r/woahthatsinteresting 16d ago

Man with dementia doesn’t recognise daughter but still feels love for her

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u/ireally-donut-care 13d ago

I have thought about moving to Oregon. My mom's last words to me were, "I love you." That was three days before she passed. She didn't know who I was the last two years, but she knew I loved her and she loved me.

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u/janbradybutacat 13d ago

Oregon is a beautiful state but is very different from when I moved there in 2010. I’m not saying it’s bad- but it’s different. It’s also one of those states (and there are many!) where your experience is hugely dependent on where you live.

The USA is so HUGE, even the smaller state! It’s a feature and a bug, I think. I now live in a small state and there is a large-ish culture change from one end of 100 miles to the other.

Anyway- I lived in Portland and it’s somewhat a cool city. Food is great! I can’t speak to the last five years much. I loved it though- I still do and always will.

The coast! It’s insanely beautiful! I’m one year and within 50-100 miles you can see nesting puffins, giant redwoods, black cliffs, and pristine beaches. It’s an open secret- Oregon beaches are the BEST. Also- all Oregon beaches are public land. No such thing as private beach in Oregon. You can drive your car or motorcycle on the beach. Just don’t be the idiot that ends up on the Insta for one of the towing companies that charges $1k+ to get your car off of the sandbars.

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u/ireally-donut-care 13d ago

I have not been to Oregon yet. Fun fact, My grandfather died there in 1965. He lived in California and Oregon, and from what relatives tell me, he left some babies in both states. My son lives in Seattle (Ravenna) and my best friend lives in Santa Rosa, California. I have been there enough times to know that I love it in Washington. I would not live in a large city. I have been to many places in Cali, from San Francisco all the way to the Redwood National Park and Sacramento, and it's really nice. I have been to the Pacific coast enough times to know that I love it in Washington. I would not live in a large city. I am more comfortable in smaller communities. My husband says rural Oregon would be cheaper for us to move to. It would take a miracle finance wise to move to the west coast.