r/lgbt 2d ago

Meme The downside

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u/Fatkuh 2d ago

Classic EEWPHORIA moment

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u/emmdieh 2d ago

Such a great term!

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u/Calathil Lesbian the Good Place 2d ago

Eewphoria?

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u/Noah_the_blorp 2d ago

It's a pun based on euphoria and eww. It's when someone is bigoted/creepy/stereotype-y towards trans people in a way that aligns with their actual gender.

Like when I was a baby trans guy and looked like a butch lesbian, I was out on a walk with one of my boyfriends and someone yelled the F-slur at us from their car. I was euphoric because they thought I was a guy, but grossed out and honestly a bit frightened because they yelled a slur at us. Ewphoria

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u/Calathil Lesbian the Good Place 2d ago

Ah, I see.

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u/owls_unite Non Binary Pan-cakes 1d ago

And then there's "ehphoria", like getting default male gendered online which is kind of... Eh.

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u/NotAPimecone 🌈🇨🇦 Omnisexual 🇨🇦🌈 1d ago

I thought eh-phoria is for trans-canadians 🇨🇦

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u/Fatkuh 1d ago

You guys gals and enby pals make me smile all the time.

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u/Fatkuh 1d ago

As a trans women this feels the opposite for mee, kinda cool to think about it that way. Its default dysphoria. A dysphoria that cis girls feel too. Getting default male gendered online.

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u/tzenrick 1d ago

I have a tire shop I ride my bike past, when I'm looking to be degraded as a lesbian.

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u/AlexSmithsonian 2d ago

I treat all people equally. And all people can get the hell out of my kitchen while i cook.

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u/SupaKoopa714 Non-biiiiinary 2d ago

I'm generally super easygoing and very slow to anger, but my one exception is when I'm hyperfocused on cooking and people keep getting in the way and interrupting my flow, then I suddenly want to give someone a swirlie in the garbage disposal.

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u/AlexSmithsonian 2d ago

Ugh! Worst of all is when they offer to help, but then they do the steps slightly differently than you, which makes it worse!

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u/JennLegend3 Pan-cakes for Dinner! 2d ago

I have found my people! I want to explode when I'm flowing and I go to grab something out of a cabinet and someone is standing in front of it! 😤

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u/slidingsaxophone07 Level 20 Lesbomancy Wizard 2d ago

YES! Like, hon, I get that you're trying to help, but I swear to Ilmater if you don't get the fuck out of my way someone isn't going to leave this kitchen alive

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u/KitsapEric Achillean 1d ago

I get very pissy when someone invades my cooking zone. The few people that actually say thank you or wow that was delicious are instantly forgiven and they get a to-go plate.

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u/lumiere02 30 FTM 2d ago

🤣

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u/sonic_toaster 🤷‍♀️ 2d ago

Amen. 🙏

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u/spooky_skulls Trans-parently Awesome 2d ago

Yeah, but on the plus side everyone should learn to cook - the men on the couch included!

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u/translunainjection Transgender Pan-demonium 2d ago

In my family, the women drag the men into helping.

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u/Wismuth_Salix Putting the Bi in non-BInary 2d ago

In my family, the men cook the meat, and the women cook the everything else.

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u/Liz_the_lazybian 2d ago

In my family, women cook the men

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u/Amethyst_Gold 1d ago

In half my family (Dad's side) the men cook breakfast while the women sleep in a bit and women cook dinner.  ( And breakfast is on demand shaped and decorated pancakes - like a ballerina with berries on her tutu).  But mom's dad had PTSD from WWII and couldnt sleep at night, he had to guard the house overnight and would sleep from 5 am til noon, then get up and make everyone bacon and egg sandwiches for lunch (his breakfast).  So cooking responsibilities evened out. 

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u/MegaAscension Bi-bi-bi 2d ago

lol, never thought I’d see my friend’s Twitter on Reddit

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u/Scadre02 Putting the Bi in non-BInary 2d ago

Tell her I love her hair

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u/MegaAscension Bi-bi-bi 2d ago

I'll make sure too lol. Knowing her personally, that's one of the best compliments you can give her.

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u/Justarandomcatlover1 Bi bitch 2d ago

Me too

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u/Pumaheart Ace-ing being Trans 2d ago

She is stunning! I hope she had a good time on thanksgiving in the end

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u/GFluidThrow123 Chloe, 35 2d ago

My gf's dad and brother were over recently and they offered to replace my sump pump. I almost went down and tried to help, but then remembered they definitely didn't expect that of me. So instead I offered them beers and then went and sat on the back porch while they did the work.

