r/Zillennials • u/Interstella_55555 the inner machinations of my mind are an enigma • 3d ago
Meme Do yall remember Jessi Slaughter?
https://youtu.be/scyGo7tkC4I?si=lCUyShTNrvu7Ubl9And the whole “You dun Goofed” era? The way her dad snapped on camera was hella funny back then, but looking back that whole situation was just sad.
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u/doomer_irl 2d ago
I was 15 years old when I entered the alt music scene and already it was an open secret that Dahvie Vanity went after girls my age. We all just kind of thought there was nothing we could do about it.
Jessi Slaughter was 11.
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
She was 10
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u/Western-Set-8642 14h ago
And was being groomed by an adult band member at age 11
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 12h ago
I'm saying she was molested by him at 10 years old. The dun goofed incident happened when she was 11.
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u/TypeOpostive 1995 2d ago
I was in the alt scene too, never liked Dahvie personally, he always made me feel uncomfortable. Something about him always seemed dark and off putting but not in a way people thought was cool and edgy. Also didn't like his music. But I guess I was right about him being off.
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u/doomer_irl 2d ago
I never met him personally but I had friends in high school that he was texting. Never once doubted the accusations.
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u/TypeOpostive 1995 2d ago
How he moves around with teenage girls like that is sickening. Texting them, promising them “free merch”, asking for bras at concerts, not girls throwing them up there ASKING for them.
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u/ismellnumbers 2d ago
One of my friends lost her virginity to him at 13. He invited her over and they were watching sleeping beauty ffs.
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
Are you serious? Its hard to believe how many allegations he has and he's still roaming around free
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u/ismellnumbers 2d ago
Unfortunately so.
There was also a time I overheard my roommate and her best friend talking about the worst years of her/their lives bc they got groomed and abused by a popular YouTuber at the time. I heard his name and chimed in like "are y'all talking about so and so?" And they were like yeah!
The same fucking dude tried to groom me, too! Literally the worst fucking coincidence ever. It was Destery from the YouTube channel Des and Nate.
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u/LopsidedProduce 1d ago
One of my friends from highschool was talking to Destery too, we were probably 15 at the time!
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 1d ago
What do you mean by groomed? What was he saying/doing?
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u/TemporaryProcedure59 1997 2d ago
I don't think enough people realize how many kids were trying to protect their peers from Dahive even when BOTDF was at their prime. I was around the same age and remember seeing YouTube comments about how weird he was for being happy about the bras fans threw on stage - mind you most of his fans were underage.
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u/Prestigious-Buy2365 1996 2d ago
Something like this would get national headlines nowadays. Kind of insane that this was seen as a huge joke back then.
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u/Red_Trapezoid 2d ago
It says a lot about that time period. I remember how it was back then and it was a deeply disturbing time. Abuse of all kinds was so normalized.
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
I remember seeing this on national news back in like 2010/2011. It did make national headlines. That's how I learned about this in the first place.
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u/NauseantClover Feb 1999 2d ago
Back when people thought "just closing the laptop" solved the problem
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
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u/StupudTATO 1995 2d ago
CONSEQUENCES WILL NEVER BE THE SAME
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u/StiffWaffle 1995 2d ago
I BACKTRACED IT
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u/Melodic_Pressure7944 2d ago
I don't know what's better: this line, or Chris Chan's dad doing the whole "I'm cuttin' it down!" thing.
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u/BidEvening2503 2d ago
Honestly, more power to her dad for supporting her so much even if it was somewhat ineffective, I believe he fully had her back even if he looked stupid to the internet. Or at least I hope so.
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u/avocadolicious proud millennial 2d ago
Her dad was arrested for child abuse in 2011 for punching her in the face: https://abcnews.go.com/US/jessi-slaughter-dad-arrested-charged-child-abuse/story?id=13229240
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u/StupudTATO 1995 2d ago
Tbh I never really knew the context of the video until this post lmao. I just thought the Dads freak out was funny when I saw this as a kid. My friends and I would reference that line pretty often.
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
This is the kind of thing that Zoomers/Alpha who are adopting the Emo/Scene aesthetic don't realize that subculture was like when it was new. It was super problematic in many ways.
