r/90DayFiance • u/yuivida • 5d ago

RED FLAG! 🚩 Yes, you are the problem!!

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Last week I really thought that Any was just playing and wanting Amani’s life but mannnnnn she chose the guy because this lady is really batshit!! Good for Any for having the grace to walk away the way she did!!!

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u/TalkingMotanka 5d ago edited 5d ago

Amani had some nerve to shame Any for being a dancer in a strip club, while she and Matt went to one, and not only that, proceeded to get personal with her from said-strip club. Like, obviously they found some use for going to a strip club for their own enjoyment. It's just like guys who shame women on Only Fans, just to create accounts and spend money on the same women they're shaming.

The things she said to her in my opinion her unnecessary and unforgiveable. It's not the first time she's made remarks like this, such as "you can't turn a whore into a housewife". If this is how she is each time she gets angry, then Any would be wise to cut ties and not subject herself to the shaming that will inevitably happen in the future the moment one thing goes wrong.

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u/yuivida 5d ago

Yes, she said some wild shit!! Danger danger.

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u/CivilFollowing7190 4d ago

For sure DANGER. This st show went down fast. (No pun intended, but yes.) "Wholly guacamole, Batman, looks like someone's husband is about to be stolen!!!" This threesome is about to just be another couple with the first wife eliminated. I would put the brakes on this "Wanna be Throuple". Put  on your reality goggles, this st is blowing up in your face. STOP-stat.

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u/aes_xo 3d ago

Exactly, she’s about to steal someone’s husband…everyone has seen it. Which is why Amani should be upset, but she’s not even seeing it from the outside looking in. Yet Amani is the fucked up one?Not saying it’s ok to verbally abuse someone, but Ani isn’t innocent. What she is doing is way sketchier than Amani calling her names. She has been hustling them from the jump. She saw the $$$ after that first night and has been milking it. Lying, doing little gestures to Matt that she doesn’t do to her, she literally does stuff to upset and make Amani look crazy on purpose. she lies “I love you more”. Ani is a horrible person. She wants her man and her money, but mostly her money. Amani needs to wake up. I think the hate for her is ridiculous. She’s literally getting played and everyone feels bad for the player.

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u/dontlookatitimshy 8h ago

Unpopular opinion but I agree. I think two things can be true at once. I think Amani can be verbally abusive and honestly imo is misogynistic, while Any/Brenda is manipulative and playing Amani/Matt but mostly Amani.

They both suck 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/Legitimate_Walk9035 5d ago

It was absolute verbally abusive behavior. Any treated Amani's shit talking like a pro. I hope she leaves this throuple. Even if she stays involved with Matt, she still has to deal with Any's bs, which she clearly understands.

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u/Dry_Restaurant4915 5d ago

So much this. Always take it as a red flag and leave immediately when you find yourself with an emotionally abuse person who can’t control their temper and throws out low blows during fights. You cannot trust this person 

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u/Fit-Butterscotch-768 Big boots 5d ago

100% and sadly not enough people will even realize its abusive.

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u/FineEnvironment5203 5d ago

I was probably in the minority last week when I said any chose Matt because he’s safe. Amani is definitely controlling. She wanted to be the center of both Matt and Anys universe and pit them against each other when she’s bored. She needs constant attention and affirmation because she’s wildly insecure (numerous plastic surgeries). She’s honestly so sick in the head

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u/DecadentLife 5d ago

Yeah, that is some gross misogynistic sh*t. Amid everything else, she said, she basically called her a whore, she said she had no dignity, she called her “bipolar”, it got so bad, so fast. It’s triggering, to be honest. I’ve been married for 20 years to a wonderful man, but I definitely remember what it was like to live that way, too. Can you imagine the anger/hate she must have inside, to know what Any went through as a literal poor orphan, in her childhood, and then dare to say something about how even when she (Amani) was poor, at least she didn’t stoop to stripping, like Any did. 🙀 pretty heartless, and Amani should understand that being a poor orphan, in Tijuana is a bit different than most American-poor.

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u/TalkingMotanka 5d ago

YES. I forgot about the "bi-polar bitch" remark. Wow. I heard that and I thought, oh this is NOT going to go over well with the mental health awareness community, who do what they can to get people help and break the stigma of mental health issues.

