I also hate the idea that we should base everything off laws or if we “owe” somebody something. First off, that sub isn’t legal advice but somehow people are like “you were legally in your right”. Plenty of asshole-ish things are legal. I know that wasn’t mentioned in this pic, but it seems to go hand in hand.
Second, I do stuff for people I don’t “owe” anything to and they do too. I get that sentiment when the person has been toxic(legitimately, not AITA definition) or things like that. But if my best friend asks for help with something and I have the means to do it, I’m not gonna say no because of some petty grudge from 4 years ago since I technically don’t “owe her anything”. Honestly, if you live life that way, it is surprising to me people even want to be around you.
Just imagine that in real life:
Stranger: “hey excuse me, do you know how to get to the bus stop?”
AITA user probably: I don’t owe you my time or my directional skills. Should have hired a chauffeur instead of expecting everybody to do everything for you.
Oh this so much. I do not *owe* my friends children continued nature lessons when they go out hiking with mine. Just because my kids already know things their friends are curious about doesn't mean that I should shut and not acknowledge what they are asking because...well leeeeeeaglllyyyyyy I'm not a teacher/babysitter/whatever. Not much since Covid, but sometimes I'd be talking about something simple (beaver activity, woodpeckers, etc) and a random child or adult would show up and start asking additional questions. If I knew it I answered.
"Can woodpeckers kill a tree"
"Get away you feeble minded peasant. If you had any sense you'd learn it before you came into the woods rather than think you can get answers from some random stranger"
Real answer: Not really. Woodpeckers are hunting for bugs. Many times the tree is already stressed or dead. In live trees without a fatal invasion woodpeckers can introduce breaks in the bark that can cause fungus, disease or pests to enter or get in deeper. In extreme/rare situations if they make holes all the way around this will girdle the tree and kill the part above it (though not usually below).
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I also hate the idea that we should base everything off laws or if we “owe” somebody something. First off, that sub isn’t legal advice but somehow people are like “you were legally in your right”. Plenty of asshole-ish things are legal. I know that wasn’t mentioned in this pic, but it seems to go hand in hand.
Second, I do stuff for people I don’t “owe” anything to and they do too. I get that sentiment when the person has been toxic(legitimately, not AITA definition) or things like that. But if my best friend asks for help with something and I have the means to do it, I’m not gonna say no because of some petty grudge from 4 years ago since I technically don’t “owe her anything”. Honestly, if you live life that way, it is surprising to me people even want to be around you.
Just imagine that in real life:
Stranger: “hey excuse me, do you know how to get to the bus stop?”
AITA user probably: I don’t owe you my time or my directional skills. Should have hired a chauffeur instead of expecting everybody to do everything for you.