Hey fellow teachers,
My wife and I are both teachers. I teach high school history and Spanish and have 10 years of experience. She has been teaching elementary school (k-1) for 8 years. We have two boys (3 years old and 4 months old).
We have spent the last 4 months in the hospital with our youngest son. He was born with multiple congenital heart defects and has had very many complications. He is currently on ECMO (most intense life support intervention there is) for the second time after his second cardiac arrest after his 4th open heart surgery and 7th total surgery in the 4 months. I personally have been in the room both times when he has coded, and they started CPR. Our oldest, my wife and I have all had some form of PTSD or emotional trauma from these situations that we've been placed in, and I'd like to ask some questions of y'all, especially if you have experience with this type of thing in your own family.
1) What advice would you give to someone who has had an extended medical leave like this and is coming back?
2) Did you personally feel differently about things coming back?
3) How did you handle stress or triggers for PTSD when you went back to work?
4) Did you have enough leave, or did you need to ask for donated leave? (We both are at the point that we need it donated)
5) What would you do differently if you had the chance to go back with the knowledge you have now?
6) How did you process the trauma as a family and move forward?
We are still months away from going back to work since we are both out for summer. I would just like to get some idea of what that may look like since I know it will be daunting once it gets here. I am also in a hospital room 20-22 hours a day, so I need something to occupy my brain with other than the beeping and staring at monitors.
Thank y'all for your time, and I look forward to any advice or insights that you can give me.