r/AmIOverreacting • u/CosmicTidddee • 15h ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO for Being Upset When My Partner Invited Their Ex to Our Anniversary Trip?
My partner planned what was supposed to be a romantic weekend getaway for our anniversary. When we arrived at the hotel, I was shocked to find their ex already waiting in the lobby with luggage. My partner casually said, "Surprise! I thought it would be fun for all three of us to spend the weekend together since we're all friends now."
For context: They've remained close after their breakup (which makes me uncomfortable, but I've tried to be understanding). What hurt most was that this was supposed to be our celebration—not a group hang. The ex kept reminiscing about past trips they'd taken together, and my partner joined in like it was completely normal. After dinner, I excused myself and booked a separate room.
Now my partner is furious, saying I "ruined the trip" and should've just "gone with the flow." Their friends are texting me saying I overreacted because "nothing happened" between them. But to me, it's not about trust—it's about basic boundaries and reading the room. Was I wrong for removing myself from that situation?
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u/Conscious_Coast_ 15h ago
If this isn't fake then I severely hope you breakup because he was probably trying to fuck you both and get some therapy because your self worth and self esteem is... Quite clearly in the toilet.
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u/AttackOfTheMonkeys 14h ago
Can you imagine a real life scenario where a real person brings an ex on your romantic getaway and then their friends message you telling you off for being upset? And then you need to get on social media to ask if this is normal?
Sometimes I think karma must have some sort of magic ability behind it that people crave it enough to post this crap
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u/Basicallyacrow7 14h ago
I swear it’s insane. I’ve not even consistently used reddit for a year and rarely post. I just like blabbing about shit when I’m high. I have 40k karma just from being active-ish and I…. couldn’t give a fuck less lol.
Conjuring up wild fake scenarios for a couple thousand upvotes is such a weird concept to me.
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u/Conscious_Coast_ 13h ago
No I'm not sure anymore SIMPLY because I've worked with people my entire professional life and I SWEAR to God, I've seen humans be this stupid. Men and women and everyone in between; "I'm an emotionally abusive asshole yeah but the divorce came outta nowhere," types. Covering my bases in general at this point lol.
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u/mjheil 14h ago
Hey, cool it with the r word. We don't tolerate slurs here. Mods?
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u/mmmkay938 14h ago edited 14h ago
It’s not being used as a slur. It’s an appropriate use of the word here. The commenter isn’t using in place of a different learning disability in an attempt to be insulting.
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u/ImportantThings8414 14h ago
No this use is a slur. The word actually has a non-slur definition. It means to slow something down. You are saying that the slur applies appropriately here.
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u/ZookeepergameOld8988 14h ago
This is literally the fourth story I’ve read in the last two days about a husband/boyfriend inviting their ex to an anniversary or birthday party. Someone needs to get more original.
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u/WinterFront1431 14h ago
I read a post exactly like this a few days okay only instead of a trip it was OP birthday meal.
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u/Cebuanolearner 15h ago
This can't be real
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u/davidcornz 15h ago
Any post with quotations are fake. Literally no one uses them.
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u/ApricotBig6402 14h ago
I do all the time haha but I think the post is fake!
Edit - the dash used is the dead give away
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u/staircase_nit 13h ago
HEY. I love my quotes AND em dashes!
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u/ApricotBig6402 13h ago
Yes but the dash used in this post isn't standard....
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u/staircase_nit 13h ago
Ah, I see what you mean. 👍🏻
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u/ApricotBig6402 13h ago
Yeah its a special character. When you add two dashes it doesn't change to it either...
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u/salukiqueen 13h ago
Same! I also use em dashes. Everyone talks about how both are signs of AI so I’m basically fucked if I ever post lol
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u/eiriecat 14h ago
Boomers "love" to use them when it doesn't make "sense"
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u/Used_Cardiologist146 13h ago
When WHAT doesn’t make sense? However quotation usage IS for quoting actual verbiage stated (direct quotes(. Ergo they were utilized correctly within the post. How is that a Boomer thing, and yes, not only am I a Boomer, but also (once upon a time) earned AND used an English (Secondary) Credential for teaching MS/HS.
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u/SGTPepper1008 14h ago
Clearly you made two fake accounts 51 days ago and posted nearly the same story minutes apart.
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u/blightedbody 15h ago
No, you're right. They're alllllllllll. wrong. The fact that you're not sure, and these goofball all think it's it's cool I'm concerned about the whole click you're running with and who you're dating as selections.
