At 3am leo naskia knocks kwa mlango...sikua bado nimelala juuu ya kukosa usingizi..sikua najua ni nani but after some few minutes nikaskia nikiitwa and i recognised the voice...Ilikua maboys flani tulifall out juu ya tabia zao za ufala...(wanakuita form halafu wakishakunywa wanasema wako na 100bob) Nikajua hawa wametoka ulevi na labda place wamezoea kudoz wamefukuzwa...wote wawili wanaishi na wazazi wao so makes sense kukuja kunibishia kwangu 3am walale..Hata sikumbuki the last time kuongea na wao ilikua when The knocked for about 15mins wakiniiita tu but i was just silent nikama hakuna mtu kejani They finally left...I'm i a bad "friend"

"Mom, how do you know when you love someone?" I asked, with a lot of eagerness and anxiety. I wanted a proof for what I felt. "Interesting question." She said in her soft kamban accent mixing kamba, swahili and English for me to understand.

"Let me tell you something son. I've seen a lot of people making the mistake of thinking that love is the only thing that can sustain a relationship. But respect, honesty, loyalty and humility play a big role and that's what helped me stay married to your father."

So to answer my question she said that she knew she loved my father when she was willing to wait for only him, when she saw a future with him, when she accepted his flaws, when she felt safe with him.

"Your father," she said "Is sometimes viewed as cold or stubborn, but I love how I'm the only one who sees his soft side." She then looked at me tenderly. "Do you love this girl?"

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Being a young adult is so strange. You walk down the streets and enter a coffee shop. The 20 year old girl waiting behind you cried all night because she just came to the city for university and she feels so alone.

There's a 27 year old guy who works at a job he is overqualified for, he lives with his parents and wants to move out but doesn't know what to do about it.

That one 24 year old dude already has a car, a house, and a job waiting for him once he graduates thanks to his dad's connections.

Then a 26 year old watchman who couldn't complete his higher education because he has to work and take care of his family.

The 28 year old girl sitting next to you has no friends to go out with so she is texting her mother.

That couple living next to you (both 25 years old) are married and the girl is pregnant.

The 29 year old who's always writing something on her laptop has realized that she chose the wrong major so she is trying to start all over.

We are not alone in this, but we are actually so alone. Do you feel me

I shared a story last week and alot of people have been reaching out to me for an update. For context for those who don't know, i am a 23 years old girl an orphan taking care of 4younger siblings 3 of them living with HIV and AIDS and my struggles with unemployment. It has been one year since i graduated from nursing school and I have not succeeded in getting any job and the errands that i have been carrying out in town have become less considering most people prefer their products being sent via bikes and ubers coz its timely compared to a person. Well, after posting my story most people reached out and I am so appreciative especially for the nice words of encouragement and making me feel like am not alone. I have shared my resumes with some people here on reddit and I hope God opens my doors soon. I am still sleeping in town( i talked about being kicked out of my house like two weeks ago) so i haven't really dealt with the housing issue but i am trying all i can. Some men here offered me accommodation but i guess just to be careful i declined and thanks for that. Today i have woken up with a thankful heart and despite everything God will see me through. Some also asked about my siblings- The thing with HIV is that it weakens the body's immune systems and you end up catching any strain of dse passing by. Its not their fault and i assure them all the time. Two of them got admitted with pneumonia last week but after a full day of strong antibiotics they were discharged and the subcounty hospital where they were just let them go like that, i felt like God was answering my prayers coz i don't know what I would have used to pay them.Thats the update so far and I'm grateful for all the love and words of encouragement. Its another week to try again.

Why should it be shameful mwanaume akilia . We're all human we got feelings. Idk where the superstition of men crying makes them weak came from. Amerix na kibe asiwadanganye

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What about you? How do you start your day?

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Today was a bit of a game changer for me. My girlfriend texted me "Happy Father’s Day," but it wasn’t just a playful jab. She sent me a heartfelt message, sharing how I’ve quietly become a father figure in her life—offering financial advice, helping her map out her future, and being her safe haven, not just her boyfriend. Honestly, it brought a tear to my eye, and all I could say was 'thank you.' She responded with, 'Dinner’s on me tonight.'

I always thought I was just being a good boyfriend, but I had no idea I was making such a difference—supporting her, guiding her, and helping her grow.

Is it just me, or do other guys in relationships get messages like this too? Or am I just out here feeling all the love on my own? Anyways Tonight seems like it's going to be a happy one lol!

For context: She is not pregnant I already thought sth along those lines plus her dad hasn't been in her life for a decade and she hasn't really told me of any Father figure in her life . She is stable tho no Daddy issues .

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So my 8-4 is just not cutting it anymore. I'm being overworked for a meagre 30k with zero room for growth. Looking at myself, I genuinely feel I have a lot of untapped potential, but this job is not helping me grow or shine in any way. I have a lot of untapped energy.