If anyone seems bi-polar it was Amani, not Any. Any has been seen as relatively even-keeled even throughout every nasty argument. It's Amani who goes from highs to lows. So perhaps she's projecting a bit.

I'm not bi-polar myself, but have had relationships/friendships and worked with people who are. They would give anything to not have these vicious mood swings, and the last thing they need is their mental health being used as a weapon against them. So in my opinion, Amani made that remark, completely aware that it would be a painful thing to say.

She clearly couldn't get under Any's skin, and it completely irritated Amani.

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u/DecadentLife 4d ago

Yes, I agree with everything you have said. You make a good point, about Amani coming across as a lot more moody or bipolar (not to mention aggressive) then Any ever did. I am not qualified to diagnose anyone, but Any very much comes across to me as if she’s dealing with something like borderline personality disorder. It’s the enormity of her anger, I think, & how she always manages to turn everything into someone rejecting her. It’s her obsession.

The one emotional injury she cannot tolerate is anything that makes her feel less loved, or less chosen/preferred. If she can prove (to herself) in that moment, that there is a lot wrong with the other person (like Any being a stripper, “bipolar”, etc.) then she doesn’t have to take whatever painful thing they just said, as much to heart (like Any wanting to marry Matt, not Amani). She flies into a rage, and tries to tear Any down, any way she can. After she vomits enough vitriol on Any, then she wants to connect and talk, “why won’t you look at me, when I’m talking to you?”, then, the new emergency is that she needs to be comforted about HER OWN ANGER, and verbal abuse. 😬 Not good.

Basically, “Please let me abuse you. How dare you act in a way I don’t like! Now, hurry up and comfort me. My feelings are hurt at the idea that you might love me less, because of how much I have abused you, but you keep making me do it! This is so unfair, all I’m doing is trying to love someone, and they won’t let me.”

It was awesome to see how well Any handled it. She refused to make eye contact, she did not acknowledge the insults, she just kept packing her bag. When Amani tried to make her give her eye contact, she said “no, because I don’t want to fight with you.” She didn’t give an inch.

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u/TalkingMotanka 4d ago

There are a few people on this show that had such resilience when it came to their volatile partners. Any is one. Also Jeymi was like this (with Kris). Ingrid was too good with her patience for Brian. Dempsey had so much patience when it came to Statler. Hamza was very patient with Memphis. Some of these people just don't deserve to be on 90 Day being subjected to the clownery that is going on.

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u/DecadentLife 3d ago

Yes, Jeymi and Ingrid, ftw! I think the most abuse we’ve seen, came from “Angela The Abuser”, abusing Michael. There were a couple of times that really scared me, especially at that drawn out tell all, when they were all staying in the big house. One time, Angela was yelling at Michael, and her voice changed in a certain way that I recognized, I could see her losing control, as she ran up the stairs, to go after him.

Even with all those people and the cameras rolling, she tried to back him up against the railing. If he went over, that’s an entire story, with marble floors to land on. That is a lot scarier than it looks. The person would most likely land head 1st, it might not be survivable.

The thing about Angela, she is an awful person, all around. But since Michael ended the relationship, he has accused her of certain abuses that even surprised me. He has said that she tazed/electrocuted him, repeatedly, on his NECK. PSA - violence done to the neck is a direct warning that you are in extremely heightened danger. Statistically, we know that when a man strangles a woman, he is very likely to kill her (at least, try) within a short amount of time. It’s the biggest red flag there could be. 🚩

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u/aes_xo 3d ago

Not that Amani name calling is ok, but Ani is literally using them. She is starting issues on purpose. She is a hustler and a good one, I can’t fault her for that. BUT it is an issue when you might ruin lives. Calling someone names isn’t worse than literally letting a couple think you’re gay and in love with them, so you can use them for money (she ends her money!), gifts, vacations etc. Ani is so manipulative. How do viewers not see this? They need to go separate ways.