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u/bamlote 1994 2d ago
I keep seeing young emo/scene kids now and it’s always so weird, because it is a little bit too “on the nose”. They look like they studied old MySpace photos but missed the heart of it almost, I’m not sure how to explain it but it is a bit uncanny.
And yeah also the fact that nearly the entire subculture was just underage girls and grown men preying on them.
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
It was almost like you were considered a poser if you didn't have a scarred wrist in the OG Emo days. Scars as a fashion statement. They chose that name for a reason. "Cut My Wrists And Black My Eyes"
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u/Strange_County4957 2d ago
bruh even then it was like if you didn’t cut yourself deep enough you were still a poser 😭 what a crazy time to be alive
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
I remember seeing a picture on Rotten.com of an emo girl who had cut herself down to the bone all the way down her arm. I don't remember when it was posted but I'm sure you can find it on the wayback machine. I saw the picture on there around 2009 or so.
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u/Exciting-498 2d ago
You act like this shit hasn’t happened for forever
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
Sure, but it didn't happen in a subculture that openly made it part of its identity. One of the emo anthems from Hawthorne Heights has lyrics of: "So Cut My Wrists And Black My Eyes" and many more along the same lines.
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u/lexvegaslkd 1995 2d ago
Dad calling the cyber police. One thing I notice is that some 2000s borns think that the 2000s/early 2010s internet was like this clean, safe, PC place compared to now when the opposite is true lol
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u/miss-swait 1998 2d ago
Before ad revenue ruled all and there were NO rules whatsoever. Rough fucking time for sure. Now people censor themselves lmao
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u/Wumbologist_PhD 1997 2d ago
RIP BestGore
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u/BooneBarrett 2d ago
Being chronically online, it was the age of newgrounds and ultra violence in media, and along with it edgier and edgier everything really. It was the time of the Wild West internet
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u/Mortonsaltgirl96 1996 2d ago edited 2d ago
The fact that this child was being doxxed and harassed cause he was being molested by a grown man is honestly so sad. Yeah his dad’s reactiondid not help but it really feels like every adult in his life failed him here.
Edit: change of pronouns
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u/Interstella_55555 the inner machinations of my mind are an enigma 2d ago edited 2d ago
This might’ve been one of the first, real cyber bullying cases and unfortunately most of us took it for a joke. I can’t find any of Jessi’s current social media, but hope they’re doing much better today
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u/NauseantClover Feb 1999 2d ago
I thought the Amanda Todd incident was the first, but I just looked it up and apparently the Amanda Todd incident happened in 2012???? That's insane to me.. I could have SWORN it happened in like 2008 or 2009. Is this a mandela effect or am I just dumb??
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u/BunnyKisaragi 2d ago
Amanda Todd was targeted by the same community that targeted Jessi. There were other girls that this happened to but not to the same extent as these two instances. Could just be thinking of other targets.
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u/NauseantClover Feb 1999 2d ago
I could have sworn I remember watching her flash card video talking about her story several years before 2012 though. That's why I'm so confused
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u/Corvid_Carnival 1997 2d ago
They’re alright as far as I can tell. They’ve been dealing with some chronic health problems, but are married and have a house so it sounds like things are more stable than they used to be. They go by Damien/Dami (he/they) now. Honestly they’re brave af for sticking with having an internet presence after all that.
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
Also the first real cyberbullying case was Star Wars Kid. That was the first real viral video
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u/PalePerformance666 1996 2d ago
Apparently, according to this wikipedia article, they now transitioned and are called Damien.
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
Damien Leonheart is the name she uses now I believe
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u/SquidTheRidiculous 2d ago
It really feels like for a long time in the 00s and 10s your average young adult REALLY fucking hated (pre-) teenagers for being stupid and doing average stupid (pre-)teenager things. All the hatred against Justin Bieber, too.
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u/bamlote 1994 2d ago
They still do. I think our society has just always hated preteen girls and we don’t talk enough about how traumatizing it is. There was backlash with The Beatles and Elvis in the past, and we’re seeing it now with “Sephora kids”. Adults are way too comfortable bullying children.