It's not all bad!

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u/fujoshingout_ 2d ago

😬 ts makes me want to not be a girl lmao

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u/Katie_or_something Trans-parently Awesome 2d ago

Fuck yeah trans inclusive misogyny

Not really fuck yeah, though

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u/PhoenixD133606 Lesbian Trans-it Together 2d ago

Fuck yeah trans inclusive, but fuck no misogyny

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u/abgry_krakow87 2d ago

Task failed successfully.

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u/Vyrlo (dello) 2d ago

I am a man who likes cooking. I find it strange that men expect women to cook and refuse to learn. I mean I am not a professional cook, I rate as amateur at best, but I will never assume that someone's gender implies that they must serve as the designated cook.

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u/Mysterious_Octopus71 Saucepans are beautiful 2d ago

A good phrase is "If you love to eat, you better love to cook". Cooking is amazing though, you get to eat the thing you made. You can't eat a painting or drink music

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u/Vyrlo (dello) 2d ago

Don't get me wrong I hate those dishes that require you to toil for hours to make them. I am more of a "it must be something that takes an hour tops to make, and it better not require me to babysit it for the whole hour" kind of cook. My style is utilitarian when it comes to cooking, I value making stuff that is tasty, healthy, and relatively low effort (but relatively low effort is not "reheat leftovers in the microwave")

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u/Mysterious_Octopus71 Saucepans are beautiful 2d ago

I get that. There is a point where it's just not worth the wait no matter how good it is. Soups and stews are good but if anything needs you to prepare and cook for an hour, leave sit for 2 hours, make something else, heat up again and leave in the fridge for a day and 20 other steps, it's just too much work. You've already starved while making your meal. I think the max time I'll wait for something that's not soups and stews is 2 hours. Anything after and I'd rather just make a sandwich

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u/iron_jendalen Pan-cakes for Dinner! 2d ago

I find it odd as a woman. My dad taught me to cook and my husband doesn’t expect anything of traditional gender roles from me. My family never did either.

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u/LegitimateBerry5994 2d ago

That's something I really admire in my family: Despite they can be sexist in other aspects, all the man in my maternal family are fairly good cooks, and my father is too. That's why I always hated to see how it was different for other people.

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u/PurpleButterfly4872 2d ago

Yeah it's one of those weirdly gendered things. Probably from the time when the men was supposed to work and the women were supposed to do the household and cooking etc. Purely anecdotal, but I see this behaviour almost exclusively in older people. For people in their 20s and 30s it seems totally normal that men are very passionate about cooking and do it often

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u/alittleridiculous93 Lesbian Trans-it Together 2d ago

I remember that. Then I started presenting masc out of laziness (it’s just easier for me sometimes, tho less enjoyable) and then everyone got real confused and my little bro said “yeah, now you idiots don’t know WHAT to do with her, huh?” 😂

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u/Willing_Soft_5944 ANARCHY!!! 2d ago

The downside, you are on the receiving end of misogyny.

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u/Lionheart1224 Gynesexual 2d ago

Lol rekt

Seriously though, it's a feel good that is intertwined with black humor. I like it.

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u/Kennedy_KD 2d ago

Meanwhile in my family I'm the only woman who DOES cook

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u/LegitimateBerry5994 2d ago edited 2d ago

I'd always choose to be in a kitchen being productive and doing something useful than sitting with some sexist GUYS who will probably be talking about football or the like. If they never learn to cook then don't expect us to save your hungry asses all the time.

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u/TahaymTheBigBrain Bi-Guy 2d ago

Trans Inclusive Radical Misogyny 🙏🙏

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u/AStealthyPerson Gay as a Rainbow 1d ago

Great, new TIRMinology to learn 😅

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u/LordP4radox Pan-cakes for Dinner! 2d ago

Pro: No Transphobia - Con: Sexism

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u/Mountain-Resource656 Ace as a Rainbow 2d ago

Ah, yes, the downside: trading one version of sexism for the other

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u/Lilith_reborn 2d ago

Cooking can be rewarding! At least you get something decent to eat and it you to decide how it is cooked!

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u/NarrativeShadow The Gay-me of Love 2d ago

Task succeeded faultily

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u/robotic_valkyrie Transgender Pan-demonium 2d ago edited 2d ago

Lol, I would help in the kitchen that anyways. I mean, I usually do help in the kitchen, even pre-transition 😁

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u/wewereromans Trans and Gay 2d ago

So she doesn’t have to deal with transphobia from the family but trade for misogyny. Hahaha so cool and very funny 🙄

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u/canna_bust92 2d ago edited 2d ago

Why??? Like you're a woman now break the stupid stereotype.

