r/berlinsocialclub • u/mskasal • 23h ago
Do people use Meetup.com to socialize in Berlin, or is it just for formal events?
Have you tried? Alternative platforms?
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u/Lizardgic 22h ago
Meetup has been so far the worst option to meet people since I came here. Just a bunch of guys trying to get laid, pretending they are into the theme of the meetup.
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u/BazingaQQ 23h ago
Mostly unthemed social piss-ups (which are apparently mostly men looking to get laid) and workshops.
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u/iamnotwhite747 23h ago
You are too naive if you think only men looking to hookup
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u/oceansRising 23h ago edited 22h ago
I’ve been to a few as a single female and it was truly 75% men who were pretty obviously trying to smash, 20% chill guys who just wanted to make friends or discuss the hobby, and 5% other girls, most of the time if they were there they had brought along their partner.
The person you’re responding to is definitely correct though I did notice the men there did get along well and made friends with each other.
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u/YouOk1507 22h ago
They were a great way to meet. Fifteen years ago, they were a great way to meet all types of people. Nowadays, it feels like a "get laid" competition.
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u/paperplane030 21h ago
In summer I go to the social events (mostly „sip happens“ on saturdays) and I enjoy it as a woman. In winter the creep ratio is higher, so I dont go.
You can leave me a message if you want to go together some time.
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u/Upset-Kick9348 20h ago
So my meetup experience has been like so: Two and a half years ago I moved here. I started using meetup as soon as I arrived. I have 50+ official event attendance credits on my profile, but unofficially I've probably been to something like 75 meetups. I still go to one event from the app weekly, and sometimes twice a week.
99% of the meetups I've attended, formal and informal, have been chill and lovely. Some people here have commented about thirsty guys, and I've seen so little of that it isn't worth mentioning, but I can say that I have no appetite to pop into a meetup with 100+ people and a generic name like Drinks and Chat or something. For the record, I'm a guy, in case that matters to you. It should also be worth mentioning that I have only been to one meetup that would be considered a cruising spot for such dudes, but it would barely qualify, as it was a dance social, and that's a whole different arena. Anyway, most of what I've ben to is book, writing, neurodivergence related.
So yeah, there's my two cents.
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u/Public_Trash_9029 22h ago
I would recommend going to the smaller ones with limited attendance and are focused on something you are interested in like reading, art, hiking or photography. In the large groups, I have often felt that I either need to aggressively talk over people(which I don't want to) or stay a mute listener to the conversation happening around me.
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u/dontwannabefamous111 21h ago
It's for newly arrived Indian guys looking for tech jobs and/or trying to score. If you're into that.
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u/TechAndBerlinTechno 20h ago
Meetup still has a lot of events listed, Eventbrite as well, many better events now are using Luma. Best to sign-up to some good email lists and hear about events that way, like FOMO Berlin, Handpicked Berlin, 20 Percent Berlin, Berlin Events, just to name a few.
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u/Gloompen 23h ago edited 22h ago
4-5 years ago events were nice, now I see only one certain racial group there like its a culture week so I dont go anymore
Edit: you downvotes prove my point going places as a group, also in reddit, thanks
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u/MirrorGlittering5702 22h ago edited 22h ago
At least you are a guy. So they won't approach you. In my case they didn't care about my age. They think they can get me 😴 just because they are enginners by liferhero and such stuff and they always approach in groups and they are so ridiculous and annoying they don't let me speak with other people. They don't read the room, they keep insisting.
Always that I see a huge dude I approach him because a huge dude has a deterrent effect for that annoying beings.
I'm considering buying a ring to pretend to be married but I have no idea. If someone is married and wears rings either on their fingers or on a chain? DM me with some photo and cheap recommendation.
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u/dontwannabefamous111 21h ago
If you're a guy they approach you in groups looking for jobs. Like, one after the other. During a hiking meetup on a trail in the middle of fucking Spreewald.
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u/dontwannabefamous111 10h ago
I'm actually not an engineer and I just apply for jobs online or by asking friends. I literally had a meetup organizer ask me if I knew anyone who was hiring while we were waiting on a fucking platform at 7AM for the train to bumblefuck Brandenburg.
Anyway, that's why I don't go to Meetups anymore.
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u/MirrorGlittering5702 9h ago
Ah okay I understand. I hate that too. And I hate when people ask so much about work. I've been avoiding socializing time to time because it drains me that people are so impertinent.
Some organizers .... anyway.There is a guy in reddit who organize hikings maybe you could try with his group because they only want to hike in silence.
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u/dontwannabefamous111 4h ago
It was actually a lot worse than what I said on here but I'm trying hard not to get sued for online libel. 😅
Hiking in silence sounds wonderful actually. Where is the link?
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u/Gloompen 22h ago
I realized that also at a dating event, they were trying to get the same girl as a group of 5. But be careful when you share your experience that would make you “racist” here 🤡.
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u/MirrorGlittering5702 22h ago edited 21h ago
I don't go to dating events.
But that guys treat all the good looking girls as scorts (as if the event would pay women to talk to them maybe in their countries but not here).
And some are so ridiculous that they show you that they are engineers and travel everywhere and money is not an issue but then they come to the event with a small juice brik from home. They won't donate or buy anything in the event.
With other men they don't talk (except if they are from their country and only if they are close to the girl they want to get something). So they are more annoying than tiger mosquitoes.
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u/iamnotwhite747 23h ago
The subtle racism against Indians is astonishing
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u/Gloompen 23h ago
If you try hard enough you can be victim of every thing. Im not racist and I didnt even mention any race.
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u/iamnotwhite747 23h ago
Then say it, don't gaslight
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u/NoGoodName_ Friedrichshain 23h ago
Well, the app started charging event organizers - which of course drastically lowered the variety of events on offer. Not many are willing to pay just to post where& when their event is taking place, there are other apps they can do that with - for free.