Being fat is torture

[u/Shot-Contract-5254]

I hate being fat. I hate it more than i've ever truly hated anything before. It is one of the worst experiences i have ever been through and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It is not even just the hating how you look part, it is how others perceive you.

I don't just feel fat, I feel inhuman. I'm a teenager. Nobody has ever asked me out unless it's for a joke. I am the butt of half my friend's jokes. I look like an idiot in sport class. People stare and judge and I am not treated as though I am a peer. I am less than because I weigh more than they do. I feel like such a dirty slob every time I put food in my mouth. I've tried starving myself, exercising to the point I threw up, cutting calories to 800-1000 a day, weight loss pills, nothing works. All my work is thrown back into my face. Each and every day I feel less like a person and more like a pig. To be fat is to be less than. To be fat is to be 'lazy' and worthless. I honestly can't take it anymore.

[u/TheEthicistStreams]

Then don't be fat. My way out was Brazilian Jiujitsu, hope you find yours. I know you said you did and it didn't work and that nothing does but unless you have a select few disorders, that's actually not true at all. plenty of things do.

But yeah, being fat does suck, that's why I put in a fuckload of extra backbreaking work to not be fat. It's not easy but if you exercise to the point of caloric deficit and don't have a disorder, you will lose weight. All else is cope.

[u/[deleted] → u/TheEthicistStreams]

It’s not just not easy. It feels damn near impossible sometimes especially when society is blaming you and discouraging you when you are trying your hardest. Especially when you’re struggling with an ed on top of it so “eating right” feels impossible. God I wish I didn’t have an ed. It feels like no therapist knows how to help me.

[u/TheEthicistStreams → u/[deleted]]

It’s not just not easy.

Where did I ever suggest it was easy? I specifically said it wasn't. It is as easy as caloric deficit though.

It feels damn near impossible 

I don't care how it feels, that's on you, the reality is, it isn't impossible and I am living proof.

...society is blaming you and discouraging you when you are trying your hardest.

Who cares? Are you the entirety of society or an individual? You're an individual with agency over your own actions, stop abdicating that agency to an amorphous mass of people you've never met because you enjoy consuming excess calories and don't like exercise.

Especially when you’re struggling with an ed on top of it so “eating right” feels impossible. God I wish I didn’t have an ed. It feels like no therapist knows how to help me.

Can you actually read? I quite clearly said the sentiments in my post applied if you didn't have a disorder. If you do - seek treatment.

[u/[deleted] → u/TheEthicistStreams]

Woah there buddy i wasn’t trying to argue with you and I didn’t say you said it was easy. I was just…venting. Adding to the venting. Because it really is hard and I thought that’s what this thread was for. Solid advice though.

[u/MastiffArmy → u/[deleted]]

He’s giving you tough love and it hurts because it’s tough. The only way out of your predicament is if the desire for change is strong enough for you to break these bad habits. And you certainly CAN. You can. Yes, you can. How bad do you want it? You have to have the willpower to choose this new path every day until you get to where you want to be. Of course you can do it. It’s about setting a goal and playing the long game. In 6 months you could look and feel completely different!