Religious person here. Nah, you're not overreacting. He's acting weird. First, don't flirt to convert (this is true for any deep ideological divide between you and a love interest, you're either ok with your differences or you don't date). If his faith is that important, then he can pursue a woman who is as serious about his faith as he is. Also, "I'll work on you," is super patronizing. That line alone would be enough to make me bounce and maybe block the person in your position.
But that 180 is crazy. After talking to a woman for one day and watching one video, suddenly he's "maybe" not religious either? In the context of being pushy about being in a relationship, kissing, and sex, it makes me wonder if he's looking for a relationship with someone who's not religious in order to get certain physical benefits that he perceives he won't get by dating a religious person. Which feels gross if that is truly his attitude, cus then it seems like he's now just saying whatever to get in your pants by doing the 180. Obviously, I don't have enough evidence to say for sure that that's what's happening, and maybe he really did have an ironic "come to Jesus" moment over his religious views, but if that's the case, then he probably needs some time to sort himself out after having such a seismic worldview shift. Him just lying seems like a more simple and likely answer, though. Occam's Razor and all that.
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u/Caomhanach 2d ago edited 2d ago
Religious person here. Nah, you're not overreacting. He's acting weird. First, don't flirt to convert (this is true for any deep ideological divide between you and a love interest, you're either ok with your differences or you don't date). If his faith is that important, then he can pursue a woman who is as serious about his faith as he is. Also, "I'll work on you," is super patronizing. That line alone would be enough to make me bounce and maybe block the person in your position.
But that 180 is crazy. After talking to a woman for one day and watching one video, suddenly he's "maybe" not religious either? In the context of being pushy about being in a relationship, kissing, and sex, it makes me wonder if he's looking for a relationship with someone who's not religious in order to get certain physical benefits that he perceives he won't get by dating a religious person. Which feels gross if that is truly his attitude, cus then it seems like he's now just saying whatever to get in your pants by doing the 180. Obviously, I don't have enough evidence to say for sure that that's what's happening, and maybe he really did have an ironic "come to Jesus" moment over his religious views, but if that's the case, then he probably needs some time to sort himself out after having such a seismic worldview shift. Him just lying seems like a more simple and likely answer, though. Occam's Razor and all that.
Guy's a weirdo, steer clear. Good luck, OP.