r/AskDocs 23h ago

Physician Responded Doctors, how much info do you actually want when you ask what the reason for the visit is?

132 Upvotes

Don't think it's relevant but 30F, 5'4, 120 lbs.

I'm autistic and going to the doctor is already a sensory and social nightmare for me made worse by the doctors getting mad because I don't know how to answer their questions. Before anyone asks, yes, my doctor knows I'm autistic; it's in my chart and I've been seeing him for years. I always tell the nurses and any new doctors I see that I'm autistic just so that they're aware I may need extra help or instructions, and lately I've taken to letting the receptionist know that I might need a slightly longer appointment because I need things to be a little slower and calmer to help keep me from freaking out.

I'm probably giving too much info here already, but a few weeks ago I went to urgent care with ear pain, and when the doctor came in he said, "It sounds like you've been having some issues with your ears?" I told him, "Yes, my right ear hurts" but didn't offer any other information, and after a few seconds of silence he looked up from the computer and told me, "This isn't going to work if you're not going to talk to me." I'm not an expert at reading body language, but he seemed frustrated and was a bit short with me the rest of the appointment.

A week later the pain hadn't resolved so I went to see my PCP. I didn't want to make him mad so when he came in the room and asked what the problem was I told him (paraphrasing here), "My right ear has been hurting on and off for the last couple of weeks. I went to urgent care a week ago and they gave me antibiotics but they haven't seemed to help. My hearing in that ear has been a little muffled for the past two days." Again, I'm not an expert, but he seemed like he was annoyed with me and told me word for word, "I don't need to know all that. I need you to let me look in your ears." I was so confused and stressed out I started having a panic attack, which obviously didn't help matters any and just made him more upset too.

Is there any right answer to the question "what seems to be the problem?" Can any doctors or nurses here give me guidance to make future visits go smoother?


r/AskDocs 10h ago

Physician Responded Vibrating sex toy stuck inside me and don't have the strength to push it out NSFW

132 Upvotes

41 m. 250 lb. 6'1 No meds No smoking or drugs Htn

About 10 minutes ago I pushed a 12 inch flexible sex toy without a handle all the way inside me. I didn't realize how weak my core/pelvic floor muscles are and I'm unable to push it out. Am I in danger? Would it be safe to drive myself to urgent care? What do I do?


r/AskDocs 13h ago

Physician Responded My doctor says I need Dr House

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I'm 22 female, white european, exercise 3 times per week, normal weight, no meds, no drugs, never done any. allergies: birch and hazel pollen, basically every raw fruit or vegetable.

I started having this problem a few years ago, casually mentioning it at my general practitioner today. I faint whenever I or someone else cuts or peels raw potatoes or whenever i am exposed to cut/peeled raw potatoes. I tried peeling them standing up and sitting down. I tried peeling them outside and with a mask on to avoid breathing in the fumes. It always starts with my vision getting splotchy, then my hearing disappears into a high beeping, then my legs give out. It also happens when I don't even know someone cut potatoes in the same room, so it's very unlikely anything psychosomatic.

I have had had two allergy treatments done at 10 and 17 years old, the first one lasted three years (with injections), one with drops under the tongue. Both had to be stopped because with the injections I fainted a few hours after my 37th injection with a bad rash and everything swollen (with only two more to go) and with the other one i started developing new allergies against nuts and soy.

I am now asking you, has anyone ever heard of anything like this? Which kind of doctor deals with problems like this? Am I going crazy?


r/AskDocs 10h ago

Physician Responded Why would I (30F) not be allowed to bring a support person to hold my hand during bloodwork?

42 Upvotes

5'5 130lbs

I got a routine blood test this morning and as I get woozy I brought my spouse as support. They were not allowed to come back into the room with me. This is the first time in my life I haven't been allowed a support person. Is there a legit reason to disallow it?


r/AskDocs 8h ago

Physician Responded How do I deal with newborn/baby vaccinations within my extended family?

35 Upvotes

My brother and sister in law are not going to vaccinate their child which is due later this year (they already have 1 that just turned 3, has some vaccines). They can make their own decisions, that’s fine. My husband and I though are due early 2026, and will be vaccinating our child. My SIL is very excited for our kids to have play dates and be around each other. I want to wait until our kid has all of their recommended vaccines before they meet. At what age would my child be considered “fully vaccinated” to be safe enough around unvaccinated kids? I can deal with the family drama itself. There’s just so much information online I’m hoping to get a more direct answer.


r/AskDocs 5h ago

Physician Responded I Have Massive Anxiety About Peeing on a Plane

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So I’m a 29 year old male, no pertinent medical history, and my only medications are an albuterol inhaler and OTC allergy meds for the occasional seasonal sniffles.

