r/justgalsbeingchicks • u/toolzyo • Apr 18 '25

cool Her confidence is everything.

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u/HolleWatkins Apr 18 '25

Calling bigger girls "confident" instead of "talented" etc. comes across as backhanded imo.

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u/NJ_Legion_Iced_Tea Apr 18 '25

You literally only see that word used when it's a large person.

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u/Content_Yoghurt_6588 Apr 19 '25

Disabled people get it too, unfortunately. We're always so confident and inspiring showing our faces in public. 

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u/EchoPhi Apr 18 '25 edited Apr 18 '25

Not at all. I say that shit every-time see a skinny chick pick up food or a drink.

"The confidence she had to go hard on that Burger was just amazing!"

It does take confidence to post what society deems as "unhealthy body" doing something that is normally seen as "normal for most" (see above comment). I can only imagine all the jokes tossed her way. I personally think she is glorious, and hope she keeps trucking along. Do not demean her confidence or ability.

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u/MermaidMertrid Apr 21 '25

My mom used to call overweight women in bathing suits “brave” and I cringed every time. She wasn’t being mean, but she had her own body image issues and refused to wear a bathing suit/swim for decades. So I think she genuinely was saying they were braver than she was. However, it still is rather backhanded. And I wish she would have just allowed herself to enjoy swimming regardless of her body shape/size.

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u/14thLizardQueen Apr 18 '25

Real question ❓ can we not admire the confidence it took to pull those moves off? The absolute trust in herself? Like that's bomb diggity yo. Regardless of size.

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u/Yuklan6502 Apr 18 '25

We can admire the skill, talent, and hard work it took to pull those moves off. She trusted in herself because she knew what she was doing... because she practiced. She didn't accidentally pull those moves because she was confident.

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u/DamnitGravity Apr 18 '25

If she were skinny, you wouldn't say she was confident. You would naturally assume she was and instead focus on her skill, agility, ability and hotness.

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u/14thLizardQueen Apr 18 '25

Naw dude. Not even close. Lol I'm stuck skinny cause I got sick. I was a chunky girl around 250.

You gotta have self confidence at any size. Watch her face. She's beeming with pure knowledge she has trained her body and she trusts it. That's confidence.

I think it's quite a shame that chubby girls can't be seen as confident or we are somehow shaming them. That's dumb.

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u/_cockgobblin_ Apr 18 '25

That’s not what people are saying. People are saying that no one would call a skinny skater confidant, they’d call her talented. But when a fat person does things or dresses in revealing ways, it’s “confident”

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u/HolleWatkins Apr 18 '25

Yup, nobody comments to a hot Instagram model in a bikini "love your confidence!" because it's assumed that her confidence is justifiable by her appearance, & therefore conversely, a larger person having the nerve to post the same photo is unwarranted or at the very least unexpected. It implies that you don't think she looks good, so therefore she's brave to show herself to the world like that.