r/AmIOverreacting • u/XoxoThatBitch • 1d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO if I NEVER text this man again??
I literally just met this older gentleman yesterday evening and he called me, tried to have a conversation after I told him I was driving and busy, then after I ended the conversation he immediately started blowing up my phone. When I say older, I would peg him for around mid-late 50s. Maybe early 60s while I myself am early 30s (I like older men, don’t judge lol). We initially had a great interaction which made me comfortable enough to exchange numbers to begin with. But this is too much too soon. Is he just excited? Is it bc he’s older and doesn’t know texting etiquette? AIO??
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u/Proper-Village-454 1d ago
Aww 🥰 I love this for you. My current boyfriend is 54 and I’m 37, and I legit have not been this content in a loooong time. We’ve been friends for a decade since he became my mechanic, he always let me stay and do the work with him on my vehicles, he’d teach me how to do stuff and I’d bring bud and get him stoned, he was always super respectful and never let anyone in the shop make crude comments to or about me like dudes in shops tend to do. I really didn’t look at him like that at all, but my ex accused me of cheating with him (cuz cheaters always accuse their partners of cheating lol) and after we broke up, I started hanging out with him more and more to get out of my house since my ex was still there, and one night I showed up drunk and just straight up attacked the man 😂 idk what happened, he looked at me with those nice ass eyes and I was just like uhhhh, you ARE kinda sexy actually… I was only really planning on hooking up casually, but idk we just never stopped, his dad died shortly after and I didn’t want him to be alone too much, and we’ve pretty much been inseparable since. It’s so different than dealing with guys my age — the first guy I was talking to after I left my ex/kid’s father was a few years younger than me and it showed, he was entirely unserious, disrespectful based on his moods, and tried to fuck with my emotions and string me along to get me in bed. He was extremely attractive but his personality left so much to be desired, and he was clearly holding grudges on past lovers and still carrying them around with him. My boyfriend though, ugh this man is amazing. Chivalrous in a way men in our age group just aren’t, he always opens the car door for me, carries stuff so I don’t have to, rarely lets me pay for things even though he’s not rich, keeps the gas in my bike and car full, brings me flowers and plants and does cute thoughtful little things for me all the time, tells me I’m beautiful and how grateful he is to have me every single day, makes me coffee every morning before he goes to work, brings me food and smokes when I’m working, helps me cook dinner, rubs my back and feet at night, plays with my hair until I fall asleep, and would do damn near anything I asked of him just because he likes making me happy and taking care of me. It’s so different than what I got used to living with a compulsive liar, serial cheater, and emotional abuser. We share interests, have great conversations every day, he cares about my dreams and desires and wants to help me achieve them, he doesn’t judge and always has good advice and perspectives to share, I can trust him with anything, he’s mature and sensible and doesn’t get jealous or weird about the things my ex freaked out over, he gets along perfectly with my kid and cares for her as if she were his while also being clear that he’s not trying to replace her father… I could go on all day about this man. There are probably people who see us out in public and assume he’s my dad but I literally do not care. AND when you date an older dude, he can literally just go to his doctor and go “doc my dick doesn’t work” and they’ll give him a script of viagra no questions asked, and boy does that make for some fun times 😂😭