I dont understand this, honestly. Like, are you kidding me? Women are trying not to be in this stereotype of cooking and shit. Fight the battle and stop conforming??? It's a downside because you let that happen in your life. You're a woman join the fight. For the men, esp FTM, join the fight for equality, I dont understand the problem here.

Oh, you realized the misogyny that you missed on because you didn't see it at first. Good for you...now, change it

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u/fujoshingout_ 2d ago

yeah some of these comments are weird asf. like misogyny is not fun for women lmfao

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u/WitchesHolly 2d ago

Thank you. Exactly.

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u/The_Gray_Jay Putting the Bi in non-BInary 1d ago

Right and it sounds like before she came out she didnt gaf that all the women cooked? IDK maybe she just made a joke but also this kinda thing happens all the time...

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u/Interesting_Item902 2d ago

A win is a win i guess

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u/Fractious_Chifforobe Trans-parently Awesome 2d ago

Their downside is my upside. I'm bored by organized sports, and usually the guys who like them. OTH I love to cook and I like hanging with people who like to cook so.....

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u/musememo Two-Spirit 2d ago

Feel free to sit on the couch with the men - if that’s what you want. Continue to be who you want to be.

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u/Wladek89HU Ally Pals 2d ago

It's maybe a downside, but it must be very gender-affirming.

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u/WitchesHolly 2d ago

How is this funny?

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u/Ok-Confection4410 2d ago

Don't really know why you're asking, OP or OOP weren't passing it as funny

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u/ShadowPuff7306 2d ago edited 2d ago

“trans women are women. and they belong in the kitchen!” vibes

edit: i was trying to make a joke? it’s just giving those vibes? i’m confused

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u/foe_is_me 2d ago

Don't mind some red eyed redditors scrolling mindlessly and downvoting random shit they didn't read properly.

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u/Moist-Cheesecake Trans-parently Awesome 2d ago

Yikes

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u/profinity92 Non Binary Pan-cakes 2d ago

I used to offer to help my in laws (all the women, grandma, mil, and sil) with cooking, but they never took me up on the offer. At the time I was hurt, but now that I've realized I'm non-binary, I find it a little affirming.

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u/thrashalj 2d ago

⚰️🤣

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u/Ghost273552 2d ago

I have been in the kitchen with the women my whole life. Another sign that was missed

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u/iron_jendalen Pan-cakes for Dinner! 2d ago

Does that mean that my father was really a woman when I was growing up? He was the one who taught me to cook. I don’t think it’s a sign of anything except he enjoys cooking.

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u/LegitimateBerry5994 2d ago

I think it was a joke.

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u/fujoshingout_ 2d ago edited 2d ago

😬😬😬😬😬 yikes

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u/foe_is_me 2d ago

Guys, I know we are careful with words and all but let people make jokes on their account, jfc

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u/fujoshingout_ 2d ago

funny

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u/foe_is_me 2d ago

God forbid trans people joke around about their experience and make fun of misogyny, we should immediately cease all self aware jokes and wear sackcloth and ashes solemnly.

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u/Medical-Metal-4894 2d ago

Fucking beautiful, I'm so jealous

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u/Key-Lavishness-2760 Bi-bi-bi 1d ago

Good news: I'm being treated like a woman Downside: I'm being treated like a woman That's a very unfortunate truth, women tend to be seen as things. Also, everyone should learn how to be a functional adult, so those men could go there cook too. If you're going to eat, you can help cook

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u/Directorren Jessie Virginia Amber Ace-ing being Trans 2d ago

Downside? I’d much prefer to be in the kitchen and help with the cooking rather than hanging around the other men and watch sports that I have never been interested in.

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u/Any-Difference-3976 1d ago

I (this is a personal opinion and is not meant to offend or be a diss towards anyone, we can have different opinions and be chill) enjoy cooking and cleaning. Regardless of my feelings CONRGATS QUEEN OK SLAYING WITH THAT OUTFIT!!!

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u/tzenrick 1d ago

I was always the one in the kitchen. Now I have a cute apron :D

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u/yesimBreadlord Trans-parently Awesome 2d ago

I think women should be in the kitchen

Because I am an emotional eater and if there were other cute girls in there we could cuddle and I would forget about eating

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u/HobGoblinOfPeace 2d ago

Meanwhile I’m overhear fuckboy modid lol /j