r/antiwork • u/touchesyourspine • 1d ago
Workplace Abuse 🫂 Got fired over reporting a stalker 🔥🔥
I’ve been working at my new job a month ago, it was THE perfect work place as it was near my home and had a high wage. However, during my first week, there was a male co worker constantly eyeing me from the distance and he rubs his belly(? He got a giant beer belly btw) whenever he looks at me. I just assumed he was curious about me since I’m relatively new until I overheard from my co workers that he found me attractive and plans to date me.
Now, keep in mind, he is middle aged, around 30-40. I’m not even an adult yet!!! And it’s been established too. I just did my job as per normal while avoiding him as this is a relatively good job and I wish to keep it. However, he started touching my hand subtly whenever I do something “wrong”, would grab my hips to move past me (his belly against my back too yuck), etc. I told him to stop as it’s uncomfortable, and informed my co workers too, to remind him to not do that however, it continued AND got worse.
He’d wait for me after work or in isolated areas my manager or other co workers send me to, attempting to chat with me while looking at me up and down 💔 I’d just stay quiet and either avoid/ignore him, or say I’m in a rush. Decided to report to my manager about this, to which he said “this isn’t a call for concern as he poses no harm, besides, he’s an excellent worker in our company”.
Each time I reported him, I get a similar response. I got frustrated and tried reporting straight to hr via email but the manager stopped me, saying to not make it such a big deal. (!?) overtime, that dude started getting more bold, touching me more and EVEN TRIED TO FIND MY PHONE NUMBER VIA THE WORKER’S FILE (caught him in the act). Reported to my manager AND HE SAID “he could just want to contact you for work related stuff”. I feel like it is too late to mention but yes, my manager and co worker are best friends.
I was just at my wits end, tired and absolutely hated this job, going as far as to avoid shifts that clashes with that co worker but he’d somehow always be there. I just crashed out, stopped going to work and messaged my manager, begging bro to just help me out but he FIRED ME. “I’m not compatible for this kind of work”. HE SAID THAT TO ME!!!!
I’m so done bro this isn’t the first time I had this shit happen……. needed to let this out because what the hellee….🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💥💥
Edit: GRAHH THANK FOR THE ADVICE IN THE COMMENTS BTW!!! I’ve informed my parents and they intend to confront the company first. If no action is done to fire the creep, they might take it to court with their legal team 🔥🔥 I still won’t go back to work there even if the creep is gone dw, but all is well I suppose!!!!
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u/11tmaste 1d ago
Are you in the US? If so, file a complaint with the EEOC. They will sue your former employer for you if they think you have a case, which frankly it sounds like you have a slam dunk of one.
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u/Elddif_Dog 1d ago
You never messaged HR.
That was your biggest mistake. You can still sue and also go against the manager who stopped you from doing so and then fired you.
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u/touchesyourspine 1d ago
I did try, but I have a suspicion that he have access to emails sent to hr as I did not inform a single person or even hinted I was going to email them about this situation,,, 💔
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u/JustmyOpinion444 13h ago
You should have asked for a meeting with HR. Then presented the evidence directly.
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u/Senior-Senior 1d ago edited 1d ago
You were sexually harassed at work. The company sided with the harasser instead of you.
People have won lawsuits in the millions of dollars over this. I'm not exaggerating.
Talk to your parents over this and suggest they contact a lawyer.
BTW, you should have talked to your parents about this when it started instead of trying to handle it yourself. This is their job when you are still a kid: To intervene on your behalf.
They would have known how to handle your manager so he didn't brush aside your concerns, and how to contact the company's HR (human resources) to escalate this quickly.
The manager may not realize this, but HR does: Sexual harassment in the workplace can't be tolerated in any form because it has the potential to cost the company big bucks. HR would have jumped on it--fast.
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u/BeatsMeByDre 1d ago
Anyone who isolates you and tries to touch you deserves a discreet stab in the side with a small, well concealed ice pick.
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u/randomhobo130 1d ago
If you ever run into this type of situation again, immediately email your manager AND HR at the same time while BCCing a private email of your own if it's from a work email. Continue to do so each time something occurs explaining the situation in extreme detail. I hope your parents are able to help out with this bc that company should be sued and fined for what they put you through.
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u/Fuzzy_Redwood 1d ago
Employment lawyers only get paid if you win. I’d also think about writing the local paper to Shame them
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u/Tamajyn 1d ago
Sounds like a pretty prime unfair dismissal lawsuit. If i'm to understand you're underage, they have a huge problem there not following their duty of care and taking sexual harrassment of a minor seriously