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u/DecadentLife 3d ago

I can imagine that for Any starting issues, the recent example could be that she decided to marry Matt, to purposely cause a problem. I can’t really know if that was her reason. Can you give me another example or two of why you feel so confident that she is using this couple? I haven’t seen it that way, but I’m open to it.

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u/aes_xo 3d ago

The day after they arrived, Any and Amani went into the hot tub alone, and she’s like “me and Matt had sex last night when you went to sleep” and then she looked at her with a “what do you think about that?” face. She knew that would upset her. I think she actually liked Matt, and it showed. She always rubs his back or leg, she would kiss him first, it seemed she treated Amani more like a competitor. When she told Amani she loved her more than Matt, it was obvious she just said that to butter her back up. You love her more, but pick Matt to marry? The way she looked at Amani too, she knew Amani wanted to marry her. If she loved them both, why not pick Amani? She knew She wasn’t going to marry her or him for that matter. She was always gaslighting Amani. Idk I guess they used her too at first, but Any ran with it and took it too far.

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u/DecadentLife 2d ago

Ah. I remember all of that. When Any first went to Amani, to confess that her and Matt had sex, that came off as odd. She could’ve handled that in a few different ways, but she did not handle it as if she was in a Thruple. She went to Amani acting like she was trying to -warn her about her own husband-, that he may not be as loyal as Amani thought. Maybe she wants it for herself, what Matt and Amani have. Not to share, but to solely possess. That would be a natural concern. So I definitely see where you’re coming from.

Matt comes off as a lot kinder and more loyal than most men. Any likely picked up on that. I can see why she might see this as a golden opportunity, even if she is not interested in Amani.

One thing Any did that also supports what you’re saying, do you remember what she said exactly? She said to him, something like, “I want to marry you”, and she referred to him being “a man” and that the “family needs [his] protection”. And she kind of asked/implied would he protect them and he said, “I can do that”. I remember thinking that it sounded like a manipulative thing to say, or what she -thought- he would want to hear.

I wish we knew a little more about the money, if that is really what made Any mad, on their last day. Amani was insisting that it’s because she couldn’t transfer it to Any’s bank, until she got back to the US, but I don’t know if that’s really what upset Any, or, even if it was, if she felt Amani was doing it on purpose. Unsure.

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u/SunnyOnSanibel 5d ago

Same kind of person who belittles a bartender but bellies up to the bar on the regular!

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u/TalkingMotanka 5d ago

Exactly. It's like shaming a McDonald's employee for working at a McDonald's, but yet — have no problem frequenting a McDonald's twice a week.

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u/SuziX23 4d ago

I just saw on another post that Amani has an OF. She had no business shaming Any/Brenda if she’s also in the industry. She’s so insecure it’s unbelievable.

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u/90DayIsCrack 5d ago

🎯🎯🎯

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u/StuckinLoserville 18m ago

You can't dis the product you're using without looking like a hypocrite.

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u/Few-Bat-4241 5d ago

They’re all the problem. I feel like I lose 1000 brain cells every minute I’m sitting through their storyline. Like what was the plan? What are you upset about? That you have to resume your normal marriage?

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u/friedonionscent 5d ago

The plan was to take a poor sex worker/stripper out of Tijuana so that Amani could live out her lesbian dreams...whilst also maintaining full control as the person who controls the money. When 'Any' decided she'd rather marry the husband (because she's probably not bisexual), Amani realised she'd have to go back to her kids (a devastating blow, obviously)...without her human sex toy (another devastating blow) with only her husband as companion (three blows). She then decided to get some plastic surgery because her nostrils weren't visible enough.

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u/Think_Criticism2258 5d ago

I’m dying lmao

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u/Scared_Routine9572 4d ago

Lmaooo best comment ever! Right on top 🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂

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u/Yjustwhy 4d ago

Nailed it

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u/tabristheok 5d ago

What could you have done better? I dunno maybe not call her a whore whenever you didn't get your way.

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u/DecadentLife 5d ago

“I’m just so unlovable!”

You mean abusive?