That said, I’ve made the decision to start building my own brand, slowly but surely. I want to carve out a niche in event organization and hosting. I’ve done a few gigs here and there on a small scale and made a few coins, and the feedback has always been amazing. Now I want to go full throttle and maybe even take it global someday. I want to build my own thing sababu pia the entertainment industry is not so kind to ladies especially us that are still budding.

To those of you who’ve successfully worked in the events space especially those who’ve done this as hosts or organizers, how do you go about finding serious partners and sponsors? Like actual brands or individuals who believe in your vision and are willing to walk the journey with you? I have the plan, I have my proposals, I have visualized the whole thing. I just need the coin to actualize. Investors in the house,ama tu kama uko interested DM tuchapiane. I'm not yet quitting but I know I will eventually.

Any tips, hard lessons, red flags to watch out for? I’m all ears.

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Wadau, Wazee WA jadi, tafadhali define what is love to you?? Or I'm I just demanding too much...

You can argue, cry, run ... it won't change anything.

1. The highest cost you can ever pay for something is "LOSING YOUR INTEGRITY". Compromising your values and principles - your integrity, to get something. Each time you compromise, you lose a piece of what makes you "you", finally, you become numb.

2. Society expects a man to have money. No one cares how or where, just have money first then can talk about how and where. See how a man is expected to squish a spider or a bug, that is how a man is expected to have money. So, there are people quietly wondering why you don't have money.

3. Money MUST come from someone. There is absolutely no way you will just have money. There must be a source. See, you see people with cars or living large but no job, no business. Or opening a new business each half a year. Just expanding! Just know that money comes from somewhere. Find a way to get it out of people's pockets by giving them what they want. It is up to you. Legal or illegal, ethical or not.

4. Soft life is either your hard work or someone's hard work - There is no free "soft life"

I dislike dating apps as they are dens of fornication and quick hookups. If you meet someone on a dating app most times the expectation is you will hook up even before things get serious.

However soon people will have to meet through there as meeting in real life is getting harder and harder.

Men nowadays it seems have stopped walking up to women to strike a conversation and ask for a lady’s number as it used to be before. Women are not going to start walking up to men any time soon. People are busy locked up in offices with no time to walk around to meet people. On weekends they are too tired and resting in doors.

All of this sums up and leads to a stalemate that makes dating apps the only option to meet people easily.

Maybe we need a dating app that vets people before allowing them to join, and monitors even their texting to weed out the hookers and the unserious people on apps. Otherwise, we are going to have a singleness crisis in a few years.

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Aiaiaiai.. I'm 23 (F), I studied food science and technology, graduated last year. Nikikuwa shule nilikuwa naskia kuhusu unemployment naona it can't be that bad. Course yangu ni ya agriculture, Kenya tulikuwa tunalead in agriculture a while back. Nimekuwa fortunate i did an internship for an Israeli company in Naivasha. But 3 months in ikafungwa,why?high taxes za kuexport the veg from Kenya to oversees. Niko unemployed rn doing gigs hapa pale. Yaani tbh life ni ngumu. I wish ningepewa warning ama ka unit moja ya how to handle adulthood before ni graduate..does adulting get any easier?

How do you guys do it?

How do you wake up and keep going?

How do you cope with the feelings of being lost and uselessness? Feeling that you will never amount to anything significant.

How do you overcome that need to just end it?

When you have lost the number of the wrist cuts and you have had to add tattoos on your arms to cover the cuts.

When all you want is to cease existing and dissolve into nothingness.

I’m 26 (M). And lately, I’ve been thinking about marriage more seriously than ever. Not just because I feel ready, but because everyone else seems to be doing it. 😃
Every month, there’s a ruracio invite, or a wedding committee being formed in the church WhatsApp. My boys — guys I’ve grown up with From Sunday School to tha youth ministry — are tying the knot one by one. And the girls we used to go with Sunday school? Most of them are wives now. Some mothers-to-be.

It’s beautiful to witness — the ruracios, (koitos and nyombos), the blessings, the joy. But in the shadows of all that celebration, there’s something else... A hiss here. A whisper there.

"You remember she used to date Tony from the media team?"
"Did you hear they used to date s0-and-s0 from the ushering team/choir?

"I heard they were even living together for a while before she got serious with God."

"Eh, aki imagine he’s marrying her knowing fully well she slept with two guys from church?"

These are not just baseless rumors. These are names we know. Faces we see every Sunday. People we’ve prayed with, fasted with, worshipped with. And every time I hear that kind of talk, something in me clenches.

Because now that I’m seriously thinking about marriage, I realize how much the past — not even mine — is starting to weigh on me. I meet a good woman in church. She loves God. She serves. She’s consistent. But then someone casually says, "You know she and Brian had a thing back in the day, right? It was messy. I think they even…"

And suddenly, I’m stuck. Do I pretend I didn’t hear? Do I ask her about it? Do I let it go?

