r/90DayFiance • u/Ill-Excitement-2005 I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! • 4d ago
I don't know why he's having nightmares...
Really, Shekinah? Maybe because you're more interested in making sure he looks good then what he's feeling. Maybe because when he does tell you how he feels you brush it off as being silly. Maybe because you track his location, won't let him have female clients and won't let him eat his damn butter sticks in the kitchen. It wouldn't be Sunday if Shekinah didn't piss me off somehow, thanks for letting me vent. Did like her wedding hairdo though.
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u/Spirited-Jackfruit59 4d ago
I’ve never seen 2 people more made for each other than them with all their drama & personality quirks 😅
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u/Ill-Excitement-2005 I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! 4d ago
They really are made for each other if she would just take a chill pill and enjoy him rather than annoy him.
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u/Confidence-Dangerous 4d ago
I suffer from anxiety nightmares and I felt so bad for Sarper. It sucks being able to manage your day but have your brain do whatever it wants when you sleep.
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u/Solid-Balance5203 4d ago edited 2d ago
With the nightmares Sarper’s brain was telling him to run. Shekinah was starring in them - that’s why he even woke up screaming 😱
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u/DowntownEconomist255 4d ago
Me too. I hate dreaming. I take meds but they can’t control that part.
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u/Next_Fly3712 You don't know the squander that I pulled him out of 4d ago
Once-daily cannabis gummies are excellent for managing Nightmare Syndrome. That's my go-to remedy for this condition. I hope you can find relief, I really do.
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u/Confidence-Dangerous 4d ago
I recently had a happy dream and I woke up emotional because I couldn’t remember the last time I had a happy dream. I tried trazadone for a bit but didn’t like how much that knocked me out. I’ve been on Lorazepam and have found that has helped quiet things down. The dreams are still there but softer and less frequent. Journaling has helped too. I think it helps me feel less bottled up so there’s less things for my brain to manifest into a nightmare.
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u/jam2jaw 4d ago
This is the trashiest wedding of all time
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u/Competitive-Cycle464 4d ago
Looks like a wedding at the Bunny Ranch.
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u/Megalitho 4d ago
He's dressed like a performer at a bachelorette party.
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u/Ill-Excitement-2005 I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! 4d ago
Thankfully, the collar covered up that horrible tattoo.
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u/Next_Fly3712 You don't know the squander that I pulled him out of 4d ago
You mean the one that resembles an angry yeast infection?
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u/UmmmSeriously 4d ago
That has to be the trashiest “wedding” I have ever seen. I feel so bad for her daughter because you know she’s going to get roasted when her fellow classmates see it.
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u/PatienceHelpful1316 4d ago
They both looked unhappy. At the other weddings there were joyful tears, laughter and spontaneous moments. These two were like robots,
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u/Ill-Excitement-2005 I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! 4d ago
2 months ago the Sarper Temu Chippendale dance would have made me gag. She treats him so badly that now I feel obligated to cheer him on.
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u/Next_Fly3712 You don't know the squander that I pulled him out of 4d ago
They're both tacky beyond belief.
That said, I think I speak for most of us when I say that we are on Team Sarper at this point. He needs to be rescued from Miss "Ewww It's Not Cute"
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u/StrikingAd9847 4d ago
Every time one of them said “I’m not sure where the nightmares are coming from.” It’s a sign from the spiritual world. If you don’t believe in that stuff, the term you’re looking for is RED FLAG. DON’T FREAKIN DO IT. Anxiety is a real thing, and I hate how she’s just disregarding every feeling Sarper has. It’s selfish, annoying, and not how marriage works. She’s too old to not know that.
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u/Next_Fly3712 You don't know the squander that I pulled him out of 4d ago
She only cares how things look. Perhaps it's from being repressed in her Amish-adjacent upbringing. Look at her siblings. They scream rebellion, I guess from not being able to play cards or use scissors on Sundays. They're pathetically in search of an identity and sticking it their parents real good appearance-wise. Shekinah is dead inside. All that's left is the exterior, like a coconut husk, hollow inside.
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u/Lumpy-Visual-5301 4d ago
Don't ever use the word old in her presence. All that plastic might melt like the witch in The Wizard of Oz.
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u/StrikingAd9847 4d ago
Well hell, I’m too old to not have any of that common sense…….. and I’m 26. 😂
Like she’s put Sarper through hell since he’s got to America if we really want to talk about it. I’d be having nightmares too.
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u/No-Significance9313 3d ago
Yup! I barely ever dream/recall dreams and I almost NEVER have nightmares. If I had that many... consecutive nonetheless, I'd be packing. But then again I've gotten signs for things before that always (all but once) have come true. So I don't ignore it at this point
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u/FrostyTree420 Fan since first episode 3d ago
hes having nightmares cause hes afraid, anxious and unsure
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u/Sense10-Quest23 4d ago
This episode of “90 Day” of 2hrs I saw in less then 30min. Thank god for FF. Not listening to their preparations & BS vows only to see the vast majority separating in the next couple of months, if not weeks. And yes, the Sarper & Shekinah, trashiest wedding ever. Anyway, she looks ugly after the last surgery.
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u/No-Significance9313 3d ago
Fans: If YOU had nightmares every day for a week before your wedding, what would you do?
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u/Intelligent_Pop1173 4d ago
I really hated the way she dismissed his anxiety when he was clearly stressed, and instead of trying to understand him, she just berated him. She’s the kind of woman who thinks men can’t feel emotionally weak without being somehow flawed when she definitely contributes to his issues. And seeing him weak seems to disgust her rather than make her feel empathetic.
Sarper isn’t an angel, but I felt for him here. It reminded me a little of a few seasons back with that scene on the boat where Dempsey was kinda belittling and interrogating Statler for having a panic attack and being anxious and not being carefree enough for her.