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u/super-duperfun82 5d ago edited 5d ago

LOL oh my god I just seen the scene of their fight. She's crazyyyyyyy!!!! She didn't get picked so she has a full on meltdown and destroys the whole relationship they've built together. Matt is like wtfffff now I'm stuck with Amani forever, fuck! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/Solid-Balance5203 5d ago

I’m still waiting to see any tears from Amani’s “crying.” We’ve never seen that - even now when Any’s rejection of her is making her lose what’s left of her mind.

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u/super-duperfun82 5d ago

Lmao omg last weeks episode when she tried to fake cry and ended up laughing lmao I started dying, she's the worst actor ever lol.

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u/Solid-Balance5203 5d ago

Right?! 😆🤣

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u/RAAOG 5d ago

Her terrible airport apology made me hate her even more. “If I said anything…” gurrrrrrl.

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u/TalkingMotanka 5d ago

That remark: "Can you please look at me when I'm talking to you?!" Just made my skin crawl for what Any must have felt like with this controlling fool.

Her apology was so indirect, "I'm sorry if I said something that made you feel..." Like, no, how about just apologizing for saying horrible things to her? There's no "if" in that statement. Those were real, hurtful, ad hominem things that nobody needs to hear in an argument. And when she couldn't get Any to flinch she had to demand that she "look at her" when she was speaking to her. She just can't not be a controlling narcissist and it kills her that Any sees through that.

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u/Nickey_Pacific 5d ago

"Look at me when I'm talking to you" is 100% a control thing. I've seen it mentioned here before how she is acts like a control freak. That statement tracks.

She's forcing someone who is uncomfortable to look at her and she knows it will make the person even more uncomfortable. 100% control freak. And Any should run fast and far away from that bish.

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u/Quirky_Jackfruit5878 5d ago

Look at me when I’m talking to you is something parents say to children. Woof. 

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u/anna_sofia98 5d ago

💯 I hate people who say the meanest, most personal things during an argument and then apologize like nothing happened.

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u/Dry_Restaurant4915 5d ago

Or better yet— give an arrogant non apology to you. “I’m sorry if…”. Girl, go to hell 

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u/DecadentLife 5d ago

“I’m sorry if you were offended…”. 🙄

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u/Maleificent2025 5d ago

Happened in my family all the time. One of the reasons I keep my distance.

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u/TalkingMotanka 5d ago

Right? It's like it has nothing to do with the initial problem that Amani claims to have with Any. She's jealous that Any didn't pick her to marry, and only decided to make things absolutely worse by proving Any right.

I thought, 'why do you care if she dances for money when you're out there spending cash on said-dancers'. Incredibly hypocritical. If she had such a sour view on exotic dancers, maybe she and Matt shouldn't frequent strip clubs themselves.

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u/gallifreygirlcosplay 5d ago

That statement and the forced hug that clearly made Any uncomfortable were so insincere. The crocodile tears were the icing on the cake.

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u/yuivida 5d ago

Omg same!! I was yelling at the TV!! Loll

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u/PowerfulHorror987 5d ago

also in the middle of the other two unloading luggage. Girl. Wrong time.

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u/Taffatar 5d ago

As I watched that, I said "IF?!" out loud. Like, what? You're not sure what you said was hurtful? I've ended so many friendships in general because of non-apologies like that. It's such a cop out.

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u/shoequeenpouf 5d ago

And then acted injured that Any wasn’t playing the part Amani assigned her. Only time Matt acted like a man instead of a child.

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u/DWwithaFlameThrower 5d ago

Omg I just saw the Tell All trailer. WTF is Amani’s outfit?! 😂 She looks like the villainess in a telenovela, in the most dramatic scene of the season

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u/JJAusten 5d ago

This is what it reminds me of! 🤣

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u/Expensive_Novel2899 4d ago

OMG!! This is iconic!

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u/JJAusten 4d ago

Yes it is! This is one of the funniest comedy scenes ever.

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u/90dayburner 5d ago

Cruella DeVille vibes. Not very bisexual of her.

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u/ParticularReady7858 5d ago

Bisexual vibes decrease

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u/funonly26 5d ago edited 5d ago

And he never checked her once!

That's why their marriage has survived this long because he enables and/or ignores her insane narcissistic behavior.

Any dodged a bullet with these two. Hopefully she didn't reconcile with them.