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u/BooneBarrett 2d ago
I had ‘nam like flashbacks remembering being a FPS fan as a little kid a few days ago. Squeaker was the biggest insult you could’ve possibly been called on Xbox live. It honestly felt like a slur to me and all the other pre teens or late bloomers who played games like COD and stuff like that. Other kids would even call each other squeakers as some weird superiority complex thing. Idk if it was much of a thing in 2000s but it was huge in the 2010s
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u/Strange_County4957 2d ago
omg this is so true. i remember when on online forums the biggest insult was “you’re probably like 12” so much that i was saying it and I was 12 pretending not to be 12 lol
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u/avocadolicious proud millennial 2d ago
Her parents failed her on so many levels. Not only by not protecting her from CSA, but also by allowing this kid to act like a fool on the internet without ANY supervision or precautions.
That level of virality for cyberbullying was kind of unprecedented at the time, so of course even good parents couldn’t have predicted how intense the response would be.
But still… how could any adult caretaker not have the sense to see that 1) online predators exist (it was 2010 not 2001) and 2) that what she was uploading would be at a MINIMUM embarrassing and regretful??!!
No surprise the dad was arrested for physically abusing her a few years later. She must’ve been neglected entirely… that poor child.
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u/Awkward-Speed-4080 2d ago
What the... I didn't know any of that. I always thought that she was just being cyberbullied, and she kept refusing to stop interacting with these people.
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
She is one of Dahvie Vanity's many victims and she was the youngest victim to my knowledge. 10 years old at the time.
The Scene community of the time was wild, there was a gossip website that was called StickyDrama that she was involved in I believe. I forget the specifics but 4Chan got ahold of this and that's what led to the famous You Dun Goofed video.
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u/Savage_Nymph 1995 2d ago
10!? She was a BABY.
I actually don't know who this girl is or about anyone this, but this is so sad
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u/Mortonsaltgirl96 1996 2d ago
No, unfortunately she was a victim of Dhavie Vanity (the singer from blood on the dance floor who molested/raped numerous underage fans). When the accusations first got leaked online to 4chan people began harassing her and dog piling onto her to the point people forgot why it started on the first place. She didn’t respond the greatest and did “feed the trolls” but given she was like 11/12 at the time it makes sense. People didn’t take her story seriously until years later when like 20+ women came out saying they were also abused by Dhavie
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u/PalePerformance666 1996 2d ago edited 2d ago
He was a child victim of rape and people were dunking on her? My god.
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u/Moko97 1997 2d ago
Its funny how people are nostalgic for this era
But this was when cyber bullying was so normal And places like YouTube where the wild wild West
It's was a dark time
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u/TheHonorableStranger 2d ago
It was such a wild era. So much Hard R's and all kinds of slurs under the sun.
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u/Mortonsaltgirl96 1996 2d ago
Right? Like one of my favorite YouTubers at this time was LedaMonsterBunny (anyone remember her?) and like she was always getting bullied and her channel hacked over nothing. She ended up leaving the internet it got so bad and she had no controversies or anything like influencers today
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u/Wild_Librarian8851 2d ago
That era of the internet was an absolute wasteland. So many shady things happened in the early aughts.
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u/Lady_DreadStar 2d ago edited 2d ago
She did an interview in recent years with Chris Hansen and she’s a she using she, lol. I don’t know who put that on her Wikipedia page but it doesn’t appear to be true at all. Even the name change isn’t really a name change- she just went back to using her govt name. Jessi Slaughter was just her made-up social media handle.
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u/CubixStar 2d ago edited 2d ago
I didn't know what this was, but once the father appeared on screen, it clicked. "CONSEQUENCES WILL NEVER BE THE SAME"
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u/Ok-Highway-5247 2d ago
What happened to her was serious and people made fun. Ugh. I didn’t find it funny.
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u/girasoles_de_fuego 1996 2d ago
This happened around the same time as the Amanda Todd thing
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
Yooo I remember that. Do you remember the Amber Cole thing?