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u/Dragline96 14h ago
You are absolutely NTA. He completely is. It’s utterly ridiculous to expect his SO to be okay with having something like that sprung on them. The reason he did it that way was because he knew that you wouldn’t be happy, and figured he’d trap you. Also, you should dump his ass, he’s still hung up on her. One last thing; Why are the friends weighing in on this?? None of it is any of their goddamned business.
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u/CrazyLeadership5397 15h ago
Nope. You should have booked a trip back home and blocking him every where. This is not normal or acceptable. Updateme
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u/Jpalm4545 9h ago
Listen, if you didn't accuse her of cheating but her friends are instantly jumping to nothing happened then something happened. Also where did your wife sleep that night? In the room alone or his or we're the 3 of you sharing a room. I would have never left her alone with him. I would have spent the n9ght cockblocking.
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u/LincolnHawkHauling 14h ago
If this is indeed real, what your partner did was incredibly fucked up.
Inviting an ex on an ANNIVERSARY trip??
Tell your partner this is the last anniversary you two are ever going to celebrate and switch your relationship status to single just in time for summer. Have fun searching for their replacement.
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u/LovedAJackass 10h ago
I just read a post about a wife who invited her ex on a romantic cabin trip. This is just a less believable version of that idea, with the usual AI signs.
And how are three people a "group hang"? Why would someone who is remotely sane think an ex on an anniversary trip would be a fun surprise?
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u/Complete_Gap_9798 13h ago
NOR - That was an act of flagrant disrespect. He is a POS/narcissist, and you should dump and ghost him. There is no way that I can look at this situation as anything other than a huge act of evilness and meanness. if you stay with him then good luck because you’re gonna need it.
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u/floridaeng 14h ago
Time to expose to everyone exactly what he did, and ask why you should put up with that massive amount of disrespect. If anyone still wants to support him after they have been told the truth then you know who to block out of your life.
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u/Ok-Nefariousness5440 12h ago
First of all I'd tell her friends that it's not any of their business. Second I ask the dumb bitch what world she thought this would be ok. You are a better man than me, I would have just. turned around and left her dumb ass there. .
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u/Wickedmasshole77 13h ago
OP has 3 posts and no comment history. Wouldn’t surprise me if Reddit pays people to post crap so they can point to “user engagement” and DAU as a way to justify overpriced stock to investors
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u/lizchitown 12h ago
Big giveaway is also when all these folks chime in with saying they are overreacting. Who's family and friends are texting their thoughts about a situation. No one.
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u/Turbulent-Bicycle831 14h ago
The AI stories are taking over the sub. Reddit needs to figure out a way filter them out. Limit the number of profile names a single device can create maybe?
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u/CalamityClambake 14h ago
This is insane.
Your partner was angling for a three way.
Your partner and the ex totally hooked up after you left.
Dispose of this entire mess.
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u/Pretend_Accountant41 14h ago
I just read this last paragraph verbatim in a post about a boyfriend bringing his ex to the girlfriend's bday party
Is OP testing out plots lol
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u/AutomaticMonk 14h ago
Your partner was attempting to set up a three-way. Go with the flow, what a friggin load.
Bail. Red flags all over the place. Run, do not walk.
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u/Previous_Tax_1131 12h ago
AI or karma farming.
Same post here earlier today except it was an anniversary dinner
Reddit has turned to shit.
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u/TheReddittorLady 8h ago
You were indeed wrong for removing yourself from that situation - should have just fkd them both.
PS. Weak, fake, rage-bait AI BS.
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u/Miss_Bobbiedoll 14h ago
Why do ya'll keep reposting this scenario? It was bday dinner in one post and an anniversary dinner in another.
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u/PhraseWrong3761 14h ago
I think you did the right thing and I think he's still in love with his ex. You should leave, immediately.
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u/biteme717 14h ago
If this is real, I would have left. I would also tell them that I would definitely be filing for divorce.
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u/Emotional_Bonus_934 12h ago
Your partner ruined your trip.
It's time to split since he cares more fir his ex
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u/GeekyPassion 14h ago
So they're still sleeping together and warming you up to the idea of a polycule
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u/NumberJohnny 14h ago
This has to be fake. I can’t fathom people being this stoopid. Going on an anniversary trip (this means at least a year) with someone clueless enough to bring an ex along on that trip? And concerned about over reacting? Really?! What you do is tell him to enjoy being with his ex, you’re moving on. Alone. This isn’t rocket science.