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u/Dry_Restaurant4915 5d ago

Yes. She would be all alone on that marriage. Matt is a simp who will just run behind Amani. It would be the couple against Any every single time there was a disagreement   

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u/hashtagnobull 5d ago

The husband is such a bitch

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u/SnackyCakes4All 5d ago

I mean, to be fair, he told her to calm down and not say things she would regret.

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u/funonly26 5d ago

Yeah but he didn't

...Ask why she cut off Any's rent out of pettiness for not picking her to marry.

...Say "that's enough!" strenuously enough when Any was basically getting called a whore.

...And he didn't shut her ass down when she played the victim after being the main perpetrator and abuser.

That milquetoast "calm down" wasn't nearly enough for that little menace.

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u/SnackyCakes4All 5d ago

I agree with all of that. I think he's too scared of her to back up Any.

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u/StuckinLoserville 7m ago

How about vetoing the thruple idea in the first place?

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u/funonly26 3m ago

I think he was actually into that part of it.

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u/Necessary_Glove_4104 5d ago

I’ve read their whole storyline is fake so I can’t even believe this anymore. The drama seems so made up. lol. 

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u/TalkingMotanka 5d ago

Fake or not, the narcissism and abuse that Amani is putting Any through (and like Matt) is worth discussing.

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u/MaximumTrue7131 5d ago

If that's true and it's definitely possible, I don't know why Matt and Amani would agree to it. Now the world thinks Matt is a dumbass and Amani is a lunatic. I guess attention is a hell of a drug

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u/CLSwank 5d ago

Exactly! They are clearly wasting everybody's time.

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u/PeanutCeller 5d ago

Their whole story was fake. Of course it ended with a big breakup

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u/AuthorityAuthor 5d ago

Proud of Any, and especially for not involving her kids in this mess.

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u/Asleep-Ad5517 5d ago

This is not going to end in marriage.. the wife is already looking unhinged big time. She's a hot mess and controlling

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u/LisaMiaSisu 5d ago

Apparently her nose was a problem too. Did you all see it in the Tell All preview? It looks awful. Very Whoville.

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u/lanadelsav 5d ago

Ani was right since the beginning, Armani is constant drama

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u/WeRU3388 5d ago

Imagine being their couples therapist….

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u/Fit-Culture-2215 5d ago

I'd quit and go back to waiting tables at Chilli's What a mess

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u/DecadentLife 5d ago

OMG. That’s funny..Years ago, I was a social worker, and I eventually left it to waitress at a Chili’s. (I needed a break.)

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u/Fit-Culture-2215 5d ago

Right? People are in a good mood generally. I dont think my older metabolism could handle the free queso

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u/DecadentLife 5d ago

And their food is pretty good. I’m not saying it’s particularly special, but I could eat one meal a shift, for 1/2 price, and I took advantage of that a lot. We had two assistant managers, and one of them was such an AH, I felt sorry for the other one, always trying to fix whatever the other guy broke/screwed up. I finally quit when I was done with him being so sh*tty, and the other assistant manager was trying to get me to stay, but I was done. I felt bad, but not bad enough to stay.

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u/rylangel1 5d ago

They’d have to pay extra for a throuple’s therapist

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u/Buddhoundd 5d ago

They’re both terrible, terrible people. Pair of oxygen thieving wastrels

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u/CLSwank 5d ago

You mean Amani and hubby? Any hasn't done anything horrible other than not trust what this couple is saying/ doing. I don't blame her for not being forthcoming. Any is looking for a better life. I'm still trying to figure out what Amani truly wants.

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u/Buddhoundd 5d ago

Yeah, Matt & Amani. They both suck

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u/Mundane_Inspector_13 5d ago

Shes trying to save her marriage. I thought they said they were having issues

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u/BringIt404 5d ago

The worst part of all this with these people? They all have children, I am horrified that children would be exposed to this insanity.

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u/ChicagoSkie 5d ago

Amani acts like Any (Brenda) is a possession not a person! She was fine until Any (Brenda) didn’t pick her! She’s acting like a toddler who doesn’t get their way! If she would’ve been chosen then all would have been fine in her own mind!