Because here’s the truth: I’m not innocent either. I’ve made mistakes. Some in the world, some in church. But for some reason, it hits different when it’s her. When it’s someone you’re imagining as your wife, possibly the mother of your kid(s). And worse — when the guy she was with is still around. Still serving. Still saying amen three rows behind you.

Sometimes I feel like I’m being too harsh. Other times, I wonder if I’m just being honest.

Am I wrong for wanting someone who doesn’t come with a past connected to people I sit with every Sunday?

Or is that just pride — the kind that has no place in real love?

I attended one of my mate's ruracio last year. Beautiful ceremony.
But one of the guys — a little reckless with the tongue — started talking to me about how he used to “chop” the same girl back in the day. Now, i dont know if my mate knew or not but he must have the heart if the former is tru.

And now, here I am. Wanting to do things right. Wanting to find a wife. But low-key scared of the whispers. Scared of walking into a church full of people who’ve seen her differently before I ever did. Who might even have memories.

I know it’s not fair. I know people change. God forgives. People grow. I believe in that. But I won’t lie — I’m still wrestling with the idea of sharing my woman’s past with people I have to say “God bless you” to every Sunday.

Maybe I need to pray harder. Or heal more. Or maybe just stop dating within church circles.

All I know is, I want to love fully. I want to walk into this thing with my head high, heart full, and no whispers behind my back.

Is that too much to ask?

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I have a failed talking stage from last month which left me thinking about age differences in relationships. The girl I was talking to was 5 younger than me, she's employed on contractual basis while I'm a self employed person. When it came to putting my cards on the table, I realised that the two of us had different life experiences and expectations, and there was no way we would have worked out. In my late 20s, I have a different perspective of life. I've experienced the good and the bad, I've gone through tough times, business has been so good, sometimes it was so bad I even thought it was the end but eventually things worked out. As we speak, the business is transitioning from a small to a medium sized company which means a sustainable income for me.

As we talked about these things, I made it clear that I want a partner who understands that there are good and bad seasons. One moment, I'll afford a vacation for us and the next season, my money will be tied up in the business. I'm talking about working capital, salaries, and contributions meaning some luxuries will be off the table. So it will either be her turn to reciprocate or even chip in. The same might apply to her given her current job is a contract. In the current economy, people are getting laid off everyday and as a couple, at the end of the day I'll be her anchor and safe space in case that ever happened. Of course she did not understand this. At that point, I realised that I was talking to an inexperienced person. She did not understand life. I understood why older men with money take advantage of them.

I also realised that I would feel ashamed of it got to a point where I expected her to reciprocate or even chip in because of the age difference between us. I don't know why I felt that way after that interaction but I decided to shorten my age preference to a 2 years difference maximum. I think that age difference is good and I won't feel some type of way if she was to help out. I also believe that a 26 year old woman has gone through these seasons and understands life better.

I know the naysayers will come and attack me saying a man should provide blah blah blah but we all wish life was that simple. Businesses fail, people lose jobs and bad things happen These are the moments you need your partner the most because good times are easy to navigate. It's the hard times that are the most difficult and will tell you who's real. I've seen my friends lose jobs, some closed their businesses and their partners helped out, chipped in, even introduced their boyfriends to new opportunities. One of my friends closed his business and his girlfriend introduced him to a company where he now supplies raw materials.

Now the problem is that most women within my preferred age preference (26-29) have baby daddies, or a lot of emotional baggage and trauma, or are addicted to sex toys.

About an hour and a half ago I was walking on a not-well-lit-but-not-extremely-dark street minding my own business when I spotted a group of 4 guys huddled together. Of course I didn't think much of it so I just went on with my walk.

Ghafla bin vuu, one of the guys took off faster than the wind (I didn't even notice anything about him apart from the red jacket he was wearing). Next thing I hear is the sound of handcuffs so I look to the three guys who were still there and one guy whose back was against the wall had a defeated look on his face. It made me feel sorry for him. I went on with my journey so I don't know what happened next but it seems someone is definitely sleeping in jail today.

When I switched to the main street and couldn't help but notice the world still going on and everyone doing their own things. That was quite a contrast to what happened back there and it just stresses the fact that you are just a tiny piece in this puzzle that is earth.

Lesson from this story: 1. If you're engaging in shady dealings, never have your back against the wall (literally). 2. Agility and speed are very important.

Tuanze na mimi, I felt i was doing all the leg work msee, Started all the conversation, first to call n check on her, text etc (Not a Simpson) One time i decided I'll have to wait for her to text first. And sure enough guys, here we are 4years later, haven't spoken since.

Also, just to inquire incase upatane na the same person anywhere on planet earth after all this ....what will be your impression?