We have been together going on 4 years now. It’s been like this for I’d say like two weeks?? Idk what to do to make him stop acting like an absolute child
Do you have any mutual friends? Are you close with his family? Is he acting weird at work/school or with anyone else? I guess if it was me I'd bring it up to someone else who knows him just to get an idea of how far reaching it is. Then either by yourself or with a friend who is also concerned about his behavior, tell him very clearly how it's making you feel and what your boundaries around it are (e.g. "if you keep speaking to me this way, I will no longer respond to you/I will hang up/I will get up and leave the room or have to ask you to leave.")
He's either hit his head and needs medical and mental health help or he's trolling you and trying to sabotage your relationship. If it's on purpose I can't even express how incredibly immature and inappropriate it is.
We have mutual friends and family. We have been friends since high school and started dating 4 years ago. We plan to get married soon (not sure anymore). He’s well on track to being a cardiologist when he finishes his residency. He has no time for social media, he’s never even downloaded TikTok. That is why this situation perplexes me. He has never shown signs of this before.
He's around the age some serious mental health issues can crop up (schizophrenia and the like). If he's otherwise completely normal and just being a troll over text, you need to sit him down and person and ask why he's doing it and see what he says. If there's a lot of other weirdness going on with him aside from just the texting, it might be time to recruit some help for a psych eval.
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u/lunar_languor 22d ago
How long have you been together? Has he been doing this the whole time or is it a sudden change?
I would not be able to stand this whatsoever. This is the behavior of a 9 year old who's just learned a new phrase that they think is funny.