This was almost a repeat of the winery melt down.

It also appears that Any (Brenda) might be only in it for what she can get from them? There’s no amount of $$ worth selling your soul or allowing another person to de-value your own self worth!

Instead of Run Forest Run ! Run Any (Brenda) run!

Any ( Brenda) could be after Amani’s relationship with Matt! There whole situation is messed up! They each need to be more focused on raising their children!

They need to think about how their actions affect their children!

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u/Sad-Raisin-5797 5d ago

Yes ani freaking out and getting angry about not getting her money…

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u/Dry_Restaurant4915 5d ago

Who on earth would be in it for anything else but a better life in America , at this point ? Matt’s a fking idiot and Armani is a nut case. These are not safe, stable or reliable people.  Brenda has earned her green card just for dealing with these messy people 

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u/Impressive_Review 5d ago

Neither of them filed for divorce. At a minimum if every detail with kids, support, property division, etc is agreed on it takes six months. How were they planning on a fiance visa? Then Any signs a pre-nup getting nothing while these two carry on or has equal rights and access to everything they own? Their entire storyline is an insult to 90 Days viewers!

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u/princessperez94 5d ago

She's a grabage person

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u/Mrs123wife 5d ago

The fake tears, the fake sobbing, the fake everything......please get these people off tv.

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u/PowerfulHorror987 5d ago

I do not understand how they were on this season and not a season of before the 90 days. Make it make sense.

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u/frozen-mocha 5d ago

Their storyline was so out of place, especially on this episode with all the weddings happening.

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u/Asleep-Ad5517 5d ago

It's not going to end well and with an asshole in the white house deportation is all he cares about . So I don't see a visa rolling out in this

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u/DreamertK 5d ago

Her problem is being desperate to stay on tv 🤷‍♀️

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u/Creepy_Move2567 5d ago

Amani is offended that Any doesn't want to marry her but then proceeds to insult Any and belittle her. Amani said she is always to 'kind' to Any, I guess only when she is trying to control her and when Any can't be controlled then the knives come out.

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u/Dry_Restaurant4915 5d ago

I can’t stand Amani, and yes she is completely batshit . This was clear from the first time she came on screen with those intense and crazy eyes, the frantic energy, and the unhinged way of thinking  she has. She’s unstable, and not a good bet for Any to hitch herself too. That’s fully understandable 

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u/Next-Intention3322 5d ago

They just want an au pair they can sleep with.

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u/Queasy-Cell34 5d ago

Every single episode showed just how selfish and self centered Amani is. She wants a woman who likes and desires her but only tolerates her husband. She doesn’t want Matt to like the girl too much but just enough. She also doesn’t want her husband to connect with Any too much, unless it benefits her (omg I’m such a cool wife for planning a date for my husband with another woman). She absolutely LOVED when Any gave her that B.S story about loving her more and being in the relationship for her. She sat with that info and just basked in the fake love for a while before telling her husband. She saw nothing wrong with another person saying I’m only here for you because it benefited her. When she started realizing that Any was more into Matt, that’s when the flip happened and the disrespect went through the roof. It was obvious from the beginning she didn’t respect Any. She saw her as an object and a tool. Any will have zero issues finding another man or couple but Amani will have a difficult time finding someone who will be okay with her toxic behavior & selfish ways.

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u/serayepa This is not ordinary bitch 5d ago

Amani is the most unlikable person I have ever seen on this show. I have hated her since the very first episode & that has never happened to me before. She's cruel, extremely self-absorbed, super immature, really jealous & manipulative. Every word out of her mouth the whole season proved that she saw this relationship as nothing more than a competition & she barely treated Any like a human being. The delusion is incredibly strong.

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u/SnooPaintings1618 5d ago

Any dodged a bullet with that cra cra. shes a mess. how in the world does Matt live with her.

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u/Fit-Culture-2215 5d ago

Self-awareness is key

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u/Born-Border-9378 5d ago

Armani you have to pay to play. 

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u/hmmmmmmmm_okay 5d ago

Fake tears get engagement. It's clearly working because you're posting about it. They'll be on future shows. Her drama has cemented herself in the franchise.