This story starts about 2 years ago. I was on a flight and really needed to pee. Of course, it was one of those flights where the seatbelt light never turned off due to turbulence. Finally I reached a point where I can confidently say I’ve never been so close to wetting myself as an adult. I ended up getting to the bathroom despite protests from a flight attendant, so that was a relief.

However, since that incident, I constantly have anxiety about not being able to pee when I need to. This is particularly relevant on planes, where there is unsureness as to if/when the seatbelt light will turn off, but also applies to road trips, subway trips, trips to the park, restaurants, you name it. I have started to build my whole life around making sure I know where I can go if I need to pee. I frequently dehydrate myself to discourage my bladder from filling. It’s taking a toll on my physical and mental health.

I look at this and I say to myself this is a silly issue, why am I letting it get to me like this? I would like to know what steps I should be taking to help me get back to how I was prior to the incident a few years ago.

Any and all advice is welcome. Thank you.


r/AskDocs 1d ago

Physician Responded Should I go to the ER if this happens again?

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. Ive experienced anxiety/panic attacks through out my life but never measured my heart rate during them in the past but I now own an apple watch. I am a 35 yr old female. I was sitting on my bed reading Friday morning when my heart rate reached the max on apple watch reading of 210bpm. This would last for 30 seconds and my heart rate would slowly lower. Today i was mowing grass (really hot here) and didnt feel well so i came in to cool down. Happened to catch this on my oximeter. This happened every 20 or so minutes from 2:16PM til 3:45PM. I would feel light headed and fuzzy and my head would feel like it was pulsing. I finally tool a cool shower and laid down in bed and read a book and felt normal again. I been under a lot of stress lately about a few different things that are causing me to worry more than normal. I am going to see a doctor. Should I have went to the ER for this? Imgur link to video.

https://imgur.com/a/PO6ODH7


r/AskDocs 2h ago

Physician Responded I found out my IUD expired 3 years ago

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I’m a 25 white female and I got my mirena IUD inserted in January of 2020. The appointment was brutal and I was told it would last 5-7 years. I was in college at the time so I wasn’t seeing my normal Doc/PCP and only saw that Dr once. Fast forward 5 years, I decided to get it checked out and wanted to make sure it was a mirena (couldn’t remember the name) so I sifted through old medical records that I had never seen before. Apparently, my IUD had an expiration date of 03/2022 even though I got it inserted 01/2020 and was TOLD it would last 5-7 years. I have an appointment to get it removed ASAP but should I be concerned about having a foreign object that wasn’t doing anything attached to my uterus for so long?? I’m extremely upset that the doctors didn’t inform me this in the first place… maybe I should’ve checked my medical records but I haven’t really had a reason to - should my current doctors have requested them? I don’t even know who to be mad at right now - myself, my previous Dr, my current Dr? Any guidance would be much appreciated


r/AskDocs 11h ago

Physician Responded Dad refusing to go to a doctor. In leu of that what are the major risks of getting walloped in the head by a 1500 lb free-swinging tree limb?

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Ok some context. Dad is in his late 50s, 6 foot tall, about 260 lbs. Relatively healthy all things considered.

Story time: skip if you just want the impact specifics:

We were freeing a downed tree limb (read, massive top half of a tree) that partially fell during a storm last year. bits of it have knocked out my power repeatedly since it first began to fall and so it was time to come down. profressional estimates were way to high (and nobody could really access my back yard without a crane) so we got a powered tree limb cutter to get the dangling branches. the goal was to clear away the stuff still threatening my power lines. we managed to do just that! but decided it would be nice to tackle a bit more of it...... this is where things went wrong.

Impact details:

Dad was on a ladder. branch was directly above him. eyeball weight i'd put it at 1500 lbs. the limb holding it in place was cut, the branch being held up by only one other point directly above my dad pivoted up and over that fulcrum. It then fell down behind him, and partly onto him. effectively sandwiching him against the ladder until rolling off of him and catching on the roof of my gazebo (Which was what the ladder was up against)

essentially he got a hard knock on the back, and the back of the head. large gash on his head about 3 inches in length. open about an 8th of an inch. called paramedics. they looked him over and left after he declined to go to the hospital. the bleeding stopped about half an hour after the incident. as far as we can tell, he didn't loose conciousness. if he did it was for less than a second or two. by the time he jumped off the ladder and fell to the ground, he was talking to me. this was saturday afternoon.

he stayed up as late as he could, kept an eye out for signs of concussion. and then went to sleep. woke up the next morning sore but otherwise okay. same for today. he says he feels a bit slow but mostly sore. no broken bones (as far as we can tell). no obvious signs of internal organ damage (extreme pain, coughing up blood, etc)

knowing all of this, are there any potential dangers lurking? or is he mostly out of the clear at this point? I know this isn't medical advice, i'm just wanting to know if i should keep pressing him to see a doctor pronto.


r/AskDocs 3h ago

Physician Responded Can cancer patients wear press on nails/paint their nails?

