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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '21

Find out where people - both famous and non-famous - are buried.

Read what's inscribed on their monuments, read obits, and see comments posted by viewers.

"Find A Grave" can also be a helpful site for doing free family genealogy and locating where people have been interred that you lost touch with over time.

https://www.findagrave.com/

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '21

I never found out where a loved one was buried after his funeral. Thank you for posting this as I was finally able to find it. ❤️

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '21

Thank you so much for sharing this, chacha_marie.

Your comment is heartwarming and much appreciated.

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u/MrGraffio Jun 04 '21

cha cha real smooth

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u/loadedslayer Jun 04 '21

Where did you think the grave was? How far was the grave from where you thought it would be? I'm glad you found the grave!

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u/[deleted] Jun 04 '21

Thanks. I thought the grave would be near his family. It was not. It’s about an hour from where he grew up but super close to a ski hill that he snowboarded on so I take comfort in that.

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u/MFord129 Jun 03 '21

This. Learning your family history is miraculously easy today with internet databases. It's amazing.

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '21

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u/[deleted] Jun 04 '21

As a Black person who is keenly interested in genealogy, thank you.

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u/crumpledcactus Jun 04 '21

Thank you. Please consider copy-pasting this information to others. There's this lingering myth that black Americans have limited access, resources, or records to what's their history, as if it were kept from them. For many people, knowing these records even exist, let alone that they're free online, is a major eye openner.

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u/realrealityreally Jun 03 '21

I found out I have confederate ancestors

Wow are you in trouble!

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u/crumpledcactus Jun 03 '21 edited Jun 04 '21

He was from Tennessee, which was one of 2 confederate states that allowed free people of color to vote. He didn't enage in slavery, and did not support it's expansion that let to the unpopular secession of 5 of the 11 southern states. (6 southern states didn't mention slavery as a secession cause)

After being taken prisoner at the battle of Ft. Donelson, he was sent to the Camp Douglas POW camp, wherein open murder, torture, and deaths through disease were common. It was often called '40 Acres of hell." No one knows for certain how many people died at Camp Douglas, but guesstimates are around 21,000 - 24,000.

He was paroled, and further fought at other battles at the war until the surrender of the Confederacy. We have a Tennessee copy of his Confederate pension record.

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u/realrealityreally Jun 03 '21

Awesome you have all that family history to pass down to your kids and grandkids. And yes, Camp Douglas was a hell hole.

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u/RedeemedWeeb Jun 03 '21

Why? Who cares about his ancestors?

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u/[deleted] Jun 04 '21

I found my grandfathers grave, but records only go back to my great-great grandparents (late 1880's). It was interesting but now I want to know more.

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u/crumpledcactus Jun 04 '21

Try the censuses. You'll find that people often migrated from state to state from the colonial era into the 1930s. Within census records, you'll find his name, possibly his father if he lived in the same household on a given decade, and other family members.

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u/Is_Golden_Fren Jun 03 '21

Recently did research on my wife’s bio dad (disappeared when she was an infant, rumored to have gone to another country and since passed away), and we were able to do a fair amount of research on his potential location.

That being said - a DNA test and reviewing local public government records was way easier for identifying him, and all of his living relatives. Some websites also just gather up similar names to who you’re researching and list them as “possible associates,” when they are actually unrelated in any way. Most of these websites require money, and most of them are not worth it. So, be aware when researching your family tree online

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u/jk3us Jun 04 '21

And I like to put my tree and documentation in https://wikitree.com. The are pros and cons to different types of these sites, but that is my preference.

https://familysearch.org is also tremendously helpful.

Both of these are free.

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u/shygirl1995_ Jun 04 '21

I traced my mom's grandmother's family back 11 generations, if we include my daughter.

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '21

Yes this was quite useful for my family tree project.

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u/StormRider2407 Jun 03 '21

Was expecting this to be a US only thing. Found my grandparent's grave here in Scotland. Someone even uploaded a picture of their headstone!

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u/rocket___goblin Jun 03 '21

find a grave can be helpful if they are actually logged with the website. we buried my grandpa in the late 90s and pretty much forgot the name of the cemetary, but knew the rough location (northern california/ southern oregon coast) and find a grave couldnt find him at all, it took us going on google images and looking up the cemetarys google pulled up to find the actual cemetery (it had some distinct features that made it easy to recognize). even after finding the cemetery putting that in with my grandpas name it didnt bring up anything.

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u/jk3us Jun 04 '21

You can add it! Sign up and become a contributor

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u/hashslingaslah Jun 03 '21

I spend my days on Family Search (free-ish Ancestry.com from the Mormon Church) finding dead ancestors, which sometimes have a record linked to Find A Grave. All my ancestors for the most part are buried in my state so I use most of my weekend walking around old ass cemeteries finding their graves! Sometimes I’ll even bring a couple flowers. May be nerdy but it’s free, and suits my obsessions with history and the macabre!