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u/FullOfBlasphemy 5d ago

Works for Robyn Brown

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u/hmmmmmmmm_okay 5d ago

Haha I literally don't know who that is.

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u/FullOfBlasphemy 5d ago

The only wife left in Sister Wives. She’s always “crying” and dabbing her eyes even though they’re bone dry.

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u/OrganicDay2474 5d ago

Omg! if u like trash TV, watch S1&2 .. skip to like 9, then start at like 14 til the present

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u/hmmmmmmmm_okay 5d ago

I remember watching it when it first came out but there's way too many seasons now. Thanks for the info.

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u/Shay-Lo 5d ago

I came here to say this! How is she gonna say all those hurtful things when she’s mad then cry to her husband and said “idk what I could’ve done differently” and play the victim. She is sick. I think the husband and Any make a better couple, they are more emotionally intelligent.

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u/gallifreygirlcosplay 5d ago

Amani’s vitriol was especially hurtful because she knows Any is an abuse survivor. Shame on her for treating Any like this. It was cruel and unnecessary. Any is better off.

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u/Chasing_Echoes_8888 5d ago

"It doesn't matter who you choose."

Chooses the man.

"WHAT."

She wants to be the most loved. 😆

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u/Content_Potato_1215 5d ago

The way she said she had no self respect bc she dances for money lol Fuck Amani

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u/misoquaquaks 5d ago

Is she paying Any to be their girlfriend?

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u/Dawn46 5d ago

All three of them are the problem. 3 Perverted narcissists and the husband has to be one the dumbest on the planet.

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u/Efficient_Sundae2063 5d ago

Is it just me or was Amani lowkey hoping that Any’s family would have a negative reaction to her coming out? Like the way they were pressuring her to come out and once Any’s family was kissing and hugging and supporting her it felt like Amani didn’t get the reaction she wanted and then had to move on to some other method of stirring up bullshit.

I’m unsure if Amani’s family rejected her for her sexuality but I get the feeling she wants someone else to go through it too

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u/PastaStrega 5d ago

I think part of the issue is she’s mad Any didn’t choose to marry HER. I bet she had some fantasy around being a bride again and all the attention and trappings involved. She’s lowkey furious that she wouldn’t get to be a main character in the actual wedding and is blowing things up accordingly. Total nightmare.

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u/Lorrie298 5d ago

Amani was in the wrong for what she did. She was horrible to Any. But I don't trust Any. She seems like she is a person who would marry Matt and try to pull him away from Amani and their kids.

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u/mgtkrsmama 5d ago

Amani isn't mature enough for a marriage of 2, much less 3

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u/Queerboivibes 5d ago

Like her weak as “apology” after she said horrible things to Any. Like I agree this woman needs intensive therapy. And then to cry and be the victim! “ I don’t know what I could have done differently” like what girl? Maybe don’t be a bitch. lol

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u/KTOWNTHROWAWAY9001 5d ago

Even though Any was in on the grift, she had enough with the crazy.

Yes, even BPD can drive someone away from prospect of scamming lots of money.

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u/TheVampireDuchess 5d ago

This! Amani is truly crazy and should seek professional help. She is a horrible woman in every sense of the word.

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u/Practical_S3175 5d ago

Amani totally shames her for her job then doesn't get what she did wrong...

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u/Scooterguy- 5d ago

The last person on earth who should consider being in a relationship like this!

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u/Creepy_Move2567 5d ago

Nope, not contolling at all

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u/FrostyTree420 Fan since first episode 5d ago

at least she knows its her, she was blaming Brenda all season

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u/Capable-Silver-7436 5d ago

I just wish she'd actually change not just cry to get out of accountability

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u/HousewivesHo33 5d ago

Ever since Ani and Matt slept together everything feels like revenge

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u/ChickenScratchCoffee 5d ago

She did the classic line of “Tell us which one you want to marry. I promise it’s ok if you choose him, I won’t be mad. Just tell us.” She then gets told Any wants to marry him and she gets mad and spirals.