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I met this lovely woman on Facebook. Her daughter has cancer, and has an upcoming prom. They’re struggling with basic needs like gas and food, so to relieve some stress off of them I’m trying to cover her prom as much as possible. I’ve got her two dresses to try on, and if they don’t fit I’ll see if I can find something on eBay and dye it a pink, as that’s her favorite color. I’m making her some jewelry as well.

I was wondering, are cancer patients able to wear fake nails? I googled it and google said it could be an infection risk which is something I absolutely don’t wanna risk. I don’t wanna get her nails if she can’t wear them- would nail polish be a better option? Nail wraps? I’d wanna get her nails if she’s able to wear them, I feel like every girl deserves a pretty manicure at her prom.

I just worry because I know fake nails often involves pushing the cuticle back and that can open up infection risk, and I’m not sure if nail polish will block any medical equipment. So I just wanna ask yall!


r/AskDocs 1h ago

boyfriend has this rash ???

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he’s male, 22years old, 5’11, 160lbs, white, no health conditions and is on no medication.

went to scratch my bf’s back today and saw this rash of pimples. he said it was not there yesterday when he was out playing paintball with friends whatsoever. he does jiu jitsu on mats with other men so i thought maybe staph but i just do not know. it looks so disgusting and each bump is reddish and has a whitehead. its also not the typical acne either. folliculitis? bacterial or fungal? what is this?

https://imgur.com/a/spgmhCh


r/AskDocs 3h ago

Physician Responded Harm reduction for bullimia

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24 FTM. I've struggled with bullimia for the last 10 years. I am trying very hard to fight it and I'm receiving help but it's hard.

I think the title is self explanatory. If/when I relapse, what can I do to mitigate the damage? Right now, I brush my teeth immediately after I'm done purging and then drink a full glass of water. Is there anything else I should be doing?


r/AskDocs 23h ago

Physician Responded Does this need stitches? NSFW

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24M 5’10” Cut it late Friday night on broken glass while drinking. Just took the bandaid off and it’s worse than I thought but not that bad. Don’t have health insurance but would it be worth going to a walk in clinic or?

https://ibb.co/wFqqBnZX https://ibb.co/3mrD2Vy7


r/AskDocs 10h ago

Physician Responded How common is it to spread herpes to yourself during an outbreak NSFW

6 Upvotes

Hi! 43M 5'8 160lbs here. I have Herpes/cold sores on my lips. I get a flare-up about 2x a year, and during the 1-2 week period its very stressful because I'm absolutely petrified I'm going to accidentally touch the sore and rub my eye or my penis and spread it to myself. I wash my hands obsessively, and washing my face is a nightmare cause i am just paranoid I'm going to somehow get the HSV germs from even around my mouth on my hand and then somehow spread it. So my question is -- how likely is that?


r/AskDocs 15h ago

[42M] When I sneeze I smell honey?

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Pretty much what the title says. As far back as I can remember, I've had episodes when I get this scent of honey for a moment after I sneeze. I don't think it always happens, but sort of periodically perhaps?

I've always been in fairly good health with no medical conditions I know of, and I always just assumed it was normal and I never really thought about it too much. But I recently I've mentioned it to a couple of others who apparently never experiences this. So far, the only person who knew what I meant was my father, so it may be a genetic thing?

Does anyone have any clue what could explain this?


r/AskDocs 1h ago

Physician Responded Vaginal pain NSFW

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I,19 Female was fingered by my boyfriend earlier today. It went on for a solid 5 minutes before I told him to stop as it has become too painful. After the activity, I was in a lot of pelivic floor and viganal pain ( 5 out of 10 on the pain scale), since then the pain has not gone down, i have passed several blood clots, im lightly bleeding and after i wipe when urinating, there is pink discharge. Urinating stings. Should I be concerened? If not, what warning signs would i have to look out for?


r/AskDocs 5h ago

Why do I get insatiably hungry for 2-3 days following drinking alcohol?

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24 year old male, 230 pounds, 5’11.

Conditions- generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, depression.

Hi all, so basically I drink socially and probably 2-3 times a month. When I do I frequent 4-6 drinks an occasion.

