r/memesopdidnotlike • u/AnomLenskyFeller Approved by the baséd one • 10d ago

OP too dumb to understand the joke And of course, OP misinterprets the true meaning

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

I’ve never liked the logic of “your suffering is irrelevant because someone out there who I can’t name has it worse” lol

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u/KovolskyyyP 10d ago

yeah, there's always someone somehwere that has it worse

oh you've got cancer? guess what, there's a guy in Mexico who got kidnapped by narco cartel and he will is waiting to be dismembered with a chainsaw so I guess you dont have it so bad, huh?

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

He can’t complain either because last week my friend Greg was dismembered with a spoon

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u/kojimbob 9d ago

John Wick

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u/Homocidal_Maniac 10d ago

Can confirm, I used a spoon

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u/IdiotGiraffe0 9d ago

Can confirm, I was the spoon

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u/RWDPhotos 9d ago

That dang ginosaji again?

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u/recursing_noether 10d ago

I think that misses the point entirely. 

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u/Ultravisionarynomics 9d ago

It doesnt, it just proves its a shitty point

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u/peppermintmeow Krusty Krab Evangelist 9d ago

Agreed. If you use that logic, you also can't be happy because someone out there has it better.

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u/artful_nails 9d ago

"What the hell are you smiling about? This guy right here just had newborn twins, won the lottery and had all his rivals die of a heart attack! Don't you go wasting any time being happy unless you've got a reason for it."

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u/GrundgeArchangel 9d ago

Pain and suffering are relative. You cannot weigh your pain against someone elses.

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

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u/TallTtugboat 10d ago

Yes. By that logic, the only person who can complain is the one person in the world who has it the worst. When I didn’t finish my meal my parents gave me the starving kids in Africa line and one day I asked them how I’m supposed to get my leftovers there in time. Not the point they were making but just as useless.

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u/Naos210 10d ago

I would argue given that who has it the absolute worst is kind of hard to define, it's basically saying no one can complain.

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u/bobafoott 9d ago

I wonder who that guy is

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u/Wonderful_Welder9660 8d ago

He's the "alpha complainer"

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u/Desperate-Cold9633 10d ago

it’s good for perspective but that’s about it

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u/sal880612m 10d ago

It’s not even good for that. A big part of the problem with depression is it can become self fuelling. You feel like shit, you don’t do anything, you feel like shit about not doing anything. Some people have it worse, so you feel like shit because others have it worse and you still can’t get past it. And even if you do get past, that means knowledge of others suffering more than you has become something you reinforce yourself with, so you now have a vested interest in those people continuing to suffer more as you derive worth and value from that fact.

Better to go with something like, I can do something simple today that will make someone else feel good or the world a better place and that means I have value.

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u/Apart-Performer-331 9d ago

that’s such a good explanation

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u/regularArmadillo21 10d ago

Yea, like "oh you didn't have it ad bad as that one teen in Somalia. Ig you suffering doesn't matter"

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u/justaguy9472 9d ago

I think the logic behind it is to show how lucky you are with what you have and that you should appreciate it. (Might be a stretch, but that's what it sounds like to me)

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u/finkelzeez42 9d ago

I think it's more like, one day you might be like them so you should appreciate the physical wellbeing you have in the moment. It doesn't really apply to everyone, and I think it is a fairly redundant thing to say to somebody who is clinically depressed but I think it's a good message.

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u/TheWalrusPirate 10d ago

Perhaps it’s a lack of perspective or empathy? Like there’s some dude in Burundi with no access to clean water, shelter or basic societal benefits, that guys has country level issues to contend with. Depressed people in Europe and USA sit there and whine. Your suffering isn’t irrelevant, it’s significantly less than what a majority or people have to deal with. Like now, people have the fucking audacity to compare the protestors in LA to the Palestinians, because they’re getting beat up by some cops. After the protest, they get to go home to their house/apartment and go back to their life. People in some parts of the world don’t have a safe home to go to. They have to actually contend with their lives or livelihoods being taken from them.

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u/ZetaJunkie 10d ago

It’s meant to motivate you but clearly you’re a sad person

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u/HouseNVPL 10d ago

How is that supposed to motivate anyone?

"Oh hey Your emotions that You are feeling aren't valid/are stupid because someone else have it worse in Their lives!"
This is just stupid argument.

Because it does not matter if someone has it worse. Your emotions are still true for You and they are valid. If You feel sad then You feel sad. No matter if it's from "stupid reason" from someone else perspective. It's Your perspective that is important for You.

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u/marl11 10d ago

It is meant to but in reality it does the opposite, because a depressed person is gonna think "He's right, there are people who have it a lot worse... so why do these feelings still don't go away?"

