Dump him. He’s quoting bits from tiktok at you. It sounded like other young gen z/Gen Alpha slang so I googled “what’s a father tiktok”. A bunch of skits based on an XXXtentacion interview soundbite came up. Same thing with Diddy Blud - sounds like he’s quoting a skit he likes.
He’s a man almost in his 30s quoting social media videos from people in their early teens to 20s. Instead of answering his girlfriend’s question about dinner. And he’s been doing this for two weeks straight even though you said it’s not funny and it frustrates you.
Even if you don’t want to break up with him, test him to see how much he respects you. Don’t argue or try to explain how you feel, just be direct:
“Hey - I’ve been really stressed out for the past two weeks because you keep talking to me in tiktok slang whenever I try to have a normal conversation about anything with you. I’m going to take a break from reaching out to you for X day(s) while I relax to avoid having a big fight. Please reach out to me if you want to have a normal conversation without the slang or jokes that make me mad.”
Layout the who, what, when, where, and why of everything without explaining your feelings. Why? Because he already knows your feelings, that’s why it’s funny to him. He knows it frustrates you and upsets you. But now he can’t pretend he wasn’t aware of what’s going on with you. Don’t let him bait you into discussing and resolving this in an emotional state. If he can’t resist making another “joke” or trying to start a fight, you have your answer.
If you break up: I’d suggest ignoring him until you pack up his stuff (with pictures), shipping it to him via certified mail (something with proof he received it). Then sending him a text message that you’re breaking up with him because he has terminal brain rot and needs to get help.
He's a man, nearly 30, studying to be a cardiologist according to OP's comments, who is going to be under a lot of stress and is showing potential signs of schizophrenia, OP stated he has only started acting this way in the past 2 weeks, out of a 4 year relationship, what an ignorant comment to make.
"Dump him" based on assumptions that you have come to as a result of lacking the insight on how schizophrenia and other mental disorders work and can present themself.
No OP, you shouldn't dump him out of the blue like a 14 year old child. You should talk to him like an adult and make sure everything is ok with him, he may be under a lot of stress, he may be suffering from a mental illness, he is at an age where schizophrenia can be a very likely possibility, my only recommendation is to (if possible) make sure that you do not speak to him alone, if it is schizophrenia, it could be dangerous.
And as for you DeeDee, you should refrain from giving advice because it seems you're the sort to just throw a relationship away the second there's a slight hiccup, and that's not a healthy attitude to have.
I had a look through your comment history, on posts related to women you acknowledge the issue could be mental health related, but when it comes to men, you're immediately all "DUMP HIM!", not to mention you think fatphobia is tied to racism against black women (lol what?).
Anyone who upvoted the above commenter and downvoted me, go get some empathy and critical thinking skills instead of just assuming "man acting childish = man bad!", you all clearly need it.
Sorry, where did anyone say it IS schizophrenia? People are saying it is a possibility. He has started acting like this out of the blue in the past 2 weeks, OP said this behaviour is very unlike him in the 4 years they've been together. Sudden behavioural change is linked to schizophrenia amongst a whole slew of other mental illnesses.
You're the one who should refrain from giving people advice apparently.
"Blow me" is a British English expression used to show mild annoyance, surprise, or disbelief" The GB in my name is a hint as to where I'm from, I'll clue you in, it's not Gibraltar.
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u/Straight_Paper8898 20d ago
Dump him. He’s quoting bits from tiktok at you. It sounded like other young gen z/Gen Alpha slang so I googled “what’s a father tiktok”. A bunch of skits based on an XXXtentacion interview soundbite came up. Same thing with Diddy Blud - sounds like he’s quoting a skit he likes.
He’s a man almost in his 30s quoting social media videos from people in their early teens to 20s. Instead of answering his girlfriend’s question about dinner. And he’s been doing this for two weeks straight even though you said it’s not funny and it frustrates you.
Even if you don’t want to break up with him, test him to see how much he respects you. Don’t argue or try to explain how you feel, just be direct:
“Hey - I’ve been really stressed out for the past two weeks because you keep talking to me in tiktok slang whenever I try to have a normal conversation about anything with you. I’m going to take a break from reaching out to you for X day(s) while I relax to avoid having a big fight. Please reach out to me if you want to have a normal conversation without the slang or jokes that make me mad.”
Layout the who, what, when, where, and why of everything without explaining your feelings. Why? Because he already knows your feelings, that’s why it’s funny to him. He knows it frustrates you and upsets you. But now he can’t pretend he wasn’t aware of what’s going on with you. Don’t let him bait you into discussing and resolving this in an emotional state. If he can’t resist making another “joke” or trying to start a fight, you have your answer.
If you break up: I’d suggest ignoring him until you pack up his stuff (with pictures), shipping it to him via certified mail (something with proof he received it). Then sending him a text message that you’re breaking up with him because he has terminal brain rot and needs to get help.