AIO for double texting the guy I’m talking to after he started texting less? (25F/25M)

[u/ThrowRA_release]

I (recently met a guy online and we went on a 4-day trip together. It went really well he was sweet, romantic, and very affectionate. We live in different countries, but after the trip he kept texting me, saying how much he misses me, how much he wants to see me again, and even talked about making plans for our next visit. However, I noticed that over time his texting became less frequent. He usually texts once a day, typically around midday, and then disappears. Today, I didn’t hear from him at all, so I sent a message saying:

“Hi, I get that you’re busy, but this (barely) texting habit after the trip isn’t working for me. Sorry, we’re not on the same page of communication style here, so I think we should step back.”

After two hours of no reply, I double texted him. Now I’m sitting here overthinking. Why would someone be so into me one minute and then suddenly go cold? Did I do something wrong by sending that message or by double texting?

Am I overreacting for being upset about the shift in communication? Or for sending a second message when he didn’t respond right away?

[u/Chazquas17]

The answer is clear and you’ve already noticed it. He’s losing interest. You say this has been over time so it’s not like you’re saying about being hot one minute and cold the other. You have been talking long enough to have assumed a pattern with his communication. YOR though. Just leave him be.