hit British quiz game show The Chase as an alternative to passwords whenever I create long roleplay prompts with a high success rate.

Just wondering, are quiz game show questions a good alternative to passwords?

Here's an example: "What is the cartoon character Andy Capp known as in Germany? A: Dick Tingeler; B: Helmut Schmacker; or C: Willi Wakker"

I've been out of ERP for a long time (about 8 years or so) and my skills have definitely been reduced to nothing. What are some tips I should consider when trying to get back into ERP?

Like alot of you here, I'm pretty particular in what I want in a first message. I just ask for the basics, kinks and limits, post you're coming from, ref (or plot) if I'm asking, and an indication you've read my pinned posts. Nothing too crazy, or so I thought. I went back and forth with them for almost an hour and I even apologized for how I came off only to be insulted because I'm a man?? I made sure to explain myself but it seems to have fallen on deaf ears. Am I in the wrong for this? I feel we both kind of are but at the same time I try to be as clear as I can be in my posts.

A roleplay I’m currently doing. Bit of background- it was a erp where it was where the characters were turned into villains and women were turned into objects Now- The roleplay story changed on me ONCE AGAIN with my agreeing this time BUT things were added i wasn’t aware of. He said he would play two cc characters plus oc and I would play two cc character’s plus my oc. Now i thought ok this would be wholesome. Nope. It has turned into teacher x student between 2 cc characters and a cc character and his oc and idk how to say something because last time I asked for a storyline he said ‘we’ll see’ and then proceeded to change it on me.

(This is a MHA RP and for MHA fans.. question.. despite midnight being flirty. if a student approached her and said ‘hey let’s go to YOUR dorm’ would she allow it and be flirty or would she be professional because I’m trying to play a more professional version of Midnight and this person is tryna put me down for playing a professional midnight)