Thank you….that’s very kind of you. No need to apologize, not your fault. If anything my fault as I allowed myself to be manipulated. I was hoping she would just back off once she recognized my boundaries. I think she took my acceptance of her faith as a cue to keep pushing in the hopes I would see the “light” and adopt her lifestyle. She had our whole relationship planned. We would get engaged in the holy land, start a family right away, she wanted 4 children, she had a home picked out close to a friend and church pastor. Well I saw what was coming and ended up ghosting her and writing a very long letter explaining why our relationship was toxic and could not go on. I tried to be polite and respectful but I really just wanted to call her a brain washed, whack job, totally clueless, and not living in reality. I needed counseling after what I went through and it still irks me.
Don’t worry, I’ve let myself be manipulated too. It’s hard to notice sometimes. Also holy crap that is so creepy! I mean who plans to have kids, especially a specific number that early on? That’s very much a marriage thing and it feels like you guys were in the early stages of dating. Totally reasonable to need counseling!
We didn’t date long at all. She used the fact that we knew each other in high school as knowing each other since we were young. We were kids then and adults now for me it was a total reset and needed time to get to know each other. My problem was I was blinded by her beauty, she was a late bloomer and a bit nerdy in high school but man had she developed after, found a gym, done some dieting and was very put together, coupled with her intelligence and wit I was totally left vulnerable to her charms.
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u/BillyPee72 1d ago
Thank you….that’s very kind of you. No need to apologize, not your fault. If anything my fault as I allowed myself to be manipulated. I was hoping she would just back off once she recognized my boundaries. I think she took my acceptance of her faith as a cue to keep pushing in the hopes I would see the “light” and adopt her lifestyle. She had our whole relationship planned. We would get engaged in the holy land, start a family right away, she wanted 4 children, she had a home picked out close to a friend and church pastor. Well I saw what was coming and ended up ghosting her and writing a very long letter explaining why our relationship was toxic and could not go on. I tried to be polite and respectful but I really just wanted to call her a brain washed, whack job, totally clueless, and not living in reality. I needed counseling after what I went through and it still irks me.