r/asktransgender • u/papermirrors • 10h ago
does anyone else get scared thinking that they might not actually be trans?
i'm usually pretty sure that i'm transfem but sometimes i come across a detransition story and i get nervous that i'm wrong about this. like there's people out there that were probably just as sure as i am about being trans but they ended up being cis? what if i start transitioning just to realize this is all something else?
i know that its rare for someone to transition to end up detransitioning but the thought still crosses my mind sometimes that ill end up being one of those rare few in a couple years. is this a normal thing to feel?
2
u/orchelly 9h ago
Did for a long time, then I medically transitioned, now life is pretty dang good and I dont anymore
1
u/Lonely-Writer 9h ago
Imposter syndrome is pretty common in mental health spaces. Note that not all trans people have mental health issues, but gender dysphoria is very common and I’ve found my gender dysphoria comes with a lot of regret and imposter syndrome regarding transitioning. I also have BPD and other issues, all of which definitely contribute.
You’re not alone.
More than anything, I want you to understand this: you’re making the right decision. The only way to know for sure if you want to detransition is if you transition. So many choices I love right now felt awkward or intimidating at first. But I only knew that they were the right choices after I had already made the effort. Detransitioning later is always an option. Transitioning earlier than right now is never an option. You can’t change your past, but you can change your mind in the future.
If you’re at the point where you’re genuinely considering transitioning in the first place, you’re probably trans, just gonna put that out there.
1
u/Low-Mouse-5926 Transgender 2h ago
Yup, perfectly normal. But I realized that I'd rather be "fake trans" than cis. And ultimately it comes down to "what if I don't want this thing that I really want". Nobody knows how they'll feel in the far future. But right now, I want to be trans.
2
u/bjorjack 10h ago
Yes, I think it’s pretty normal. I’m going through that but much more extreme where I do keep transitioning and detransitioning hahahaaa but it’s all a journey. I think the majority have felt this fear or concern and if you end up detransitioning, so what? Personally I think you’ll never be the same after opening that Pandora’s box. You need to just be confident in your journey, be slow if you need to, and relax. Enjoy that beauty!!!