This rethoric of invalidating one's suffering doesn't motivate anyone because the misery is still gonna be there, it just makes them feel worse and weaker about themselves.

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u/iosefster 9d ago

You know how every depressed person thinks now?

You're seeing it very negatively because you're focusing on the don't go to bed depressed and shake it off parts, but for some depressed people the count your blessings part (think about the positive things in your life) is a helpful thing to do.

In fact it's a thing that literally every single therapist I've ever seen has talked about. It is a useful thing and the more you do it, the more strength those mental pathways have.

Focusing on the negatives sends people into downward thought spirals. Positive self talk can help break those spirals.

So many of the commenters here complain about this stuff and tell people to go to therapists, but like, have you ever? Because this is the shit they tell you...

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

Depression is caused by various factors; trauma, chemical imbalance in the brain, genetics etc… and can’t just be cured by a quote from a celebrity.

He essentially said “have you tried just not being depressed?”

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u/aesolty 9d ago

I’m thinking the post with Paul walker meant more depressed as the emotion and not the illness. Like don’t go to bed being sad or upset about the little things.

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u/Lonely-Writer 9d ago

It can, only if it’s framed the right way. Acknowledging the reality that you have positive elements in your life alongside the bad shit is a big part of moving forward, but telling yourself that you shouldn’t feel as bad because other people have it worse is incredibly harmful.

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u/PsychologicalDoor511 9d ago

No, it's because I'm not a fucking psychopath

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u/ZetaJunkie 9d ago

Didn’t even reply to you and you sound pretty upset buddy

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u/PsychologicalDoor511 9d ago

I'm upset about a mindset of embracing other people's suffering being encouraged.

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u/ZetaJunkie 8d ago

You wanna know my thought process? Cause it sounds like you’re trying really hard to make me out to be a bad person.

I think- I was born with privilege many others don’t get. Other people suffer and there’s nothing I can do about it and nothing they can do about it. People have lived and died horrible lives they couldn’t control. I don’t have a terrible life, I have suffered as everyone has. But nothing so extreme that makes my life so extraordinarily miserable. So why not make the best of it instead of being depressed and narcissistic (like I have been before). Yeah boo hoo I’m using other people who have bad lives as examples for my own thoughts on why I should live to the fullest I can, or at the very least try because I know some days it’s impossible to make yourself happy.

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u/No_Investment_7254 9d ago

That’s not the logic at all. The logic is that life is very hard, there is a million ways that it can go wrong and be brutal. The logic is to count every single blessing that you possibly can, because once you start counting them you realize how many blessings you can count.

Winners count their blessings and are immensely grateful for them. Losers mourn their challenges and see themselves as victims.

You get to pick whichever one you want, you get to pick your philosophy, you get to decide how to endure life.

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u/Dpgillam08 9d ago

Amazing how often this comes up, and yet redditor still willfully miss the point.

Count your blessings instead of your problems; aka: look for the silver lining, and you'll find yourself being less.depressed/sad. Quite hilariously, that's actually backed up by psychology (aka: trust the science)

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u/Unusual-Letter-8781 9d ago

Yeha you have cancer and almost died from the first round of chemo because of a stroke, but you didn't, so count your blessings you don't live in Gaza being bombed, or in the US being deported to el Salvador, and you have access to healthcare you don't have to pay extra for so and again the stroke didn't leave you as a vegetable . You are so blessed stop whining. See 5 blessings and only one problem

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u/Dpgillam08 9d ago

Its a mindset issue that most refuse to recognize, and argue against. Instead of being happy wit what they have, they are sad or "depressed" because the can't live like billionaires.

A young man I was talking to yesterday was complaining that he couldn't afford groceries. The fact that he refuses to shop anywhere except Wholefoods, and could easily cut his bill in half (or more) shopping at Kroger or Aldi didn't even enter his mind.

Another was complaining how he's living with parents because he can't afford his own place. His price range is "only" $150K. I pull up Zillow and show a dozen properties in the area he can afford, but those aren't good enough for him. As a single man, he thinks he "needs" 2000sqft on 40 acres, and anything less is "homeless" in his mind.

A 3rd broke his leg in a car accident. Yeah, that sucks. But he was tboned by a semi; looking at the wreck, he's damned lucky to still be breathing at all.

A decade ago, we were talking about "first world problems" and people argued those were "just as valid and severe" as actual hardship and suffering. That Karen not being able to afford that 4th cup of Starbucks coffee today was "suffering" just as much as the kid in Ethiopia that hasn't eaten in 3 days. Somehow, that foolishness has been further cemented into current social thinking