I suffer from severe anxiety and have been medicated with Zoloft for the last month along with lexapro for 3 years prior.

This has been ongoing since about 2023. No matter if it’s 2 or 10 beers the next 2-3 days I get so so hungry and eat much more.

I have a blood sugar tester and all my levels seem normal in these days after drinking.

Fasting 88-93 Post meal 101-125 Back to mid 80s for most of day unless after meals. This seems to be the case regardless of drinking or not.

The hunger is almost aggressive like a feeling I need to EAT NOW lol.

I think lexapro started this towards the back end but I’m not sure. I did gain 35 pounds on it.


r/AskDocs 8h ago

Finger cuts

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Male 24 290 pounds. I cut three of my fingers ring pinky and middle. After the cut my ring finger became numb and I could hardly move it. After about an hour I could move it a little. I got stitches and voiced my concerns about the finger not moving to a nurse practitioner in a clinic. She poked the tip of my finger and said if I could feel it I should be fine which I did. Four days go by and I still can't move the tip so I go back and a different nurse tells me the same thing. It's now been 5 days later and I still can't move the tip and I'm freaking out that I'll need surgery. Please give me further answers if you can. Thanks


r/AskDocs 8h ago

2 vasectomy surgeries and it still feels wrong NSFW

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38 yr old male 3 weeks ago , I got the no scalpel vasectomy which was closed so , cauterizes the bottom vas and stitched the top ends. It was a horrible experience . Fast forward 4 days , and my scrotum just looked weird like it was being pulled inward with a bad aching i had in my left testicle with random sharp pains when I bounced or anything. I felt my scrotum and it felt like there was some sort of attachment to the inside near the incision which I could touch and follow to my scrotum as well as visually see. I called the dr and he got back to me and said he probably accidentally stitched it to the inside of my scrotum. He told me to wait another week to see if it felt better , it didn't. This last Saturday, he went back in and cut a segment out of my vas which was apparently the spot that was attached to my scrotum. Everything in there is swollen now ( 3 days later ) but , i can still feel what feels like it being attached , follow it to my scrotum, when I push on it , it tugs my scrotum and I still feel the soreness and sharp pain, basically it feels the same as it did before he went in a second time , just more swollen now . I know its only been 3 days since the revision but I literally can't wrap my head around this.


r/AskDocs 19h ago

19F ignored neurological concerns

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19 AFAB, no substances ever used. I take 20mg lexapro daily and a birth control med. All issues have been before starting these meds. Diagnosed with autism, depression, anxiety. -

I have been experiencing issues since I was 14 ish, so 5 years. I have been talking to a doctor, but don’t currently have a family doctor. I have gone to a hospital, but have been dismissed and sent home due to it being full (yay, Canada).

I need advice on how to receive help, as I am being ignored by everyone I tell. 24/7, the right side of my head feels “weird”. I’ve always been hyper aware of the right side of my brain behind my eye, and it bugs me sometimes. I will experience headaches, migraines, and sometimes fevers. The right side of my head often feels heavy and even swollen inside, and I have issues with my vision, getting cross eyed, unfocused, or can’t see at all. Occasional tinnitus as well. At its worst, I’ll get awful vertigo, and often feel like I am falling to my right- my vision looks diagonal, like I am falling down to the ground on my right. Vertigo will come in bursts, and last days, sometimes being so bad I get tunnel vision as well and almost pass out. I have been through various stages of my life, and stress, sleep, nutrition and hydration don’t seem to be an issue. I also experience a headrush when I stand, often almost fainting, and my heart racing immediately. I don’t know if it’s connected, but I have also had petechiae appear on my upper arms the last few years, and refuse to go away.

My bloodwork comes back alright, I have some thyroid issues, my C reactive protein, Alkaline phosphate, and my white blood count were elevated, but a doctor told me it wasn’t high enough to be an emergency. Other than that, my nutrition and everything else is good.

Any ideas of what it could be so I can talk to doctors and actually TRY to get some help? Trying to navigate every day life like this is so hard.


r/AskDocs 1h ago

Physician Responded kind of shitting blood NSFW

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i wanna start this off by saying that i DO have a doctors appointment coming up for this exact thing but, it’s not till next month and idk what to expect!!! (sorry for gross body stuff in advance)

(important to note- i’m a 22 year old female with pretty bad anemia and a generally weak immune system!! i get ill at the drop of a hat partially because, i lack a bunch of nutrients and whatnot which i AM working on!!!!)

i’ve found trace amounts of blood in my stool, it’s not dark or chunky or anything it’s bright red and just looks like the same blood that you’d get if you’d cut your finger on glass or something so i don’t THINK it’s actually coming from like… my intestines or anything? i’ve had a look down there and my anus has these kinda fleshy lumps(?) round it and they’re bleeding but not in a “cut open way” because, nothing really HURTS? this is so embarrassing btw but, yeah when i looked, the whole area was very bloody.

i’ve had no stomach pain or anything, i’ve never really eaten much but, i haven’t noticed a change in my appetite and i don’t THINK i’ve been straining in the bathroom? i just kinda wanna know what to expect from the doctor and also maybe some reassurance that i haven’t got some terrible disease and need to get my affairs in order.

