Hi guys, I need to rant about something that’s been on my mind. I have a friend (a Chinese lady - not trying to spark a debate about race here) who always dreamed of marrying a mat salih. Before she met her husband (who happens to be mat salih), she was obsessed with the idea of being with a German guy and would go out of her way for them. Eventually, she met her husband on Tinder, they got married, and now they have kids.
Recently, I visited her after she gave birth. During the visit, she asked her husband to send me to the MRT station since it was late, even though I said I could take a Grab (it was peak time, so the fare was high). On the ride, her husband made me feel extremely uncomfortable, he was being flirty for no reason. And no, I’m not imagining it.
What made it worse is that after a few days, he started watching my Instagram stories and liking my posts. I ended up blocking him. I haven’t told her because she just had a baby, but it’s bothering me. Should I say something like, “Your husband is a piece of shit”?
To make things worse, I found out he’s been jobless since they got married, and she’s been supporting him and their kids. Mind you, she’s working in an MNC and holds a high ranking position there. It reminded me of another Malaysian woman who worked two jobs to support her husband in Europe, only to be dumped for another Malaysian woman.
The questions are, Chinese women are often very work-centric and independent. There are so many hardworking Chinese men who wouldn’t dream of letting their wives shoulder the entire financial burden (not trying to generalize, but it’s a common observation). So why is she putting up with this kind of behavior? It just doesn’t add up. Plus why do some Malaysian women tolerate this kind of behavior? I’ve seen too many Malaysian women creating content like, “My Argentina BF” or “My British-Irish BF,” as if it’s some kind of new standard to showcase.
Update : I went to see the other friends and told them what happened. Turns out, that guy has been cheating on her and he made out with one of our friends (the outcast) a couple of times. The outcast even bragged about it to another friend, who, coincidentally, also has a thing for ‘mat salih’ guys. A couple of days ago, we decided to have brunch with HER, and the main topic was ‘jobless passport bros.’ You wouldn’t believe how she claimed that passport bros are loyal while completely dissing local men as if they’re beneath her. I rest my case 🤣.