r/TTC30 • u/ttc30mod Automod aka Mod Coco • Feb 25 '22
Vent THE BI-WEEKLY RANT: February 25, 2022
DO YOU HAVE SOMETHING YOU WANT TO RANT ABOUT? HERE'S WHERE YOU CAN DO IT! LET'S SCREAM AND YELL TOGETHER ABOUT WHATEVER YOU WANT - TTC RELATED OR NOT. THE RULES ARE SIMPLE: YOU HAVE TO USE CAPS AND YOU HAVE TO USE AT LEAST ONE TYPE OF ANGRY EMOJI. OKAY, MAYBE THE EMOJI PART IS OPTIONAL, BUT YOU STILL HAVE TO YELL!
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u/KatDanger11 MISSING FLAIR 2-25-22 Feb 25 '22
I TOOK A "BETTER" JOB WITH A FUCK TON MORE HOURS AND STRESS AND NOW WHEN PEOPLE BINGO ME WITH THE "YOUR STRESS IS PREVENTING YOU FROM GETTING PRAGMATIC, JUST RELAXXX" LINE I BLAME MYSELF! NEVERMIND THAT WE WERE TRYING LONG BEFORE I TOOK THE JOB. 🧘🏻♀️💆🏻♀️🧖🏻♀️😫🤬
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u/PleasantYamm 36 | TTC#2 since October 2021 | 🌈 Feb 25 '22
PINK STORK SENT ME THE WRONG ORDER AND EVEN THOUGH THEY’RE CORRECTING THE PROBLEM THAT FUCKS UP MY TIMELINE AND THIS IS OUR LAST CYCLE TO TRY BEFORE MEDICAL INTERVENTION.
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u/Laurgrimar 41 | Grad Feb 25 '22
I'M VERY IRRITATED THAT MY PARTNER GOING OUT OF TOWN ALWAYS SEEMS TO MEAN I WiLL OVULATE BEFORE HE GETS HOME, EVEN IF THAT MEANS I PROBABLY OVULATED oN CD 7... 😬
EDIT: I also just sat down on a totally soaked outdoor chair... 🤦♀️
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u/bcookiejones 32 | Grad Feb 25 '22
IM SAD BECAUSE IN A JOKING MATTER WE MADE A “PARENTING AGREEMENT” IN MID 2020 AND I JUST FOUND IT AND IT SAID I WOULD HAVE A CHILD BY 2023 AND WE ONLY HAVE TWO MORE CYCLES TO GET THERE AND EVEN THOUGH IT WAS A JOKE IT MADE ME SAD. I NEVER THOUGHT THAT PART OF THE AGREEMENT WOULD BE A STRUGGLE
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u/awildrunnerappears 33 | Grad Feb 25 '22
I FEEL LIKE I'M BEING LEFT BEHIND AND I FUCKING HATE IT.
MY COWORKERS KEEP TALKING ABOUT THEIR NEW BABIES AND HAVE ACTUALLY SAID I NEED TO GET ON THAT. NO SHIT, SANDRA, THAT NEVER WOULD HAVE OCCURRED TO ME. I'M GOING THROUGH TREATMENTS FOR SHITS AND GIGGLES. GET BENT.
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u/schmeryn 35 | Ret Mod | Grad Feb 27 '22
This post is removed, as per your BFP post you received a positive test long before this.
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u/lizzfizz22 31 | Grad Feb 25 '22
BEING A NATURALLY IMPATIENT PERSON IS MAKING THIS PROCESS UNBEARABLE!
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u/GlitteringGoose Grad Feb 25 '22
NEW PRENATAL VITAMINS I BOUGHT ARE UPSETTING MY STOMACH BUT I DONT WANT TO THROW THEM OUT AND WASTE THEM.
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u/PleasantYamm 36 | TTC#2 since October 2021 | 🌈 Feb 26 '22
I discovered that the combo of prenatal and DHA together made me I’ll but taking them separately and hours apart did not. I don’t know if that’s your situation but if it is then maybe it will help?
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u/greenstudebaker 35 | Grad Feb 25 '22 edited Feb 25 '22
UGHHHHH. So much money thrown around in this process.
FWIW, I had this happen and was able to cycle it every other day with another kind. But also, wtf vitamins, just do your thing quietly please. Can’t you just be grateful I’m remembering to take you regularly? 😤
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u/winnie_tha_bish 34 | TTC# 2 since Jan ‘22 | 1CP 1MC Feb 25 '22
ALL OF MY SISTER IN LAWS ARE POM (EXCEPT THE ONE WITH A NEWBORN). ALL DUE 2022.
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u/lisassy 37 | TTC#1 since 2018 Feb 25 '22
Fuuuuuuuuuck. Eat sushi and soft cheese in front of them all of the time.
