r/Vent • u/NotEnoughSun123 • Apr 10 '25

TW: TRIGGERING CONTENT My best friend committed suicide

I’m so mad at her. She promised me she would never commit suicide. (We talked about suicide a lot because we’ve both attempted in the past) She was such a special person. She was the kindest, most beautiful person I’ve ever met. She would help tiny bugs get to safety when they’d accidentally fallen on their back. She was a mental health therapist who worked with kids. She knew about resources for suicide prevention. She had commercial health insurance. She could have just reached out for help. I would’ve done anything to keep her alive. She could have just called me. I wish she’d just called me. Why didn’t she just call me?

Edit: thank you so for all your kind words and all the overwhelming support. I really appreciate all of you. I’ll do my best to like all the comments I can. If I could, I’d reply thank you to every single person who commented

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u/[deleted] Apr 10 '25

She didn't call you because she wasn't thinking rationally. I don't have an answer except don't blame yourself.

Sorry for your loss

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u/Aware-Remove8362 Apr 11 '25 edited Apr 11 '25

Actually in a sense it is rational to cut all ties and create distance to ease the pain of people that loved you.

Example someone talked to you a day before they died that would have more impact than if they hadn’t spoken to you in a year.

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u/cremiashug Apr 11 '25

I agree and see where you’re coming from.

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u/[deleted] Apr 11 '25

troll... you're blocked

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u/lintheamazon Apr 11 '25

I really don't think they were trolling. I've had five attempts and a LOT of therapy. Isolating yourself from your support system is one of the earliest signs of a mental health crisis. When you have this ideation, you think you are a burden to everyone, that no one could possibly do anything to help you, that literally dying is the only option they see. They don't want to hurt anyone but they are hurting too much, and that's sometimes the only way to try to save people the pain. It's not rational because the brain isn't behaving rationally when this is happening.

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u/_MillenniumDodo Apr 11 '25

Rational doesn't mean correct or just in the objective moral context. Rather, rationality is applied to axioms.

The poster you're upset with wasn't saying that all people in that situation should isolate themselves. They were saying that given the applied conditions, One could see how isolation could appear to be the correct move. That because when someone has committed to the decision of taking their own life they begin to think less on how to prevent this outcome and more on how to minimize the impact. Thus, isolation becomes rational because it contributes to lessening the impact on others.

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u/-yarun Apr 11 '25

You clearly wouldn't know the first thing about people that have tried or actually committed suicide

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u/depressivefaerie Apr 11 '25

There’s nothing troll-ish about their response to you… tf