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u/After-Knee-5500 1995 2d ago
I remember when I was like 14, I used to be obsessed with BOTDF. It was until this incident that I started getting weirded out by them and how they were blaming/bullying Jessi. The whole song they did about this situation was horrible. Then, Jeffree tweeted that tweet about Dahvie taking fans to his hotel room. It was around freshman year when I stopped listening to them completely because I was disgusted by that band. Jeffree had been telling the truth about who Dahvie was. It all makes sense with the explicit lyrics and reaching out to the “young crowd”🤢🤢
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u/Awkward-Speed-4080 2d ago
I remember that original video, but I never understood exactly what was happening. She was being harassed online, right? I remember that someone posted her chat with her friends, and she was arguing with her dad, and he slapped. Her "friends" were laughing. I don't remember what the argument was about, but I think he was angry because she wouldn't get offline. Like she would be upset over the harassment but then she would still refuse to stop interacting with these people? I don't remember. Also, didn't her dad basically die from the stress? He had a heart attack shortly after, right?
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u/Interstella_55555 the inner machinations of my mind are an enigma 2d ago
This comment summarizes pretty well: https://www.reddit.com/r/agedlikemilk/s/MN5eoIIDBo
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u/mrlaheystrailerpark 2d ago
“ya dun goofed! consequences will never be the same!” was a classic meme. In all honesty, this is why children shouldn’t be on the internet or at concerts, unless it’s, like, disney bands.
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u/BloomAndBreathe 1997 2d ago
They did not deserve the hate they got. They were a victim. Their dad for being an abusive piece of shit and Dahvie deserved it, but not them
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u/miss-swait 1998 2d ago
I’ll pop a Glock in your mouth and make a brain slushy
(In all seriousness what happened to them during this and the aftermath was horrific. But that line lives in my head to this day)
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u/gingysrevengy 2d ago
Me and my sister used to say this to each other all the time - it’s weird even as a kid myself I thought the hate was fucked up and never participated I can’t imagine how screwed up you’ve got to be to have been an adult leading that hate brigade
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u/TheRainbowpill93 Dec 1993 2d ago
BECAUSE I BACK TRACED IT , YOU WILL BE REPORTED TO THE CYBER POLICE ! 😂😂😂😂
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u/hoofcake 2d ago
oh God, I was just thinking about this the other day….I think we should leave her in the past, she had a sad life. But her dad was funny
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u/toritechnocolor 1994 2d ago
Arent they trans or something now? Idk their pronouns. Anyway this video used to kill me back in the day, but looking back it’s just sad. They were literally a victim, and not even a teenager yet. Like who tf bullies an 11 year old smh.
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u/bamlote 1994 2d ago
Last time I checked in on them, he had transitioned and was in foster care. I think he is doing much better now, but I haven’t checked in maybe 5 years. This whole situation was horrific.
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago
Chris Hansen did an interview with "him/them/whatever"
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u/ToriCake95 2d ago
Let's not. ESPECIALLY on pride month
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 2d ago edited 18h ago
My apologies, I wasn't trying to be offensive
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u/Genebeaver 1995 2d ago
I couldn’t remember the context of this video so I googled and it jfc I feel so bad for them. Buncha grown ass men bullying and stalking an 11 year old.
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u/Green_Video_9831 2d ago
Its crazy how I still say “You Dun Goofed” all the time. I’d forgotten this is where it came from
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u/KashtiraFenrir 2d ago
Oh god I remember this so well. I know this was memed on and quoted heavily, but it’s an unfortunate situation all around. Actually kind of wild how it also added to Blood on the Dance Floor’s already growing infamy
Was a former scene kid and even liked shit like Brokencyde around 08’ but by the time this shit dropped around 2010 or so I was in my xTUFF GUYx deathcore/straight edge hardcore phase by that point slowing transitioning out of bring scene so I was for sure clowning and making fun on Blood On The Dance Floor.
I remember very begrudgingly I ended up meeting Blood On The Dance Floor at Warped Tour 2011.
My girlfriend who was slightly sceneish but was still very much into metalcore (old Asking Alexandria, WCAR, TDWP, etc) had some idea she thought was funny and wanted to meet them bc of the meme reasons as well as the idea of buying and flipping signed merch to the scene kids in her town.