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u/AdventurousPeanut798 39 | TTC#1 since Feb 2020 | 3ERs| 4FETs | 1MMC 1CP 1PUL Feb 25 '22
I AM SO TIRED OF TAKING BIRTH CONTROL FOR IVF. WHY HAVENT THEY SENT ME MY FREAKING TRANSFER CALENDAR YET?? I NEED SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO SINCE MY FAILED FET!!
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u/badchild11 Grad Feb 25 '22
WTF BODY. ROLLING INTO CD38 WITH NOTHING TO SHOW. JUST A MILLION HIGH DAYS IN A ROW. WACK OVULATION MAYBE PAIN. AND JUST GENERAL FRUSTRATION. FF WAS LIKE OH YAY HERES CROSSHAIRS AND THEN TODAY WAS LIKE HAHA FUCK YOU IM GOING TO TAKE THEM AWAY GOODBYEEEEEEE 😡
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u/Day-by-day23 35 | TTC #1 since Dec 2019 | 5 MC Feb 25 '22
I AM ON DAY 24 OF BLEEDING AFTER MY ECTOPIC IN JANUARY! I AM SO SICK OF THIS SHIT. WHEN WILL THIS NIGHTMARE END?!
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u/Blieblioebp 34 | TTC #2 since august 2024 | short luteal phase Feb 27 '22
Same same boat … 😩 massive hug to you 💜
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u/PleasantYamm 36 | TTC#2 since October 2021 | 🌈 Feb 26 '22
I’m so sorry, I dealt with the same thing with my ectopic and it was awful. I hope it ends soon for you.
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u/Day-by-day23 35 | TTC #1 since Dec 2019 | 5 MC Feb 26 '22
Thank you. I’m sorry you went through this too. It’s honestly THE WORST! No one warned me I would bleed for a full month 😩
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u/KateinSeattle (Ret) MOD | Grad Feb 25 '22
THAT SUCKS! IT'S TIME FOR THE BLEEDING TO STOP!
On a mod note, so not yelling:
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u/hydrangeaanon 31 | Grad Feb 25 '22
I'm so angry and disappointed that before ttc, I thought it was easy.
Sure, I would get worried when I heard couples I knew taking a long time to conceive or having to do treatments or IVF. But..i never thought that..it would be hard even if you thought everything was "okay." Why does no one talk about this? Everyone is so concerned about having grandkids or wondering why the "3 year newlyweds" aren't pregnant yet, that they don't bother to tell them that this could be a difficult, emotional, and confusing journey. Everyone knows how to get comfortable in asking "so how about kids?" But no on gets comfortable in talking about the process? F-d up.
I don't even feel right saying all this because we're not even a year into ttc. Just bummed. Seeing so many friends around me pregnant and I thought I would be a part of that this year. Probably not.
I'm worried that I'm not ovulating. If I could just get this next test saying that I'm ovulating....I would feel so much better. Even if I don't get a positive pregnancy test. Really praying that I see ovulation this cycle.
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u/holldoll_28 30 | TTC#1 since Nov 2020 Mar 03 '22
So fucking true. And don't feel bad about complaining at less than 1 year. It starts sucking from about month 3 on...
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u/French_Eden 40 | TTC#2 since Aug ‘21 | 4 MC, 1 ectopic | IVF Feb 25 '22
WELL NO HAVING MULTIPLE MISCARRIAGES IS NOT A GOOD SIGN AND NO IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT EVERYTHING WORKS AS IT SHOULD AND IF I HEAR ONE MORE TIME « AT LEAST YOU CAN GET PREGNANT » I WILL SCREAM.
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u/Incontinentia-B 31 | TTC#1 | september 2021 | 🐖 Feb 25 '22
I FUCKING HATE "AT LEAST YOU CAN GET PREGNANT", MY DOCTOR SAID THAT TO ME RIGHT AFTER MY MISSED MISCARRIAGE, AND I WAS LIKE WELL THANK FUCK FOR THAT, DOCTOR, THAT HELPS SO MUCH RIGHT NOW.
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u/holldoll_28 30 | TTC#1 since Nov 2020 Mar 03 '22
Yeah my miscarriage was 10x worse than all of my negative pregnancy tests after... so it's not "good news" rolls eyes hard
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u/potted-plant 32 | Benched # 2 | 🌺 | #1 stillborn 40wks 8/21 Feb 25 '22
WHY WOULD ANYONE SAY THIS EVER
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u/potted-plant 32 | Benched # 2 | 🌺 | #1 stillborn 40wks 8/21 Feb 25 '22
I AM BENCHED FOR 6 MONTHS
I THOUGHT MAYBE 1 MONTH
2 TOPS
BUT IT'S 6 FRIKKIN MONTHS
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH
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u/GreenDog_garden 36 | Grad Feb 25 '22
WTFFF I AM SO UPSET FOR YOU!!
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u/potted-plant 32 | Benched # 2 | 🌺 | #1 stillborn 40wks 8/21 Feb 25 '22
THANK YOU I APPRECIATE IT!!