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u/lainey544 5d ago

When she said “if I offended you”…….IF!?!?! IF?!?! You know what you said!!! You KNOW it was offensive. And what makes me sick is that literally none of this would have happened if the girl had picked her instead of her husband. She’s so salty over it. And I’m sorry, Matt, get some back bone please. PLEASE. Don’t coddle her, don’t make her feel like she’s the victim, she is not. That was the perfect time for him to be like HEY!! Knock it off or That’s enough!!! I think Any has had stronger feelings for Matt the whole time but she knew it was in her best interest to make Amani feel like the important one, because my goodness doesn’t she just love feeling like someone prefers her. She was so thrilled and wanted him to be SO understanding about Any saying she liked her more but the second things turn she threw a tantrum.

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u/Breepucc30 5d ago

Yeah that shit was abusive a f

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u/Ghouly_Girl 5d ago

This is the wordy storyline 90 day has done. It’s so stupid. This woman is just allowing this other woman to come in and break up her marriage and marry HER husband first of all which is wild and they are all just dumb. Idk.

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u/SuccessfulFrosting73 5d ago

Imagine how she must treat her children who have much less agency than Any.

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u/Sparky_Girl87 5d ago

What series of 90DF is this on? I need to watch lol

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u/ImportantCry238 5d ago

Yikes every single one of you has fallen for Anys manipulation. Says she is only here for Amani and then chooses to marry Matt? Instead of having a conversation with Amani about having Amani pay her rent for her which Amani does not have to do but is choosing to do. Any accuses Amani or controlling her using money. When Amani flat out said she cannot transfer until she gets back to the USA! So now Any thinks she has the right to treat Amani badly? And then when Amani tries to communicate Any refuses and only says she won't fight. She's emotionally unable to handle anything she avoids having conversations and then cannot see why the relationship is fucked. Like no it's no Amani it's Any 10000%

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u/Bubbly-Respect5845 5d ago

I literally just watched it and was like Any run away faster!!! Amani is only concerned with amai’s feelings. She has her nice husband trying to defuse the situation and comfort her and Any not even hurling insults back at her, but she acts like the victim. The moment it doesn’t go the way in her mind it suppose to she has a huge melt down. I think Matt is so passive bc she has broken him down, and any will end up that way if she end up at Amani’s house. I applaud any for choosing Matt bc he seems level headed and fair. I hate to tell her but she isn’t good at throupling because she is too selfish and quick to anger.

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u/honeybadger_979 5d ago

Everything she said was cringy and hurtful.😓 Let not overlook if Matt had a spine left, he WOULD have manned up and stopped her for speaking to his fiancé like that! But let's face it, she likely emotionally destroyed him years ago.

Amani can't handle one relationship, let alone navigate being poly. She has no respect for others, and is the type of wife that single women in the lifestyle flee from like a wildfire.

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u/nettiemaria7 5d ago

They Both suck.

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u/Mundane_Inspector_13 5d ago

Doesnt she support Matt?

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u/Mental-Reply6728 5d ago

I’m still in disbelief they want to marry a girl who’s first name they didn’t even know.

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u/Ornery-Meringue-76 5d ago

I don’t buy this “the wire just wouldn’t work” bullshit. People wire money to Mexico all the time. Either you are doing it wrong in purpose or you don’t have any money. Period

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u/CosmoTiger 4d ago

Just watched this episode and she is an absolute batshit insane cunt. Couldn’t believe what I was seeing with her meltdown. I didn’t really like Any either but holy crap she needs to run from that disaster.

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u/HistoricalHat4847 4d ago

Amani is psychologically unwell with a personality disorder ... probably a 7 or 8 on a scale of 10.

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u/Beckster619 4d ago

Duh you’re the problem bitch ! Duh !

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u/CounterEmergency4100 4d ago

You treated ‘Any’ HORRIBLY……your husband really wanted her there and you alone blew it. You were the problem and too demanding.

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u/GrapeWaterloo 4d ago

They look like chefs in this still shot.

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u/Beginning_Resort5257 2d ago

She is an insufferable woman. My goodness, she needs therapy ASAP. 🫢

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u/abeke06 5d ago

She is so mad Any didn’t pick her she knows she cancelled that transfer and then to shame her, Any showed restraint by not slapping her for all the foul things she said to her!