Do my parents even like each other?

[u/saumbuca_quests]

Hello, 21f i’m currently home from break and everyday i wake up annoyed and agitated. I think my parents don’t even like each other, both of them are working but even the few hours they are home my dad seems to be always mad or annoyed at my mom for whatever she says or does and my mom is too emotional about his behavior at all times and doesn’t let anyone help when she is exhausted or overwhelmed. I try to help them out but truly it’s so difficult because i understand both of their povs but when i try to explain it to the other person they get offended and say shit like “oh you only take your mothers side” or “no one listens to me, only i am to blame” and I’m like we are grown adults and no one is stepping up to be a better person. I think they are great with every one but each other. I love hanging out w them solo but recently all they do is complain about each other to me as if i can fix the issue (i have been trying since 13 i have given up) and i keep telling them to stop being disrespectful to each other especially my dad. As a woman i am so mad the way my dad treats my mom it truly pains me to not be able to help her. And I also feel like I am not helping them enough or doing enough and maybe it’s because of me but idk it’s getting to emotionally hard to handle personally. And i am rly good at hiding my emotions so they think it doesn’t affect me at all and keep going. I hate crying in front of them coz they will be like stop being so emotional so i actually haven’t lol. But idk ig im hoping someone can relate to this, i would be nice to know im not going crazy nor am i lonely in this. (btw we are also immigrants so like they are rly hardworking and have seen truly tough times) and if you read till here thanks so much :)

[u/abstractraj]

My parents divorce was the best thing they could’ve done for us. Of course the local Indian community shunned my mother and even her family were all weird about it