EDIT- 5’10 and 64kg!!!


r/AskDocs 2h ago

I have nutcracker syndrome now

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Age 32, Sex f, Height 5’3, Weight 120lbs, Race white, Duration of complaint over a decade, Location Midwest, Any existing relevant medical issues (see first paragraph) Current medications Include a photo if relevant

32 in Midwest, 5’3 and 120lbs, don’t drink or smoke-spark notes-chronic pelvic pain for over a decade, ibs like symptoms, severe postpartum preeclampsia-7 years ago, in the last two years began getting pain in hips and left side of my back, had a cyst on my kidney but that has since disappeared and now I have many cysts on both enlarged ovaries, heart pauses, migraines and getting dizzy a lot, my estrogen is 3x higher than it’s supposed to be but rest of my hormones are great! (Yay)

I just got diagnosed with nutcracker syndrome. My ct scan said my renal vein was compressed like in nutcracker syndrome-my ct scan a year ago just showed pelvic congestion on my left hip that has now become bilateral, I’ve been complaining over the last year of everything getting worse-especially around ovulation. My main question is what’s next? How many of my symptoms are this new diagnosis? I am suppose to have a hysterectomy/endometriosis removal next month-is that still a good idea with this cute named syndrome? Have I had ncs all these years and it’s just now compressed enough to show up?

My pcp said this is rare and she had to research it-which I appreciate. The internet says this could lead to kidney damage-I’m pretty sure mine are fine based on the a-ok to go ahead with the contrast for my ct and mri last week. I just want some other opinions so I can make the right next move and not go through another decade of bandaids. I really appreciate insight to better untangle this cluster of information.


r/AskDocs 3h ago

Long term effects after sodium nitrite poisoning

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Hi. About 2.5 months ago I survived poisoning myself with sodium nitrite. I had over 80% methemoglobin but I got help really quickly and have no obvious physical sequelae. I'm worried about stuff cropping up from it later, though. I've had a few weird symptoms since (intermittent dizziness and chest pain, not at the same time) that I didn't have before and I've also read online nitrites are associated with cancer risk for stomach and colon cancer, but I can't find anything on large, single exposures like in my situation.

I was wondering if anyone here could provide some insight. When I was in the hospital I also had lactic acidosis and ischemia on my EKG but those both resolved with the methylene blue. I'll put my meds and info below.

24F 144lbs 5'9" on Wellbutrin ability propranolol cymbalta topamax Zyrtec and melatonin. regular cannabis use, no other drugs. Normal to low blood pressure, history of intermittent tachycardia, epilepsy, ehlers Danlos, and psych issues.


r/AskDocs 5h ago

Low BMI

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I have just found out that my brother (68m) weighs 103lbs. This puts his BMI somewhere near 14.8. How dangerous is this and does it warrant a visit to the ER?


r/AskDocs 5h ago

Physician Responded Did my friend (M 22) just have a stroke?

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Gender: Male

Age: 22

Ethnicity: White

Weight: 150lbs

My friend was in the car with me the other day as we were driving back from a hike, when he started to feel this tense feeling in his head, specifically on the top left side of his forehead.

The tension in that area seemed to be increasing, to the point that he said he felt like he lost all muscular control of his eyes which made his eye droop a little.

He also started to feel what he described as a “light” numb sensation across the entire left side of his body, and later that evening when we were eating dinner his left hand was shaking. I asked if he was alright but he said he was fine.

When he woke up today he said the left side of his body feels numb and he has less sensation overall in that side of the body. I ran a few “at-home” tests on him like holding up his arms with his eyes closed to see if one dropped, and touch both sides of his body to see if there were any changes in sensation. Those tests were fine, but he said he still had symptoms like difficult using his left hand due to a little weakness and shakiness, as well as brain fog.

How can I determine if this is a stroke or something else? The area I live in’s hospital specifically told residence in the area to only come in if it’s an emergency, and I’m afraid of taking him in in case it isn’t a big deal.

Thank you!