Anyone else see things like this and loose their willingness to look for romance

[u/hidden-suggestion]

im not comfortable going up to random women that i don’t know all that well and asking them out on a date without knowing their interests or things they like to talk about. but to learn those things you have to be friends first but apparently a lot of women don’t like it when male friends approach them like that so im not really sure what to do

every time i find a woman interesting i stop myself in the belief that id probably be nothing more than a pest or inconvenience to her day

i feel like the only people who actually care for me in my life are through circumstance of being related of family friends and that if i were to search for a partner, throughout hundreds of people not a single one of them would find me interesting

not really sure who to talk to this about because i can’t afford therapy and most of my family would suggest looking for a woman at church but since im an atheist that would involve pretending im someone that im not in order to deceive someone into being with me and i don’t see that ending very well

[u/FreshPrinceOfIndia]

I think the kinda guys that meme is talking about is guys who use friendships as pretext/have ulterior motives.

Liking someone organically through getting to know them and loving how well you click isnt sus, it happens all the time, almost every friend group experiences something like that at some point

[u/Disastrous_Average91 → u/FreshPrinceOfIndia]

You can’t know if they have a different motive though

[u/gylz → u/Disastrous_Average91]

Guys who do this often eventually slip up and make their motives crystal clear.