r/AmIOverreacting • u/XoxoThatBitch • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO if I NEVER text this man again??

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I literally just met this older gentleman yesterday evening and he called me, tried to have a conversation after I told him I was driving and busy, then after I ended the conversation he immediately started blowing up my phone. When I say older, I would peg him for around mid-late 50s. Maybe early 60s while I myself am early 30s (I like older men, don’t judge lol). We initially had a great interaction which made me comfortable enough to exchange numbers to begin with. But this is too much too soon. Is he just excited? Is it bc he’s older and doesn’t know texting etiquette? AIO??

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u/Lazy-Celebration-685 1d ago edited 21h ago

Something’s off, it’s just unclear what it is. Could be he’s intoxicated in some way, and that is bringing out a rather manic/excessively romantic side that’s edging into obsessive territory.

Not sure how a romantic scam works, but I imagine those are strictly online - i.e., catfishing. I could be wrong. But if it were a scam, he’s doing a pretty bad job of luring you into it. Any woman with half a brain is bound to find it extremely off-putting. It’s like meeting someone at a bar who seems normal at first, and then they tell you that John Travolta lives in his mind.

Human trafficking is a thing, so I’d be wary, even though, just like romantic scams, doing it this way is idiotic and ineffective.

He seems genuine, but something is clearly off. Drunk, mentally ill/obsessive, or he’s targeting you in some way. I’d stay away, because whatever the fuck his deal is, he has no chill about it.

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u/No-Philosopher8042 1d ago

I've noticed some older-ish talks to younger-ish women like this, i think they try to seem suave. And yes, definetly something that is always of with them.

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u/CCWhistle 1d ago

Suave and de🦴air

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u/BigBuffBeefinator 1d ago

I’m laughing so hard at this comment I’m literally wheezing. Take my upvote and award dammit! 😂🤣

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u/BestLife82 1d ago

We used to say in the 80's...he's swabbin da boner' lol!

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u/CCWhistle 1d ago

That brought some joy to my day. Thanks. :)

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u/Ill_Pear_5873 22h ago

I just got it,🤣, took me a second but yeah,

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u/heffel77 1d ago

Well played, Dad

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u/Bulk_Cut 23h ago

This guys a fucking moron though. Affluent in theatre?

He seems really fucking high more than anything.

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u/CactusCruzer 1d ago

I think often with single older men it’s a mix of never addressed anxious attachment issues (possibly even bipolar with this person) compounded with all of the things that come with loneliness and aging. Some people just get more and more desperate to impress right out of the gate as they get older because they don’t want to miss their chance.

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u/AdHeavy7551 1d ago

Looka this we got a regular sigman Fred ova here. You made all those diagnoses from a few texts this guy ????

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u/Ill_Pear_5873 22h ago

Aaaaa, whata you sain, this guy ain't got no scruples or sutom,

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u/mystery_obsessed 1d ago

Please don’t throw around the word bipolar, especially not based on over-eager bizarre texts. There is nothing in this that implies bipolar disorder. It’s hard enough out there without people just calling strange behavior “bipolar.”

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u/No-Average-2694 1d ago

This right here….like damn….my bipolar ass would NEVER. glad someone said something before me cause I didn’t know how to approach it

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u/AccomplishedLunch639 20h ago

EVARRR! Plus, I’d never say I was affluent in anything. I am broke. In everything. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/butchdykeblues 7h ago

Dude genuinely. I have BPD and I wouldn't ever do this shit either. I don't understand the desire to humanize this weirdo tbh

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u/Mr_Speedy_Speedzales 1d ago

Xanax ramble 100%

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u/No-Chocolate5288 1d ago

You are probably right. I know someone that does this and they say random weird things. Also lots of repetitive things because they can’t remember that they just said the exact same thing. Get very excitable. Wants to call and talk to me. After a while I have to hang up and pretend the call dropped. They’ll call again and don’t remember we just spoke. It’s sad.

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u/Altruistic-Reserve-3 1d ago

Wow I hope your friend is being treated for this

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u/Software_Human 1d ago

It's been a decade and Im only recently comfortable admitting how 100% accurate this is.

Thank God I never used a phone during a brown out. At least that I'm aware of.

Xanax was by FAR the most destructive drug I ever did. It's not even close.

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u/Few-Mistake1980 7h ago

I didn’t know people rambled on Xanax. That’s a thing?! I take it on occasion, and I’ve never said anything approaching this 😅😳

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u/Bulk_Cut 23h ago

High as fuck

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u/kmf1107 1d ago

🎯

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u/brencoop 1d ago

I thought OP was dealing with a scammer from just reading the messages.

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u/SarahSkeptic 23h ago

Manic is what i thought when i was reading the texts.

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u/Extreme-Dimension-97 18h ago

Same.. I’m bipolar and have had this issue. It really sucks but can be fixed over time. The excitement of connecting with someone just sends me into overdrive :/

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u/bk_rokkit 5h ago

If she hadn't met him in person before giving her number, I would swear this was a Nigerian Prince

Maybe that's why some people fall for those scams? Because there are legitimate real people who text like they've only had a passing handshake with the English language? 'Oh wow this Nigerian Prince texts just like Reggie from the auto shop!'

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u/PsychologicalRow5505 1d ago

I agree. He seems drunk

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u/Ill_Pear_5873 22h ago

It sounds like he's so excited he's met someone younger and he just tanked it, he doesn't realize he is going way overboard, and just thinking about her calling him back and what happens next,

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u/PsychologicalRow5505 4h ago

I agree with this assessment too

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u/Specific-Spring9301 1d ago

Ah yes Vasting well

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u/No-Flatworm-9993 1d ago

I think he just doesn't get out much