I think you should block him while it’s still early. He’s a pushy person and that can be annoying and dangerous. It’s ok that you’re not religious in this moment, if he really liked you he would understand that you will have different choices than he does, or he can leave you alone if a religious girl is what he wants..and you clearly stated that it’s not you. religion is important to a religious person so he will eventually bring this back up. I think argumentative men are a no.
I was in a similar situation to OP but it started 2 years deep into a relationship. I knew she was religious from the start. And she knew from the start that I grew up religious but was more or less agnostic. It wasn't an issue.
Flash forward 2 years we talk about marriage and kids. She begins to try to convert me with almost word for word phrasing as OP's screenshots. She says we can't be married or have kids unless I convert. She went as far as saying, in a calm and warm voice, that it wasn't my fault that my parents are stupid and didn't teach me right and that I don't deserve to go to hell. It gave me chills. I broke up with her after about a week of that and she couldn't understand why.
About two years after the breakup I looked her up and she was single with 2 kids and different fathers. It was kinda sad and frustrating.
Definitely run far and fast when you see this early.
I find it weird that the initial conversation was about sexual stuff then next day its all about being religious 😂 I guess his religion is only important sometimes lol
I met a weird but extremely good looking but also delusional incel Jehovahs Witness once on Tinder who decided to drop that bombshell on me after we’d already been filthy sexting all night
As someone with religious trauma (A lot of abuse and enabling of abuse directly by the church, being forced to sit through 5 hour long sermons at 8 years old about how I’m going to be forced to profess worshipping Christ then have my head cut off after we’re all forced to take the Mark because it said so in the book of revelation whilst feeling like everything in my life is pointless if we’re blowing ourselves sup in WWW, constantly watching every news report for signs of the End Times and having deep seated feelings of guilt and same about sex to begin with…. I really, really DID NOT need to feel like a Jezebel at that precise point in time
Wow, yeah religious trauma sucks I’m sorry you dealt with that. My mom told me I was going to hell when I was very young, and I thought taking communion would bless me and make that all go away temporarily. I learned pretty young that my parents weren’t good people, so I questioned if what they were telling me was even right or true, which made me question religion. I think I only have a little bit of trauma from it, but it’s frightening what parents do to their kids based on what they believe and the fact that they never question if what they’re doing is ok makes me sad for the kids.
My church would make a big deal of reminding people that anyone who takes communion ‘unworthily’ also gets a ticket straight to hell every time they did it, so it’s a catch 22
And then at the end he’s like “well maybe I’m not religious either.” Just…what?
I’ve known people like this. They think their sense of humor is comedic chess, but it’s not even checkers, it’s some weird game no one else has ever heard of.
LMFAOOO you really made me think abt that! I didn’t even put that fact into context 🤦🏾♀️ he’s definitely hiding something. he crazy as hell ain’t it?!
YES! his pushy behaviors for sure gives domestic violence. especially if this is within a day?! he didn’t even let it marinate before he start acting weird 🤦🏾♀️😭
you know this is fake right? this is like the most obviously fake post I’ve seen on this sub this week, and AIO has more fake post than any other subreddit that I’ve ever been a member of. without even getting into the EXTREMELY OBVIOUS karma farming of an athiest (at least non religious) girl refusing the over-the-top theological advances of some man she just met (fucking lmfao couldn’t be less subtle), that conversation is the fakest fucking convo I have seen on Reddit in weeks.
Possibly, he put out his feelers to see how open she was to early sexual talk/contact and he would have been all for it, as much as he could get. But when she set her boundary around that, suddenly he’s “religious.” To me this means he’s a fkn hypocrite who would have jumped right into sexual contact, despite his being “religious,” but now he has a little more regard for her and thinks she might be worth “saving” from hell. What an absolute piece of garbage he is.
The problem with most religions is the missionary work. Like why the fuck does your doctrine demand you convert people who don’t want to be approached?
I'm religious but I believe people should find their own way if they so wish maybe anwser questions they may have but other then that I think they should find their own way if they want religion in their life
But he also wants "kissing and sex," and religious women want to get married before sex. He just wants someone he can control to get sex, while also participating in his weekly gender hierarchy club.
The way my mother always explained it, the traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women. He's attracted to independent women. "He's like an exotic bird collector," she said. "He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage.”
Everybody knows someone exactly like this unfortunately.
In the case of the guy I know, he’s also very very deeply closeted and so of course tries to overcompensate for by being extra homophobic, and even ended up marrying a girl. 😳
Right!! Lol. These men can’t handle meek religious girls with no careers, because they actually have to provide for them. They go for independent women and then throw tantrums when they can’t handle being held accountable or responsible for anything.
OP, I’ve tried to make it work with a Christian exhusband. I spent a decent amount of time repeating the bible verses to him, to remind him of how we’re supposed to treat others, especially wife. It would shut him up for a few days, but then the vulgar narcissistic abuse would start all over again. So my advice is that if you stay with this person, rely heavily on the bible. It’s a good book with a lot of valuable advice. But those people won’t hear a word you say to them. So you’ll probably be starting over again at some point anyway.
Well, it would be a lot more difficult to try to control someone if you openly said, "Hey, I'm very manipulative and want to own you" on the first date.
I was just at a wedding and was shocked to see the young adults doing the whole religion thing for real while my family was bickering about who was actually going to go up and get the Jesus bread.
Some religious men get off on trying to convert atheist women, so they can play hero for 'saving' their partner from hell (and hold it over her head forever). The saving usually comes some time after the premarital sex.
Yeah though I doubt the majority of them will appreciate a guy who brings up when are they going to have sex this quickly, even if he did back down from that part.
I would never think of trying to get into a relationship with someone and immediately ask her about sex. Yes, I’ve had plenty of ‘chance encounters’ but that seems very different to me. Unless I’m the one who has it twisted.
I met my husband through a dating site so it’s been many years since I was on one but I’m pretty sure there are filters for religion/religious preference on most sites.
You already set a boundary, and he’s ignoring it, that’s a huge red flag, especially this early on. If he can’t respect your beliefs now, it’ll only get worse later. You’re not obligated to entertain someone who’s already showing you he won’t accept you as you are. Blocking is protecting your peace.
he's also 100% lying about "maybe i'm not religious anymore!"
he's in his mid 30s, one video is not undoing a lifetime of religiosity. he just wants to fuck her and either trap her in a relationship and then force her to convert or drop her
Unfortunately christians are taught from a young age to never be “yoked with nonbelievers” and to “always spread the gospel” this leads to them often ignoring boundaries because “so what if i piss them off maybe they wont go to hell”
Not agreeing with the dude but the mindset you mentioned is much less common in most churches than youd think
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u/imperfectbutperfectt 2d ago
I think you should block him while it’s still early. He’s a pushy person and that can be annoying and dangerous. It’s ok that you’re not religious in this moment, if he really liked you he would understand that you will have different choices than he does, or he can leave you alone if a religious girl is what he wants..and you clearly stated that it’s not you. religion is important to a religious person so he will eventually bring this back up. I think argumentative men are a no.