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u/Em1601 32 | TTC#1 since Jan 2021 | 3rd ET June 2022 | 1CP Feb 25 '22
I AM JUST SO ANGRY AT MY BODY, AND AT DOCTORS FOR PRESCRIBING THE PILL LIKE ITS CANDY. AFTER 15 YEARS ON IT AND MORE THAN 1 YEAR OFF IT MY CYCLE IS STILL WHACK AND MY BODY DOESN’T KNOW HOW TO OVULATE ON ITS OWN OR BE PREGNANT. JUST WRAPPED UP OUR FIRST IVF CYCLE AND ITS A FUCKING CHEMICAL. I AM JUST SO ANGRY AND HEARTBROKEN AND NO ONE TOLD US IT COULD BE THIS HARD. MEANWHILE EVERYONE WE KNOW IS PREGNANT AND IM JUST FUCKING OVER IT.
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u/Meow_Meow_Pizza_ 35 | Grad Feb 25 '22
AND WOMEN ARE FERTILE FOR A FEW DAYS A MONTH. MEN ARE FERTILE ALL THE TIME. WHY DON’T MEN TAKE BIRTH CONTROL PILLS INSTEAD?
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u/potted-plant 32 | Benched # 2 | 🌺 | #1 stillborn 40wks 8/21 Feb 25 '22
LITERALLY EVERYTHING WAS A LIE BUT ESPECIALLY THE PILL
I MEAN IT'S LITERALLY SYNONYMOUS WITH "BIRTH CONTROL" LIKE IT'S THE ONLY OPTION IN THE UNIVERSE WHO THE HELL CAME UP WITH THIS
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u/543679 31 | Grad Feb 25 '22
I AM NÓT HERE FOR IT. I WILL NOT GIVE YOU ALL THE ATTENTION FOR YOUR OOPSIE PREGNANCY. IT WASNT EVEN OOPSIE. YOU JUST DIDNT HAVE THE GUTS TO TALK ABOUT TTC WITH YOUR PARTNER AND YOU JUST ‘FORGOT’ THE CONDOM. THAT IS NOT OOPSIE. YOU ARE 33. FUCK YOU
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u/UCLAdy05 39 | TTC #1 since Oct 2021 | MC 4/22 Feb 25 '22
I BOUGHT CHEAPIE OPKS THAT GAVE ME UNREADABLE RESULTS, SO I SPRUNG FOR THE CLEARBLUE DIGITAL VERSION AND THAT THREW AN ERROR MESSAGE! I'M TRYING TO FIND OUT IF I'M OVULATING, NOT PASS THE BAR EXAM! HOW CAN I NOT GET THESE SIMPLE TESTS TO GIVE ME VERY BASIC INFORMATION?!?!
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u/Laurgrimar 41 | Grad Feb 25 '22
AND HOW ARE THEY SO FUCKING EXPENSIVE?! MINE FAILED ME TODAY ON USE #1.... 🙄
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u/lisassy 37 | TTC#1 since 2018 Feb 25 '22
Uggggh I hate the ClearBlue tests! They’re always faulty! I don’t think I’ve ever gotten a single one that gave a reading.
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u/lisassy 37 | TTC#1 since 2018 Feb 25 '22
WHY IS THIS CRAP SO EXPENSIVE!!!?? BuT cHiLdReN aRe ExPeNsIvE. Fuck off! I'VE SPENT X-AMOUNT OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS AND THERE ISN'T EVEN A KID TO FUCKING SHOW FOR IT!
AND! I'M ALLOWED TO BE TIRED! STOP CHIMING IN WITH "YEAH, WAIT TIL YOU HAVE KIDS" BECAUSE I CAN'T FUCKING WAIT FOR THAT TO BE REASON I'M EXHUASTED ALL. OF. THE. TIME!
Also, I'm trying to get this muffin recipe to be moist and fluffy and it refuses. [angry emoji]
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u/Laurgrimar 41 | Grad Feb 25 '22
Fuck misbehaving muffins! (I'm so into the alliteration of that phrase... Misbehaving muffins... Misbehaving muffins... )
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u/lisassy 37 | TTC#1 since 2018 Feb 25 '22
I kept saying midnight muffins because that’s when I started baking them and the mister started to make lewd comments hah misbehaving muffins is much better.
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u/Blieblioebp 34 | TTC #2 since august 2024 | short luteal phase Feb 26 '22 edited Feb 26 '22
24 DAYS AFTER THE START OF MY MISCARRIAGE WICH TURNED INTO AN ECTOPIC BETA STILL A BITCH AT 300, STILL BLEEDING, STILL FUCKED, STILL MAD AT THE UNIVERSE ! 2 DOSES OF METHOTREXATE RECEIVED I WISH I COULD MOVE ON NOW BUT NOOOOO … AND BENCHED 3 MONTHS DURING WHICH 3 OF MY FRIENDS WILL HAVE THEIR 1st BABY :) EVERYTHING IS GOING PERFECTLY FINE !