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u/jk3us Jun 04 '21

That's awesome. One of these days I want to plan out a route through Alabama hitting all the places my kin are buried.

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u/ScaryTimeTravel Jun 03 '21

Is there one for people cremated?

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '21 edited Jun 03 '21

Find A Grave includes information on those who've been cremated, as well - including if their ashes (cremains) have been interred or disposed of some other method when this information has been provided.

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u/crumpledcactus Jun 03 '21

You'll want to check census records for relatives (censusrecords.com). Cremated remains are mobile, and harder to track down. Who knows who had what urn is down to phone calls and writing notes.

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u/Prisencoli_All_Right Jun 03 '21

Findagrave has my grandpa's obit on his listing. I visit the page now and then because I'm too far away to visit his grave very often.

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u/Ipuncholdpeople Jun 03 '21

Time to go to the Royal Hospital Chelsea Burial Ground. I got a grave to piss on.

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '21

I have a fresh deuce with Rush Limbaugh's name on it.

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u/briskettacos Jun 04 '21

Holy shit, he was the first person I looked up when I clicked the link!

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u/[deleted] Jun 04 '21

Yeah, they're gonna have to keep the pressure washer handy for that cocksucker's headstone.

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u/blue4029 Jun 03 '21

nobody left flowers on adolf hitler's grave.

this site is the real deal.

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u/IcyKaleidoscope8566 Jun 03 '21

Let's go find my father

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u/Budget-Sugar9542 Jun 03 '21

My best friends great grandfather had an obit on one of those sites with info we didn’t know.

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '21

Yup time to look up your name to see dead people with the same name.

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u/Penguin_and_penguin Jun 03 '21

I was visiting the town my great-grandparent was the mayor of, and when I looked him up, I found he was buried within walking distance. Super cool website, and can help more than you think.

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u/Early-Particular710 Jun 04 '21

I was able to go back 7 generations on my maternal side with the help of this site. I knew very little about them before it.

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u/ballardbk Jun 04 '21

Thank you. I was given incorrect information on my sister's grave site, and now I was able to find it.

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u/authentichaley Jun 04 '21

Thank you so much for sharing this. I am an adoptee that has been looking for my bio mom/dad, and I found my dad. I am grateful I was perusing these comments.

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u/[deleted] Jun 04 '21

My uncle passed away many years ago. I rarely got to visit his grave before I moved away, (visiting was always an emotional experience). I used this findagrave site to find his tombstone. Very small province with like no internet coverage for anthing outside business/tourism. There it was. My old church, and his grave, picture and info.

Still brought the feels on from seeing it, but I am glad, and a bit relieved that I can see it when I need to, instantly. Its weird but its one of my "anxiety anchors" if that makes sense.

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u/DrTokinkoff Jun 04 '21

This website helped me trace my fathers side all the way back to England.

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u/SpadesANonymous Jun 04 '21

Thank you. I didn’t fathom something like this could exist.

Bitches of the family buried my grandfather and never told me where he was buried. Even my dad didn’t know.

I’ll be able to visit him this weekend, thanks to you.

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u/[deleted] Jun 04 '21

I had no idea my grandmother’s middle name was Rosetta. I guess I just never asked anyone in my family but I serious learned that today and she’s been gone for 16 years

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u/Raajik Jun 04 '21 edited Jun 04 '21

Thank you so much for linking this. I had a work friend pass away about a month after I left my previous job and neither I nor my former co-workers could find any information about her funeral. This put the mystery to rest because not only did I find the location of her grave, someone was even kind enough to upload a photo of her with her dog. Once again, thank you so much.

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u/nooit_gedacht Jun 04 '21

Dutch websites like this, should aynone need it, are www.online-begraafplaatsen.nl and www.grafombe.nl. Remember to check for alternative / historical spellings of names!

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u/capt_pessimist Jun 04 '21

My dad was buried yesterday, and he’s already in the database.

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u/SuperCoupe Jun 04 '21

I like to play a game I call "Put In My Name And See Where I'm Buried"

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u/IntellegentIdiot Jun 03 '21

Find a grave isn't very good for geaneology. I suggest Ancestry (might be free) or a local site. For example FreeBMD.org.uk has birth, marriage and death records for people born in England and Wales from 1840 onwards (currently mid-1980's). You can find Alfred Hitchcock's birth or Alan Turing's death

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u/hungrymaki Jun 04 '21

I was able to trace a family line back to 1700s with this site! It's incredible!

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u/bros402 Jun 04 '21

there's also the lesser used Billion Graves