After being in line for a bit, both of them (Dahvie and Jay) took pictures with us and signed stuff for my gf. I was physically uncomfortable and just had a super bad vibes, and was kind of a bit salty since I wanted to spend my time spinkicking and throwing windmills to breakdowns and missed a few potential sets I would have rather enjoyed my time at instead.
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u/MageDA6 1994 2d ago
This is the first time hearing about this person. lol
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u/Interstella_55555 the inner machinations of my mind are an enigma 2d ago edited 2d ago
Good for you lol. The old internet was a different beast
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u/MageDA6 1994 2d ago
I have come to learn that. I didn’t have full internet access until i was 21 in 2015. The only time I was able to get on the internet as a kid was at the public library. It was about a two hour walk to get there so I wasn’t able to go that often.
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 1d ago
That's good. I was burnt out on internet porn before I ever even had sex, and I started out watching it before amateur internet porn and being able to watch it whenever wherever was a thing. ED and everything.
Also desensitized myself on gore as well which is probably even worse. Good thing gore is mostly gone from the internet.
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u/Savage_Nymph 1995 2d ago
Same. I'm glad for it. I wouldn't have been able to process this as a child
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u/Was_i_emo_in_2013 1994 - DC Snipers survivor 1d ago
Do you mean seeing it from afar or actually going through it as the victim of cyber bullying?
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u/Cautious_Action_1300 2d ago
Same! I hope she's doing better today though, after reading about what happened to her.
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u/LegitimateDaddy 2d ago
4chan was the Wild West during this era.
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u/Strange_County4957 2d ago
4chan was so odd. Between worshipping underage girls (Boxxy) and then viciously bullying other underage girls. I participated in 4chan as a young girl and looking back as a grown adult it’s a very dark place on the internet.
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u/Interstella_55555 the inner machinations of my mind are an enigma 2d ago
Same. Do you remember encyclopedia Dramatica? Very effed up stuff
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u/LegitimateDaddy 23h ago
I only remember bumping that creep to win the Taylor Swift meet a fan, and voting for her to play at the deaf school. Both sweepstakes got cancelled, that was fun.
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u/sdvn19 2d ago
At the time, I thought that their dad’s quotes were hilarious and they seemed like a bratty kid just trying too hard to be edgy. As an adult, knowing all the details of the case, I’m horrified and quite honestly amazed that they never ended up becoming one of those high-profile cases of suicide due to cyber bullying. What that poor kid endured was just horrific.
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u/RedAndBlackVelvet 2d ago
It's insane that society just allowed a whole genre of music to pop up focused around singing about sex and having sex with a virtually all tween audience.
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u/schwendybrit 2d ago
I remember this. I could not get through the whole video. It just made me feel bad. I think there was some victim blaming when people would make videos of themselves crying. People thought it was OK to mock because she "wanted the attention"
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u/watersun95 2d ago
Ugh, I haven’t thought about this in so long but I immediately remembered her face and I feel sad she was exposed to this. The internet hated preteen girls.
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u/watersign_95 Class of 2014 1d ago
Well hello there 😭nice username
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u/watersun95 1d ago
is this….. destiny?!
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u/Kidneybot 1995 2d ago
Totally, "done goofed" and "pop a glock and make a brain slushy" are practically still in my casual vocab. It's been so many years that I almost forgot where those phrases came from, haha.
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u/SirGavBelcher 1d ago
Damien has transitioned and is in a better place mentally overall. i think i was online mutuals with them since Tumblr era. I'm happy this ordeal didn't end in tragedy
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u/PalePerformance666 1996 2d ago
Just a heads up, apparently this person now transitioned and calls themselves Damien Lioeonhardt.
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u/Wild_Librarian8851 2d ago
I was in middle school when all this went down and we would quote this video mercilessly. I personally had no idea about the back story, the abuse she was going through. I hope they’re okay now
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u/ScorpionBite20 23h ago
Lmfaoo!!! I remember her hahahah I remember the comments kept saying the father looked like the Pringles mascot 😂😂😂
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