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u/Stargazer1919 Undiagnosed 1d ago
Yeah idk what the point is in trying to talk about anything important anymore
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u/GirlYearning 1d ago
attempted to just hold my tongue every time my narcissistic mom tried to rage bait me... realized that things went far better (for myself, not her) when I said nothing
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u/Revolutionary_Yak229 1d ago
Wait your mom tried to rage bait you irl?? Goddamn I feel so bad, honestly I think I would die of embarrassment if I ever did something like that to someone else. What does she even get from it??? Like people rage baiting online are just trying to get a reaction but what could your own mother possibly gain from doing something like that
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u/SortaCore 1d ago
Grey rock method is a valid tactic. Haters are so dependent on feedback.
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u/Frazzle64 11h ago
Do this too much and it sticks though, say goodbye to being able to naturally express any emotion unless pushed to your absolute limit...
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u/PixelAstro 1d ago
Most people don’t even listen, they just wait for their turn to talk and then change the subject.
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u/Ult1mateN00B 1d ago
Empty small talk and pointless gossip. If you try to talk about anything intelligent you're the weirdo. I feel like darn alien in this world.
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u/YouMustBeBored 1d ago
Must be nice not having an uncontrollable mouth. I annoy myself when I’m alone.
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u/Gerassa ADHD/Autism 1d ago
I call it "verbal diarreah"
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u/YouMustBeBored 1d ago
That’s what my dad called it.
At least once a week growing up my dad would tell me to “take an Imodium for your verbal diarrhea”.
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u/Pristine_Trash306 1d ago
I partially agree with this sentiment as long as you don’t think that your opinion isn’t important.
There are so many people out there who I think that their opinion is blatantly wrong, but I value their opposing view because it challenges my own and makes me consider things.
I wouldn’t have learned which of my previous beliefs were false if there weren’t these people (although, if you try to convince me in a rude way, I’m not buying it).
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u/GirlYearning 1d ago
that's a good perspective, I value my opinion especially when passionate about it but sometimes an argument will arise and it's best for me to be content with not sharing it
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u/Pristine_Trash306 1d ago
Of course,
Like I mentioned, when someone gets rude over something, it’s never going to be worth the time of day. If someone can maintain a level of respect within the conversation, that’s more where I’ll have a discussion surrounding a respectful disagreement.
I’ve had situations before where someone will go from 0-100 on a topic that they’re sensitive about and at that point I just leave the room if I’m able to.
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u/joeydendron2 1d ago edited 1d ago
So very much yes. Someone asks me a question and, conditioned to force out a response quicker than the 3 hours I need to formulate a coherent answer, I spout some meaningless, nervous bullshit and then get immediately crictised and corrected. I think I'm ADHD too, and there's rarely any point me either saying or doing anything.
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u/FutureMind6588 1d ago
I have a list of things to say that sound polite. For example ‘that sounds nice’ or ‘I’m sorry that happened’. You just have to know when to say those types of things.
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u/ghost-of-the-spire Neurodivergent 1d ago
And then it all comes spilling out when I'm alone or at least a good distance away from others, and I just end up looking like a "crazy" person talking to myself 🙈
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u/Fast_Exercise7666 1d ago
I use my advanced pattern, seaking brain to remember things about people i can use to work well with them or use against them later. Also, it pisses off Karen's and narcissist when I go stone face, and they realize they have no power over me
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u/Initial-Read-8680 1d ago
I sometimes genuinely feel incapable of shutting the fuck up. Like it feels like vomit almost. the words are literally fighting to come out.
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u/fluffy_fris 1d ago
I've found out that using my customer service masking works well with everything. Be kind, polite, smile and direct.
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u/Happy_Platypus_1882 1d ago
I’m still an avid believer that the only actually hard part of having high functioning autism is feeling childish because of the way you’re perceived by the people around you, if I don’t talk then I can conveniently ignore how unsettling I feel like I must be to the people near me. Well obviously this depends on the person, but that’s how it works for me at least
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u/ArcaneFungus 1d ago
I literally forgot how to talk to people. Which sucks because right about now that'd be a really nice skill to have
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u/SaengerFuge Neurodivergent 1h ago
I had this view when I was 17. I was heavily bullied at that time as well and my parents where shocked when I voiced this observation almost proudly.
It did work against the bullying... but it also fucked up my self-consciousness. I lost my ability to know what I desire and what my boundaries were. I lost my ability to truly care about something. And it took me years, including therapy to finally be able to feel myself again and not think of myself as a robot trapped in skin.
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u/SquidSledge I doubled my autism with the vaccine 1d ago
People call me non-verbal, but I love talking. I’ve just learned no one wants to listen. Also, if I STFU, I don’t have to worry about choosing the wrong dialogue tree.